Heartbroken about DS's teacher

You let your DS just have fun too @Bluetie don’t you, it’s not all about education and awards.

If Mr T is such a great teacher, maybe it's time for some other kids to benefit from that?

Some advice @Bluetie not only are you about to get less control (even in the private sector) in high school but actually it trying to control all of this you are denying the one who actually needs to be in charge of all of this your DS, listen to him and whether he is happy or not and what he wants, and trust him.

we can’t and shouldn’t control our children but trust them to do it themselves

Your child would enjoy being with Mr T., but so would other children. You describe it as punishment for your kid, as if somehow there was no other child involved in the decision. Teachers support a whole class each year!
There will be good teaching in his future from others, and he will cope. As others have said it's also a good learning experience; support him with it.
The fact you describe it politely - as your heartbreak, your son being a good kid, etc, doesn't make it any less difficult. As has been said above, insisting, you are being "that parent", sucking time out of school to focus on your heartbreak.
Enjoy your son's good qualities. Help him develop them. Care for others is one of them you said: well, he'll understand in that case.

The teachers care about your DS but they also have 30 other kids in the class to care about. They can't please everyone.

Sounds like you ought to think about homeschooling as clearly you'll never be satisfied.

I think the data shows male teachers, generally make good role models for young boys, but that experience needs to be shared throughout the school.
Does DS have other male role models?

If you are thinking of private education for Ds he's probably not in the most needy group.

If you want to keep them in touch, maybe offer to pay for private musical lessons for DS.

I hear your issue, but I don't think there's a resolution other than you both learning to suck it up.

The head teacher told you the other teacher is a very successful, qualified teacher. What makes you think she would be phoning it in? Don’t catastrophize things. Your son will pick up on your negativity. Also every boy in the school deserves a chance to have a good male teacher, it’s rare in primary school and of course that will mean moving groups around. Likely Mr. T had a say on which kids he felt would most benefit from remaining with him next year.

Is this Me T

She's not saddened, stop down playing this.... she's heartbroken!

Why don't you offer to pay Mr T's salary and hire him as a 1:1 teacher full time in your home?

And then what? Are you going to have this Mr T follow him every year until he leaves school for the sake of "continuity"? Children moved on from much loved teachers year in year out. Your child is no different.

Bluetie - I understand. You apparently upset a bunch of Saturday afternoon biddies
to have gotten most of these responses. You want the best for your child. You did not have that in his first year and are saddened that his progress might not continue. I wish you well.

I don't mean romantically. You are massively overstepping boundaries with your sons education to the point the headteacher had to step in.

Thank you for sharing this. I sometimes feel that I am the only person who cares about DS’s welfare. I find it hard to trust other people’s judgement.

So controlling! No one is as good as you?

One day, you are going to think back about your bizzare feelings towards your sons teacher and cringe.

You never know on here lol

You have to learn to trust that they know what they are doing when making classes. Its a little different for me because I'm in America, but same idea really. This was the late 90s and I worked in the same school that my two older sons were in. The Principal DID allow parents to put in requests for a certain teacher. She did not promise you would get your choice, but you could ask. Since I worked in the school I knew all the teachers really well. There was a male teacher that I thought would be really good with my oldest son who has ADHD. I put in the formal request. The Principal came to see me and explained that my son would not be going into that class, he was going to be in the other class. I wont lie I was very disappointed. The Principal told me to please trust her and her decision. My son ended up having an amazing year with the other teacher. You have to accept that the people making these choices know what they are doing and what will work best for everyone.

Kindly meant - please just let him experience new, different, perhaps less comfortable things. It’s a hard hard world out there and we’ve got to let them develop a bit of a hide to handle it. Change is great for doing this. I’m sure Mr T will always be available for chats and at least he’ll still see him around school, supervising at play times and so on. New teachers bring breadth and depth to childrens experiences. You’ll be doing him no favours if you push this.

Offs get over yourself