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Guy has suddenly gone cold on me, fed up

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Cheeseburger99 · 06/07/2024 12:01

We met through a running club organised by our work, we work for the same organisation but he's on the 7th floor and I'm on the 1st and in totally different areas, so our paths would never have crossed otherwise.

I found that we got on well at our running sessions and we started talking outside of this, which soon became almost every day.

We went out as friends for a drink which seemed to go well.

Then we went out again 3 weeks later and stayed in touch in between/saw each other at the club.

I do have a crush on him but I've not said that to him, I'm not sure if he does but being cynical, most men don't bother talking to me almost every day unless there's some sort of attraction. He's definitely single.

Anyway since we went out he's been very cold with me. Won't speak to me unless I speak to him first. If I speak to him he's nice, but I saw him at the running and there was a very weird vibe, like he didn't really want to speak to me/seemed sheepish.

I feel like stopping the club. Or should I ask him what's up?
I'm not stupid and I can tell when someone's changed towards me. I didn't get drunk or anything, I really don't get it.

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Cheeseburger99 · 06/07/2024 12:08

Thelnebriati · 06/07/2024 12:05

Like last week he was my best mate and now it's like he's giving go away vibes.

As he's a work colleague, the safest thing to do is let it go, and keep any interactions between you professional and about work.

True but we technically don't work together. We're on completely different floors and have zero interactions/reasons to interact about anything work-related.

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Thelnebriati · 06/07/2024 12:05

Like last week he was my best mate and now it's like he's giving go away vibes.

As he's a work colleague, the safest thing to do is let it go, and keep any interactions between you professional and about work.

MimitteAndElsaGoToSwitzerland · 06/07/2024 12:05

I'm really sorry but he's not into you.

I've had this happen to me and I know it's really stressful. As much as possible, try and put him out of your mind. It's likely the impact of his inconsistent behaviour that's really getting to you. It's human nature to puzzle over this stuff. So try distracting yourself until the crush passes.

He'd probably be a shit boyfriend anyway!

Cheeseburger99 · 06/07/2024 12:03

Like last week he was my best mate and now it's like he's giving go away vibes. We didn't have a disagreement or anything.

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