Heartbroken about DS's teacher

It is nice when your child really clicks with a teacher and it makes them enjoy school even more. Especially in primary where most teachers at ds's school were female it was good for ds to have the experience of a male teacher he clicked with and who was also a good male role model and over 6ft, broad, and very hot.

But it is right they move on to new teachers, I don't think it benefits them or the teachers for a pupil to become reliant on a closer relationship with a teacher long term, it just makes the transition harder later.

The way some mums react towards male teachers is quite embarrassing

Sorry- he’s moving to Year 4, not Year 2!

Same point stands though- Year 4 planning goes hand in hand with Year 3, so he’s had a great start.

Presumably around 50% of the cohort are boys, and none of them has ever had a male teacher before either. So although your son really benefitted from Mr T I don't see why he should particularly be a priority. In a scenario with an outstanding, inspirational male teacher in a school where he's the only male teacher I'd probably be prioritising kids without Dads.

Your child has had the benefit of this wonderful teacher for a year. You have no genuine reason for Mr T to stay teaching your child next year. So why should your child take the same opportunity away from another child who hasn’t had the benefit of such a wonderful teacher yet?
You sound like a selfish, entitled pain the backside who thinks you and your child are more deserving solely because it’s what you want.

You are being ridiculous. I'm a teacher in a school that mixes the classes up every year, and I've never heard such twaddle.

Punished for being good?
Disadvantaged because some kids will have Mr T twice?

We balance the classes on numbers, gender, academic ability, pupil premium, EAL and half a dozen other criteria.

We are also asked to keep certain children apart, either by teachers or by parents, and comply if it's a good reason.

Some teachers will ask not to have certain children, and again we comply if it's a good reason.

Your child isn't being punished for being good. When the head said he would only move a child for an exceptional reason he is talking about serious, unforeseen reasons. He is also laughing at you in the staffroom for asking him about it!

And if not having Mr T twice is a disadvantage, how about the kids who didn't get him at all?

Some parents need to remember that other kids exist.

Maybe Mr T didn't want your kid again because you behave in such a nuts way.

I’m sure Mr T is really going to miss your son as it sounds like they developed a really good relationship over the last year. Excellent teachers do leave a lasting impact and some of the work and the way your DS tackles things in September may be down to his influence.

Parents ALWAYS complain about these sorts of things but usually it is just about mixing up personalities as well as needs/sex. Perhaps the strongest teacher is supporting the trickier group because he has a proven track record but also knows how the school works. Who knows?

The best thing to do is let Mr T know what impact he has had on you child and feel free to let the Head know too. Give the new teacher a chance. Year 2 planning goes hand in hand with Year 1 so your son is in a great position to do well next year with such a strong grounding.

Unfortunate typo. Should start with I'm so sorry.....

I'm so glad that a non issue such as this is so upsetting for you that you are heartbroken.

I'm however glad you've not had to face anything harder in your life

In all seriousness OP (assuming you are) in my experience interfering in this type of thing can often backfire. Schools generally put a lot of effort into getting the class mix right.

I meddled when my DS went into year 7 as he wasn’t in a form with friends. In my defence it was mid covid and I was slightly bonkers, I should have posted on here beforehand!! School actually listened to me and moved him, although they clearly thought it was unnecessary. It turns out he’d have been much better in the form he was originally in as that’s where all his now close friends are. Karma 😞

My children's school have an amazing teacher who is head and shoulders better than all the others (in my opinion). Both of my children had her for one year. Instead of being heartbroken they moved on I was glad that they got their time with her.

You never know, the new teacher may be better.

There are a couple of male teachers at our primary, some of the mums and nans (most of them happily married) seem to love them more than the kids. They're not as discreet with their crushes as they think.

I feel like DS is being punished for being a good kid.

WTAF

This post and your comment above has got to be up there in the top 10 of absolutely ridiculous things I’ve read.

You are aware of how school works right?

It’s also not a healthy dynamic for the children to have the same teacher for long periods of time. That’s why they change yearly.

Also, your child is perfect so it actually shouldn’t matter who he's taught by.

Do you fancy the teacher?

Before I opened the thread I thought your sons teacher may have been diagnosed with cancer or passed away or something serious to be heartbroken for…no your sons just been moved class 🙈

To be fair this is the normal scenario anyway. Nothing to be heart broken over. A little disappointed initially perhaps but nothing more.

The club could actually be called "The A-Team"

Mr T in charge obvs. And only very talented, musical and sporty A team style children can attend.

This. We were genuinely very upset when DD's teacher died during he summer break. They'd had him in year 5 and were due to have him again in year 6. His early and sudden death was genuinely heart breaking.

Even those children coped having to have a different teacher at last minute notice. Two infact over the year as first one was only temporary.

Teachers and headteachers spend vast amounts of time and effort to ensure the best balance for classes, as well as considering the best placement for the needs of individual children. It’s not done carelessly.

I mean this gently, but there is a possibility that you are the reason that the head is reluctant to put your child into Mr T’s class - you are coming across as obsessed.

Is your child the only one who's not going to be in the teachers class from his current class? If so, I could understand, otherwise surly all the children who had the teacher this year and won't be having him next year are in the same position as your son? Why is your son more special than other children? I'm sure there are other children that are disappointed too.

It's normal that they move on to a new teacher you are being dramatic about this. My year 2 daughter has had such a lovely teacher this year and of course its always a little disappointing to know they won't have that teacher again but who is to say the new teacher won't be just as lovely and bring a new dynamic into play. Please don't be an overbearing helicopter parent all his life cut the apron strings a bit and let him get on with it as his classmates will have to. Part of life is moving on to new chapters and he needs to learn that things will change in life. We had to move our children to a new school as they were in two different schools and it was becoming difficult to do two school runs. They've had to just deal with the disappointment and move on to new pastures...he'll be fine.

I feel like DS is being punished for being a good kid.

Why is he being punished?
Is every other child who was in Mr TA's class last year but isn't this year also being punished?
Or is it only your child who is bring moved out of his class?
Are all the other children not in Mr T's class not good kids?

You say they've mixed both classes to give a better allocation of sex, abilities, needs, etc. Only one class can have Mr T. Just happens that this year yours won't be, like 29 other children.

I am going against the grain to most posters here, but I am with you OP.

Some teachers can have such a positive impact on a child that it makes all the difference in their future education and career. Sadly, these occurances are rare and you will likely never see it again.

I had such a teacher when I was 7. She really propelled my to new heights both socially and academically, but after a year she left for a different school in a different city and I never encountered another teacher who was able to inspire me and to build up my confidence the way she did.

In your shoes I would have tried to do the same. Some children just really respond well to a particular individual and no other teacher (no matter how good their performance is overall) is able to replicate that affect with that child.

Education for some children is not a one size fits all.

Oh dear, poor Mr T!! I’m now wondering if Mr T asked for OPs DS not to be in his class next year 🥴

She's going to hide in his backseat with her club plan until he agrees, isn't she 😂

It's lovely they have had such a good relationship, but I think it's very important to build relationships with lots of different adults. My youngest had the same teacher for 2.5 years who was absolutely amazing, but the transition to a new teacher was then extremely challenging and she was scared to go to school which wasn't great!