Heartbroken about DS's teacher

One of my kids once had the same teacher two yrs in a row at primary school .... A really rubbish one 🤣🤣

They tend to do pretty well, as most people find it easier just to dodge their sharp elbows by letting them have what they want. In terms of friends, a better description would be hangers-on who wish they too had the shamelessness to go about demanding that the world accommodate their every whim.

It is not putting your young child at any disadvantage!! OMG!

Did you not go to school yourself?!!

My children never, ever had the same teacher for two consecutive years. It's just not the way the system works.

So if you had to move to a different town, or outside catchment area- you would expect your child to remain at the initial school for the rest of his or her education?

No. He’s not being punished for being good.

Thats a weird leap.

An important lesson many have to learn at school is you don't always get what you want. For pupils and parents. My sons class were allocated a fab teacher last year that all pupils want - she went off sick 2 weeks into term and the class were taught by a supply teacher until January. You never know what can happen I would leave him in class he has been allocated.

Omg you're being ridiculous. Kids get new teachers most years. Your child isn't anymore important than others kids. So being precious and deal with it.

I work in a 3 form school and we have a male year 6. The children all worship him and, there are actual tears and tantrums from many of the year 5s when they discover that they haven't been placed in his class.

This coming Tuesday is "new class" day when they get to meet their new teacher. There will be the usual upset shortly followed by emails from parents demanding to know why their child hasn't been placed with Mr X.

It can get deeply undignified.

This does not actually help you but, don't you think that if Mr T is such a fantastic teacher it would be lovely for more pupils to benefit from his wisdom, instead of him always teaching the same children? Also my DD's class had the same teacher in year 1 and 2, who was admittedly very good. When they announced that the class would have a new teacher in year 3 a lot of parents were up in arms because they thought Mrs M was amazing, I conversely thought that our children needed to experience different teachers with different teaching styles , and as amazing as Mrs M was, for all we knew the new teacher could have been even better. ( She was IMHO!)

Well no, because you have said that All the classes have been mixed to mix abilities, sexes and SEN. None of those things have anything to do with being 'good' or 'bad'.

DS will do better overall if he learns that he is not special and that his achievements are down to his own efforts, resilience, and ability to grow during times of change. Support him to do this and it will be worth ten years with Mr. T.

I also thought the teacher had died, btw.

If you think this is a punishment you’re literally batshit! It’s totally normal for a new teacher to take over each year. I’m with everyone else on this thread you’re being more than unreasonable.

I completely understand where you are coming from. Ds1 had a rough P1 with a teacher who really didn’t get him. In P2 he got Ms S. she was brilliant. All the children loved her and ds came on in leaps and bounds. The following year Ms S was moving to teach P1’s and I was desperately hoping ds2 (ASD, elective mute, minimal speech) would be in her class especially as he already knew her from visits with ds1. He was allocated the other class. To make it worse I found out, in the playground, on the first day that that there had been a bit of movement in the class allocation as some other parents had asked for their dc to be in Ms. S’ class. Parents of older children were also keen to tell me how hard this teacher was on the children and she wasn’t well liked. I was devastated and felt such guilt that I hadn’t even tried to get him moved.

Fast forward a couple of months. Ds2 loved his new teacher and would do his reading “out loud” for her. Ms S had a very aggressive child in the class that was constantly hurting the other children and the parents were complaining to the school and wanting the other child gone or their children moved. So we definitely ended up with the best deal. Year 4 May end up being the best year yet for your ds.

Not bitchy replies. Realistic ones. The OP needs to grow up and grow a pair for her son's sake. Damn lucky he's had a good teacher to date but changes happen and we have to bring our kids up to be resilient.

I have an autistic grandchild so I have some sympathy but DD would never behave like the OP is doing. Heartbroken indeed! No-one died. Now that would be heartbreaking.

This.

Your son will have a new teacher each year. Best to accept it.

Tangential, but now I'm curious— is this a thing, parents having crushes and/or making inappropriate advances towards their child's teacher?(!)

Part of life is coping with change. It's normal for children to have different teachers each year, and that's actually a healthy opportunity for them to learn about working relationships changing and ending. There will be many important educational and social people who come in and out of your DS's life, and it's important for him to develop healthy ways of establishing and ending relationships.

I'd suggest modelling resilience. It's great that DS had a positive relationship and that relationship as it is, is changing. Your DS needs to see that it's ok for that to happen. Then, your DS gets to have a new relationship with Mr T based on being in the same school but different classes, and gets a new teacher as well - the new person could be great for your DS too, if they get given a chance.

Good point maybe Mr (Tumble) asked for DS to be moved

No its a creepy weirdo idea. Stop fantasising about Mr T