Heartbroken about DS's teacher

The fact the head came over probably means you will already have been identified as 'that parent'; she/ he will have been on their guard for you trying something like this and will have been prepared to step in to protect her employee.

I don't doubt that your DS is everything you said, but I have met many, many parents who are delusional about what their child is actually like at school. There's every possibility that Mr T will be tired of your DS bugging him about their shared hobby, or be saying to his colleagues 'His parents are a nightmare - I'm not putting up with them for another year'.

Children, ultimately, are in school to become independent learners. He should be pushing himself academically, by thinking 'How can I prove this? Can I draw a diagram to represent this? Could I write my own problem? What else could this tell me?' in maths, and editing, up-levelling vocabulary and altering sentence structure to make things interesting in English.

Anyway, @crumblingschools summed up why YABU most, in my opinion, by saying 'maybe someone else would benefit from having Mr T now'.

As would all the other kids, why is yours special?

@IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine
My two sons have had three male teachers between them at primary school. I can honestly say that none have been very good in my opinion. Not at the teaching bit necessarily (although one was dreadful) but at the pastoral part.
One of my son has numeral SEN and I can honestly say the male teachers neither cared or understood. They also on several occasions punished him for things that were completely out of his control. Things that were written in his assessment report that he couldn't do anything about.

For crying out loud...
You are being ridiculous.

Heartbroken?! Get a grip.

he will have great teachers and rubbish teachers along the way and then the same will happen with bosses when he grows up.
life lessons in dealing with different folk.

do not try and pester the school about swapping classes etc. you will get a reputation for being a pain in the arse and then your child will not be chosen for things because the school
won’t want you around.

In those context of course not. The school don't give a shit that's OP and her kid really really want this teacher.
He's literally no more important than every other one there.

The only time I've heard kids be discussed is when a teacher is saying they really can't work with that child for another year.

You need to move him into private immediately OP cos at private school the female teachers are not allowed to get pregnant and have maternity leave.

Will you be able to insist your son has a particular teacher in a private school, @Bluetie?

I honestly think your best approach is to encourage your son to give his new teacher a chance - and to encourage yourself to do the same. Best case, you are as happy with that teacher - or happier - and your son continues to flourish at his current school. Worst case, it doesn’t work out and you move him.

At least giving it a good go means your son has the continuity of staying in the same school, with his friends, and not being uprooted to a new school.

@JennyWI
Perhaps MrT doesn't WANT to bond!

Does the school have clubs? Mabye encourage the teacher to start a club for the instrest and help your sob make more freinds his age w the instrest while still bonding w teacher

Aw it’s hard, great that your child has flourished. All good things come to an end, Mr T won’t be coming to secondary with him or
college. Your son will have hundreds of different teachers and will have to get used to that. It sounds like a small school, same as my son however ours feeds into a huge over 1000’ pupils (93 where he is now). Spoiler…Some of the teachers you will dislike.

This year was harder for me as I realised my son’s teacher doesn’t really adore my son. You know what though, it’s ok. Shes
never rude and very tolerant but she doesn’t put him on a pedestal like teachers of previous years
who fussed over him. Done him the world of good as he’s become
less attention seeking and more aware of others around him. He’s become one of the class rather than pet in the class.

How does MrT feel about accompanying your son to secondary school and university?

Absolutely this. It is pushy, entitled parents that cause good teachers to leave. I feel sorry for the next year teacher.

So would every other child!

You do realise that even if you go private, you don’t get a say in which teacher your child has? The school make those decisions, not the parents 😂

That’s going too far. It’s sad when they move on from a great teacher, but that’s life. My daughter was bereft when she moved on from her favourite teacher, but she soon got on with it and he was still around school and showed an interest in how she was doing.

Punished for being good?
Heart broken?
you’re being dramatic and absolutely ridiculous. He’s moving to a different class, with a different teacher which is what normally happens.

Whilst I agree that the OPis a little unreasonable… you don’t think a child is ‘important enough to be considered during class allocation’?? 😮

'Heartbroken'? I really thought you were going to tell us the teacher was dying.

You need to give your head a wobble.

Then employ Mr T. as a personal one-on-one teacher for your precious FB. Or perhaps accept that your son is not going to regress to a 6 mo with a change in teacher. FFS, in secondary school, they’ll have many different teachers in one year and it is highly likely he’ll not have most of them the year after. Thank God you aren’t a parent of someone I teach!

Heartbroken is a strong word for having a different teacher ......

Genuinely OP. You are doing your kid a massive disservice by assuming he needs his Mr T shaped crutch next year.

Why not turn it around and be proud that he has the resilience to move on.

I understand your concern, OP. As parents, we want what is best for our children, and I understand that you feel this teacher is the best for your child at the moment. But think back to before your son met Mr T. You didn't know that he would get such a great teacher whom he would get along with so well, and you don't know that the next teacher won't also be exceptional.

Also, as a parent, you will need to support your son and help him to adapt to a new teacher, you can't do that if you are feeling 'heartbroken' over him having to leave Mr T, so my advice would be to try and mentally prepare your son and remind him that no matter what sort of teacher he has, ultimately his success will come from his own efforts and hardwork.

Wishing you and your son all the best x