It’s my birthday and nobody got me anything

I've just noticed that this post is months old! I hope you're fully recovered and things are better for you.

I never get anything from my hubby or kids or anyone. It does get me down some years, even someone saying happy birthday would be nice but hey ho. Hang in there, get well soon and maybe plan a day out somewhere when you're back on your feet.

A huge happy birthday to you from me 😃

Happy Birthday! Sorry this happened to you and I hope you’re feeling better. If it makes you feel any less alone I’m a single mum so I put my own banners and balloons up this year lol. I always save a bit of money then on my birthday buy myself a few things I want. I bet you’re the kind of person that makes everyone else's birthday special and it sucks when it’s not returned.

This is unacceptable. It takes 5 minutes to make a card out of a piece of a4 paper. And to buy a £1.10 bar of cadburys chocolate.

YANBU. This is pretty shit…you can buy a bunch of flowers from Aldi for under a fiver. It’s the thought that counts.

Your partner is being rubbish - did he say happy birthday this morning or had he forgotten? Did you do something nice last night while your mum had ds? Did he apologise or explain why he hadn't got you anything already? I really don't understand why he wanted you to go with him for the flowers! It's not like clothing or jewellery you might want to pick yourself!

In your mum's case though, presumably you are seeing her later to get ds back? So I wouldn't assume she hasn't given anything yet as in our family if we were seeing someone later on their birthday we would usually leave any cards, gifts or even messages until then, not think we had to get it there for the morning. And to be honest as you get older I find most friends don't do much unless you are actually doing something for your birthday and that reminds them!

I would be furious your mum hasn't let you have your son back at the time you asked though! That's terrible.

I hope you feel better soon, and can do something nice today, even if low key.

Sorry to hear no one has been thoughtful enough. Next year, tell your other half a few days before your birthday and drop hints. Or, go and buy yourself a birthday present. Most people buy things I don't need or want anyway.

Happy birthday. Don't cook. Go get yourself a takeaway. X

Thing about Tit for Tat not doing his birthday only works if he cares about his birthday.
The best thing is to make sure that going forward her partner, at least, knows he has to put in some effort. That it is obligatory.
What to do about the rest of the family, I do not know.

Oh lovely I’m so sorry, I know the pain and I bet it’s even worse since you’ve been ill and In hospital etc. send your partner to the shops for flowers and cake. Do you feel up to a takeaway? I would honestly have a little shower/bath as they always make me feel refreshed, then go and have a tea or whatever your drink is and relax. I also wouldn’t be making a big deal about your partners birthdays in future.

Happy birthday OP. Feeling lonely, when you aren't alone, is one of the most brutal feelings. I feel like that a lot and I'm sorry that today you're feeling like that too. I hope you can find a little happiness for yourself today, however small, and hope this next year sees your health improve. 💐

You deserve more after time spent in hospital

Happy birthday

Flowers 🎂 & chocolate 🍫

Happy birthday 🥳 your partner is a loser tell him how upset you are and that you want a big deal made next year in your birthday. Could your mum have maybe taken your son out to give you a bit of a break?

Happy Birthday OP. I feel your pain, it has happened to me too with my husband. I'll let your mum off because she looked after your DS whilst you were in hospital but your partner is a real shit. Is he always such a thoughtless bastard? The belated offer to "choose my own flowers" is a fucking insult and makes it almost worse.

Happy Birthday 🎂. I am sorry that those around you appear to be pretty selfish. Everyone deserves to feel appreciated x

Happy Birthday

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.............Happy Birthday!
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Absolutely not unreasonable to feel sad about this. I'd be asking your relatives to think how'd they feel if no one bothered on their birthday and how unappreciated they'd most certainly feel.
I hate birthdays- I'm trying to reprogramme my brain so I celebrate that I made it to another year but I struggle with the passage of time. But even I'd be really upset if everyone just made minimum effort.
Happy birthday op. I am sending lots of birthday wishes for a brilliant last year of your twenties. 30 isn't as bad as you think it is.

MessyHouseHappyHouse · Today 16:11
I’m sorry you’ve been unwell but you sound like you enjoy having a moan.

Your mum has sent you a happy birthday text and is looking after your non verbal autistic son overnight and today, and you’re still not happy?

You don’t have to sit in front of the TV and whinge. You could make better use of your time and if you want to go out for lunch or even for an ice-cream, you could have told you partner when he suggested you go out together to buy flowers.

If you choose to make others guess what you’re thinking, you’re going to spend a lot of time feeling miserable.

And another male apologist.
It's the fact that he did not bother himself, followed by an 'oh, Ok we can...'
I bet OP bothers with his birthday!

My mother would not have traded babysitting for a card. (I would have had a present, too, but realise that is a privelege.)
It's crap.

Happy Birthday xxx

That's a shame. And I'm sorry you've had health issues. I really hope you can be assertive to your husband/mum/sister and say, right, obviously we didn't do anything on my birthday, so I'd love us to go to xyz meal/day out/show etc. you can even send them links to the booking of said event. You deserve something nice. Give them a thorough nudge.

I’m sorry you’ve been unwell but you sound like you enjoy having a moan.

Your mum has sent you a happy birthday text and is looking after your non verbal autistic son overnight and today, and you’re still not happy?

You don’t have to sit in front of the TV and whinge. You could make better use of your time and if you want to go out for lunch or even for an ice-cream, you could have told you partner when he suggested you go out together to buy flowers.

If you choose to make others guess what you’re thinking, you’re going to spend a lot of time feeling miserable.

YANBU to feel upset but tbh if you’ve been in hospital for a week then it was probably the last thing on everyone’s minds.

Tell your DH how you’re feeling and ask him to make it up to you by cooking your favourite meal or getting takeaway and running you a bath or something.

Happy birthday 🥳

Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈 🎁 🎊 🍾

Treat yourself to something nice xxx

Happy birthday, Love.
When you can get out, you treat yourself to something you would like, however small. Something you would not normally buy.

Right, now you make sure this does not happen again.
It's bloody awful that some men need telling, but next year you tell him, loud and clear for a few weeks before,'On my birthday, on the 6th, I would like to do this, you arrange it, and I would really like to have this or this for my present'.

Christmas time, you say ' Let's choose our presents. I would like something from this list, where is your list?' Then, 'How are you getting on with your christmas shopping'. ad infinitum. It's not optional. Even if you have to lead him to the counter or web page, he will bloody do it.

You are worthy of a birthday treat, however small your budget, and now it feels flat because he has not bothered.
It's not pushy, it is slightly unromantic, but hopefully he will work it out for himself eventually, and you will not have to do anything other than hint at something you like.

Oh that's really shit! I'd spell it out loud and clear to them how they've made you feel.
I'd be ordering myself a takeaway (and flowers if you can stretch to it) and fuck them all.
Happy birthday