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To actually feel sorry for the woman driving the car in the Wimbledon car accident

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bagpuss90 · 06/07/2024 16:44

I’m sure I’ll be flamed here . I totally sympathise with the bereaved parents- I can’t stress that enough. I can understand them wanting justice . As we know the driver of the car suffered an epileptic seizure at the wheel - she had no history of epilepsy. I don’t see what she could have done differently. She has to live with what she did although it wasn’t her fault. AIBU to feel quite sorry for her ?

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WiddlinDiddlin · 07/07/2024 16:15

Enough with the 'if it was a smaller car'...

No, a smaller car in a similar sort of crash - foot flat to the floor as a seizure would almost certainly cause - would NOT have done significantly less damage.

What about this Seat Leon through the side of a house? https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-sussex-56602502

Much smaller car but do you think two small victims sat in front of that wall would have survived?

Even our small cars are heavy lumps of metal, vs our own much smaller squishy bodies.

Car hits house in Burgess Hill

Burgess Hill crash: Car ploughs into house after smashing into lamp-post

A woman is held on suspicion of drink-driving and criminal damage after the crash in West Sussex.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-sussex-56602502

Longma · 07/07/2024 16:13

*Would a Punto have mounted the kerb, gone through the fencing and continued at sufficient velocity to take out 2 children before they had the chance to react and move?

Arguably, had she been driving a Punto those 2 precious children would be alive 😡*

Very likely yes, if during the seizure her foot was clamped to the accelerator as was the case in my friend's car during his seizure. Very sadly the same result would have happened regardless.

marigoldandrose · 07/07/2024 16:11

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:32

Well, as I said earlier, if I were the parents and saw this woman driving again…..

Morally this woman should not get behind the wheel of a car ever again.

Why don't you make it clear to us all what you would do?

Longma · 07/07/2024 16:10

Bibblebobblebibble · 07/07/2024 14:40

What could she have done differently? Not driven an irresponsibly large tank of a car. No need for that in an urban area.

If she had been driving a regular sized family car, the fence would have likely slowed down the vehicle enough for the little girls to get out of the way.

#banSUVsinurbanareas

Did you miss the previous post about a Nissan micro knocking down the wall of a house in a medical incident.

My friend's very normal average saloon car would have been capable of such damage and injury had it hit something before dh could stop the car. His foot was called to the accelerator during the seizure, so it's unlikely any fencing or wall would have slowed down the vehicle sadly. I suspect it would be the same here.

And like it or not, these cars are legal to own and drive on our roads. She was not doing anything wrong is driving the car under our current laws.

Longma · 07/07/2024 16:06

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:35

And I am surprised at, yes, the very vigorous defending of the driver. Almost brushing off the fact that two little girls were crushed to death.

It's it that I'm defending the driver as such. Just that if this was a medical incident, as it appears to be, then there is no crime. It was a very tragic accident.

And having a friend have a similar medical incident whilst driving - with my own dh sat in the front passenger seat - I can see how this could happen to anyone.

Longma · 07/07/2024 16:04

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:09

Do those vigorously defending the driver believe that she should be able to drive again, should no further seizures take place for the legal period of time?

My friend now drives after the legal amount of time of being seizure free. Since taking medication he hasn't had another seizure and it's been several years now. He drives daily now, ever had an accident or incident since and is entitled to do so.

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 15:47

Bibblebobblebibble · 07/07/2024 15:40

Would a Punto have mounted the kerb, gone through the fencing and continued at sufficient velocity to take out 2 children before they had the chance to react and move?

Arguably, had she been driving a Punto those 2 precious children would be alive 😡

Yes, it actually could have done.

A punto weighs over a ton.

what do you ‘ arguably’? We could to through every other car and it could have ‘arguably’ been a better out come or worse outcome. We could argue that she should have been riding a bike

we could argue that a punto may have flipped and killed more people. Do you think Puntos have never been involved in a fatal crash. She was driving a car that is legal to drive in the UK.

itsjustGin · 07/07/2024 15:43

@Bibblebobblebibble yes, it probably would have.
At the house i grew up in we had a renault clio leave the road, go through the boundary wall and travel nearly 100m across the yard and go through the stable wall. Unfortunately killed the horse that was in the stable at the time.
That was also a medical incident behind the wheel but not one the driver survived

pleasehelpwi3 · 07/07/2024 15:42

My other half has spent the last 20 plus years working in the field of epilepsy, all of it in the NHS with some additional private work in Harley Street, and now is a clinical manager of a large hospital neurophysiology department. The job is 50/50 managerial/clinical, and amongst other things it involves testing people for epilepsy and writing reports for consultants about the patient's epilepsy based on clinical tests and observations. And there's an MSC in epilepsy from King's College in the mix as well, with a distinction.

According to them, not only is the driver's story entirely credible, but also rather common. Many people have their first seizure whilst driving, and this can happen later on in life. 'Rubbish' was the word mentioned when I said about the conspiracy theories on this thread.

Of course the parents the children are devastated; who are we to judge them for this. But the medical evidence is clear- money and lawyers don't change truth, as some conspiracy theorists are suggesting. I'm a teacher, and again, whilst I understand the headteachers's sadness, they are no more qualified to discuss epilepsy as my other half is qualified to talk about running a school.

It is an entirely different matter when people knowingly drive when they should not due to a medical condition, but this clearly didn't happen here.

Bibblebobblebibble · 07/07/2024 15:40

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 14:45

So if she had killed them in a punto, it would be less ‘bad’?

Would a Punto have mounted the kerb, gone through the fencing and continued at sufficient velocity to take out 2 children before they had the chance to react and move?

Arguably, had she been driving a Punto those 2 precious children would be alive 😡

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ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 15:00

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:32

Well, as I said earlier, if I were the parents and saw this woman driving again…..

Morally this woman should not get behind the wheel of a car ever again.

You would do what?

You haven’t said what you would do?

Rosscameasdoody · 07/07/2024 14:55

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:32

Well, as I said earlier, if I were the parents and saw this woman driving again…..

Morally this woman should not get behind the wheel of a car ever again.

Why ? She hasn’t done anything wrong. She had a first seizure behind the wheel. Could happen to anyone. Morality doesn’t come into it. If she has a diagnosis of epilepsy or another condition causing seizures she will have to be seizure free for a year and then she can drive again - just like anyone else in those circumstances. She may or may not want to get behind the wheel again but that’s personal choice. Or do you think we should be in the position of judging people’s moral fibre by their illness or disability - or even worse, punishing them for it ?

UnpackingBooksFromBoxes · 07/07/2024 14:53

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 07/07/2024 13:56

I said this earlier but in case it was missed - on bbc IPlayer there is a good documentary series called crash detectives, which shows the work that goes into investigating fatal crashes. They very much don’t take anyone’s word for anything.

As devastating this is for the parents and staff they do not have the right to see someone else’s medical notes. A lot of work will have been going on behind the scenes they won’t know about and maybe the police communication should have been better.

There is a reason relatives and loved ones aren’t involved in the justice system - their grief clouds and distorts their reasoning. They want the person who has caused them so much pain to suffer. So it is not surprising they are angry.

I put a link to this episode on a previous post about this subject. This ep refers to someone having a fit but the reason behind it was very different.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m000fd4t
Its on BBC Wales, one of my favourite programmes especially as I worked for many years with forensic collision investigators.

The Crash Detectives - Series 2: Episode 4

Chris discovers the answers to a head-on crash in electronic data within the car.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m000fd4t

Rosscameasdoody · 07/07/2024 14:50

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 14:45

So if she had killed them in a punto, it would be less ‘bad’?

No, it’s just a convenient opportunity for the soap box brigade to use a tragedy to bang the drum of protest.

UnpackingBooksFromBoxes · 07/07/2024 14:48

maudelovesharold · 06/07/2024 17:58

I don’t know either, but I would have thought it would be a bereaved parent’s right to be shown proof that the incident which killed their child was the result of an unavoidable medical issue.

They can’t be shown anything because of the pending inquest but they can be told the rationale behind the decision.
The families representatives can apply for a copy of forensic collision report, photos, statements and interviews after the inquest.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 07/07/2024 14:47

Bibblebobblebibble · 07/07/2024 14:40

What could she have done differently? Not driven an irresponsibly large tank of a car. No need for that in an urban area.

If she had been driving a regular sized family car, the fence would have likely slowed down the vehicle enough for the little girls to get out of the way.

#banSUVsinurbanareas

It’s called freedom of choice. You could make this case for every single person who drives an SUV - better yet, everyone who drives a car. What happened to her, could happen to anyone. And you do realise that hashtag ban SUV’s in urban areas is by definition ableist, as very many disabled drivers use these vehicles to accommodate wheelchairs and other equipment which won’t fit into standard cars.

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 14:45

Bibblebobblebibble · 07/07/2024 14:40

What could she have done differently? Not driven an irresponsibly large tank of a car. No need for that in an urban area.

If she had been driving a regular sized family car, the fence would have likely slowed down the vehicle enough for the little girls to get out of the way.

#banSUVsinurbanareas

So if she had killed them in a punto, it would be less ‘bad’?

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 14:44

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:37

I know if I had had such a terrible accident - or dh - I would not be trumpeting about the right to drive again. So hard-hearted.

How do you know? Have you killed someone driving?

If you are able to just stop driving and it not be an issue for you, why do you drive now? You are a risk to everyone else every time you drive your car. If you don’t need to why take the risk?

Rosscameasdoody · 07/07/2024 14:42

Bibblebobblebibble · 07/07/2024 14:40

What could she have done differently? Not driven an irresponsibly large tank of a car. No need for that in an urban area.

If she had been driving a regular sized family car, the fence would have likely slowed down the vehicle enough for the little girls to get out of the way.

#banSUVsinurbanareas

Well then, everyone everywhere should immediately stop driving this type of car in case they experience their first seizure, completely out of the blue and through no fault of their own, while they are in control of it. What a load of cobblers.

TattiePants · 07/07/2024 14:41

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:37

I know if I had had such a terrible accident - or dh - I would not be trumpeting about the right to drive again. So hard-hearted.

Who is 'trumpeting' about the right to drive again? If the driver is seizure free for the required length of time, she will be subject to the same rules as anyone else who is now seizure free. It is then up to her whether she then chooses to drive again. Some people may choose to never drive again, others will have a different view. As long as they follow the law, it's a personal choice that is no one else's business.

IncompleteSenten · 07/07/2024 14:41

MaturingCheeseball · 07/07/2024 14:09

Do those vigorously defending the driver believe that she should be able to drive again, should no further seizures take place for the legal period of time?

Yes. The law is very clear that you must have not had a seizure for I think it's a year and then you can drive again.
To make an exception for her is to punish her for having had a medical emergency
Either everyone who has had a seizure should be banned from driving forever or everyone gets the same one year seizure free as the law currently states.

Otherwise you're talking about looking at every case and going ok your seizure resulted in this so you get a year, yours resulted in this so you get five years and yours resulted in this so you can never drive again.

That's sentencing. That's punishment for a crime.

Bibblebobblebibble · 07/07/2024 14:40

What could she have done differently? Not driven an irresponsibly large tank of a car. No need for that in an urban area.

If she had been driving a regular sized family car, the fence would have likely slowed down the vehicle enough for the little girls to get out of the way.

#banSUVsinurbanareas

Rosscameasdoody · 07/07/2024 14:40

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 14:31

It’s not about the defending the driver.

But the vast majority of reasons that the driver should have been prosecuted is completely made up out of thin air and from people’s feelings. Yet the same people are claiming that the police investigation can’t be relied on as though their musings have more chance of being right.

In cases like this witness statement’s count for very little as they are unreliable, more often than not, because of how the brain works.

The same people banging on about how the rich driver probably bought their way out, completely ignoring the parents are also wealthy, haven’t even thought why the head teachers would be so keen to have the driver blamed. They make up stories of black mail about the driver and taking the head teachers words as gospel but can’t conceive that the head teacher may have their own agenda. It’s likely that people all have a different point of view, but funny how conspiracy theories are only going one way.

There’s so much information here that’s complete fantasy. You can’t develop epilepsy over 40, she might have been hung over, they probably didn’t check for drugs (despite it being standard), she has been smiling since, she didn’t leave her job, she might sell cars that are the same brand as the ones she is driving (I mean come on, if non of us had anything to do with a brand of car because one car of the brand killed someone we wouldn’t have cars at all), she also might have done an interview before hand, she hasn’t said sorry oh wait she had but that means nothing.

And most of all, if she didn’t have an episode of ill health she must have just decided to drive at the kids on purpose?

and of course she should be allowed to drive. If she meets all the requirements that all people with epilepsy have to meet. Under what rules should she be not allowed to drive?

Agree. It’s well known that you can have a first seizure at any age and there are many causes. It’s also been shown that she isn’t in car sales - that was someone else entirely, not that it’s relevant, and nor is the size or model of car she was driving. The fact that she hasn’t said sorry means nothing either - isn’t it standard practice for car insurance providers to advise that an apology can be construed as an admission of guilt ? I don’t understand why so many people are doubting the veracity of the illness as being the cause of the accident.

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