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Heartbroken about DS's teacher

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Bluetie · 06/07/2024 12:20

DS is a great kid. He's smart, funny, musical and sporty. He is also incredibly polite and has a caring nature. He is always winning awards at school, and is liked by all. DS attends a lovely small school with only 2 year-groups.

His previous teachers were OK but in year 3, he's had the most wonderful teacher, Mr T. Mr T is DS's first male teacher and they also share a hobby. Mr T has really helped DS develop his confidence, pushing him more in academics. DS has had a great year.

DS is now moving to year 4. Mr T is also moving to year 4. But they won't be together. All the classes have been mixed to mix abilities, sexes and SEN.

One morning this week, I went to ask Mr T if this class allocation was final. The head came to join our conversation, and he said he will only move DS for an exceptional reason. The head added that the new teacher has made the best progress in her year group across the whole school. I really want DS to stay with Mr T.

Can anyone think of something?

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crumblingschools · 06/07/2024 12:36

@WaitingForMojo but ‘heartbroken’. Think OP needs some resilience

MyCatHatesSandals · 06/07/2024 12:35

Screamingabdabz · 06/07/2024 12:33

No. He will benefit from a diversity of approach throughout his school life. Teach him resilience and independence. They are some of the top skills he will need in life.,

My thoughts (and words) too!

SilverSimca · 06/07/2024 12:35

I assumed the teacher had died, given the title. Glad they haven’t, but heart broken a little strong!

Elle7 · 06/07/2024 12:35

If they did it for your DS they would have other parents requesting similar.

It is hard when they move year groups, especially when you’ve had such a positive experience with a teacher, but this is something you both have to get used to. Wait until you reach secondary school!

LibertyDuck · 06/07/2024 12:35

"Heartbroken"?! I genuinely thought that this thread was going to say that the teacher had died!

friendlycat · 06/07/2024 12:35

Screamingabdabz · 06/07/2024 12:33

No. He will benefit from a diversity of approach throughout his school life. Teach him resilience and independence. They are some of the top skills he will need in life.,

Absolutely. This is so true.

EmoIsntDead · 06/07/2024 12:35

Bluetie · 06/07/2024 12:27

I feel like DS is being punished for being a good kid.

You’re being ridiculous

MyCatHatesSandals · 06/07/2024 12:34

Bluetie · 06/07/2024 12:30

My child will benefit from continuity with the same teacher surely?

Your child will benefit hugely from resilience that is nurtured when parents do not stage interventions on their behalf whenever something challenging happens.

BrutusMcDogface · 06/07/2024 12:34

WaitingForMojo · 06/07/2024 12:29

Fml, what’s the matter with people on here?!

Edited to clarify that I meant the bitchy replies, not you, OP!

Edited

Ok, maybe some of my replies are harshly worded, but I am absolutely incredulous that OP thinks her perfect Angel should get to choose which teacher he has, and being moved to a class with a different teacher is in some way a punishment?! She needs to get a grip.

Screamingabdabz · 06/07/2024 12:33

Bluetie · 06/07/2024 12:30

My child will benefit from continuity with the same teacher surely?

No. He will benefit from a diversity of approach throughout his school life. Teach him resilience and independence. They are some of the top skills he will need in life.,

Cocothecoconut · 06/07/2024 12:33

Don’t be a prat
hes not being ‘punished’ the classes are being mixed to give everyone a change of teacher
your kid is not the only one moving around

HaydaSalami · 06/07/2024 12:32

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friendlycat · 06/07/2024 12:32

Your DS will also progress with another teacher as well. You need to encourage him to build on his confidence and move forward with his next teacher.

crumblingschools · 06/07/2024 12:32

@Bluetie when does that continuity stop? You need to start building up some resilience. Off to Secondary School in a few years.

It’s not always good for children to have the same teacher all the time

MrsGalloway · 06/07/2024 12:32

Your child will also benefit from learning to adapt and that you don’t always get what you want. Genuinely thought this thread was about a teacher who was very ill.

Perspective needed OP, secondary will be exhausting if you keep this up.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 06/07/2024 12:31

Having a new teacher when you move up a school year is not punishment. It's a perfectly normal process. Seriously, OP, your child will have teachers he likes and teachers he doesn't necessarily like throughout his school years. You do not get to choose, amd it would be absolutely ridiculous to try to claim a special case should be made for your child just because he really likes this teacher!

Allthegoodnamesaregone1 · 06/07/2024 12:30

Bluetie · 06/07/2024 12:27

I feel like DS is being punished for being a good kid.

He's really not important enough to have been considered during the hell that is class allocation.

Opinionwontchangeluv · 06/07/2024 12:30

It's amazing when you meet teachers you have a connection with. I had one in secondary school, her name was ms Charles everyone was scared of her because she was very butch but she was wonderful to me. Miss her hope she is all good

Bluetie · 06/07/2024 12:30

My child will benefit from continuity with the same teacher surely?

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FungusMcEyebrow · 06/07/2024 12:29

My DS had the most wonderful teacher, he was brilliant with the kids and they all adored him. DS cried buckets when the school year ended and he had to move on with a new teacher. He still talks about him today.
Unfortunately that’s life! Your DS will be alright with a new teacher.

WaitingForMojo · 06/07/2024 12:29

Fml, what’s the matter with people on here?!

Edited to clarify that I meant the bitchy replies, not you, OP!

BrutusMcDogface · 06/07/2024 12:29

crumblingschools · 06/07/2024 12:28

Please don’t be that parent

Too late! 😜

crumblingschools · 06/07/2024 12:29

In this day and age be grateful your child has a teacher

hurlyburlygirly · 06/07/2024 12:28

Kindly, you are being a bit batshit over all this.

Try modelling a bit of resilience and change readiness to your ds. He will need it in this world.

crumblingschools · 06/07/2024 12:28

Please don’t be that parent