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Nanaboots · 06/07/2024 15:36

Am I being u reasonable to say I hate those answers ? They really get my goat.

my DS’’s partner is always so 🤷🏼‍♀️ when I offer food or drink, “would you like a cup of tea” is answered with “if you like” well I’m sorry I don’t care have one or not.! Then the ‘ would you like a biscuit with the tea “ no smile and “ oo yes please or no thankyou” it’s a consideration at the idea then “ I could do” ffs

last night at dinner I offered the plate of garlic bread and I got “ mmmm well I can do go on then” then when offered seconds on the lasagne the reply was “ if you would like “. Again I don’t care, yes or no, it’s not difficult and certainly not doing me any favours.

this morning my neighbour popped in just as I was making coffee so I offered her one her response “ if you would like me to have one I can do “ 😡 just say yes please or no thank you, I don’t care !111

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Hadalifeonce · 06/07/2024 15:43

I assume if someone offers me refreshments, they are happy to follow through with the offer, so will either say yes please, or no thank you accordingly.
If someone responded the way you have described, I would have to say something.

JurassicClark · 06/07/2024 15:42

Similar vibes -

"Would you like a cuppa?"
"If you're making one..."

Well, I am making one if you want one, you numpty.

ExecutionersBong · 06/07/2024 15:42

Ooh go on then!

Arcticlife · 06/07/2024 15:42

Yes, 100% agree. I also feel the same when DH says "sure" to something... It needs to be either a solid yes or no for tasks that are off no benefit to me to do for him! (light hearted)

monaaay · 06/07/2024 15:40

YANBU, wishy washy

Holliegee · 06/07/2024 15:39

I think you need a lie down.

when I visit people if they offer me a drink ill
say if you’re making one I will (but otherwise I’m ok or I’ll have a glass of water) - I don’t want them to feel they have to feed and water me!!

byabobby · 06/07/2024 15:38

I've literally never met anyone who does this

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