It’s my birthday and nobody got me anything

Happy Birthday !!!

its shit, I’ve had it too and it’s worse for you having just come out of hospital, being a bit skint and generally understandably pissed off.
Has this been the case other birthdays? If not let EVERYONE know you are disappointed - maybe suggest to Dp that next weekend when you’re feeling brighter you’d like an unbirthday and a nice dinner (out or in depending on finances) and some flowers then.
If it’s often been like this then, next year in the build up to your birthday get yourself some treats and at least live yourself x
Having said that, gifts are no representation of love - my ex would either go big or nothing at all whereas my
lovely dp is admittedly terrible at gifts and I either have to literally tell him what I want or run the risk of nothing or a really unususl
gift such as a sideboard or a new garden gate.

Happy Birthday 🥳 🤗 🧁I totally understand why you are upset and your partner suggesting you go and choose flowers is abit late in the day!

But she's feeling rubbish anyway. Why not go out and make the best of it?

Happy birthday 🥳

It's shit when you feel like that. Sending birthday greetings from Glasgow and I really hope that your day improves ❤️

Make it loud and clear to your partner and mother how sad it’s made you being by passed on your birthday especially on top of being in hospital.

Unless you say it plain and simple to your partner he won’t change.

Happy birthday op x

Surely because she feels really crap that he hasn't bothered to do anything?

Happy birthday OP. I do think you should tell your husband off for being so crap. And your mum! What was she thinking just taking him out on your birthday without seeing if you wanted to spend time with him!

Sorry you haven't had a great day x

How can close family be so hurtful and thoughtless? It’s so mean, especially when you weren’t well. I feel for you OP. When you’re fit enough, spoil yourself and treat yourself to something nice on a regular basis. I would also speak to your Mum and partner and let them know how hurt you were. I bet they would be hurt if you treated them like this.

Happy birthday! Is there anything you could treat yourself with? I know it’s not the same but it feels empowering to take control of the situation when people let you down like this, maybe get something you’ve had your eye on but have felt guilty about buying?

YANBU to feel upset. As far as your partner offering to take you out to get some flowers I’d make it clear to him that this is too late in the day and he should have thought of that already- next year he must do better. Then go and buy yourself some nice flowers and some chocolate (and don’t share the chocolates with him)!

Exactly. No point being nartyrish about it.

Happy birthday

I'm not surprised youre upset - it's just not good enough, is it? Have some flowers from me.

I have been in that situation OP, and likely to be again. A bunch of friends have now said they want to stop doing any presents so it is likely I will have the same at Christmas too. I understand money issues. But it does feel like no one cares. I had a hard time growing up, lots of time with no contact with one or the other parent, and it takes me right back to that. It just feels so sad. I am so sorry for you. I do hope that, if you feel there is hope in this relationship, you can explain to your partner how you feel and he can hear you. Hugs to you, and hoping this year gets much better for you.

It just all depends doesn't it.
For me .. having someone look after DS would have been the perfect gift. And I hate getting rubbish presents so would not have bothered me to get nothing from family. But I'm not a birthday person really.
If you are and your DP knows you are then that's a bit of a shame.

Happy birthday OP, I'm very sorry no-one acknowledged your special day. Treat yourself to something nice and make sure you treat your family to absolutely nothing on their birthdays.

It really shouldn’t, but they could go anyway.

Unless I've missed it, her partner didn't offer to take her out for a meal or coffee...he offered to take her for flowers. It shouldn't be down to OP to suggest something for her birthday

Happy birthday.
I always hate my birthday because I'm also hurt family and close friends don't make more (or sometimes any) effort. I'm 50 this year and will be very upset if people don't make a bit of a fuss.

Happy birthday OP! So sorry you’re feeling down, it’s really shitty of your partner and mum not to have made any effort for you. Is there a chance your mum might have got you something and will give to you later?

I think if you can afford it you definitely should treat yourself - can you order an online afternoon tea or cake or something? And don’t share it!

I do think you should say something to your DP and mum though. It’s clearly too late now for him to be getting birthday flowers for you but could you tell him you’d like him to make a bit of an effort this weekend?

Since your mum had your ds why didn't you take your partner up on his offer to go out and have a coffee/ meal out or something?

Happy birthday flower xx

Did things change after that year?

@autismmumx Happy Birthday Darling x
Talk with your hubby and tell him you are upset no one got you anything. Hopefully he will be mortified, and never do it again