To feel quite upset - just got told by a stranger to get out of his fucking way

I don't think the pp was saying that. Obviously women can be ignorant as well. I think she was alluding to the fact that alot of women encounter men behaving a way they would not do so to other men. And yes I have been run into by many a pushchair, they're usually the same candidates who fling their dcs out into the road in a disgusting dangerous attempt to stop traffic!

If you were driving would you have stopped?

So it's male privilege when I get sworn at by young women pushing past with their push chairs. I get more abuse from women than men.

As for he wouldn't have said it to another man, I suspect he would. Angry people don't differentiate.

There was no need for his reaction, but you could have stopped and waited a few seconds for him to pass rather than swerve into his path. Did you not glance behind you to ensure the pavement was clear before swerving the puddle or was he walking along and you suddenly veered into the path he was taking?

There have been studies made that show that Women, on a course with a Man coming the other way, will almost always move to get out of his way. Almost never the man moving out of the way of a woman. Try it.
So yeah, look where you are going, but that applies to everyone, not just you, OP. He could have anticipated you moving to avoid the puddle, couldn't he, but he probably expected you to do something, anything, other than actually get in his way!

He wouldn't have said that to a man, you do not need to apologise to these people (or owe them an explanation).

Some people find acting like a decent human being just too much for them. Do not engage or acknowledge them.

Who the fuck checks behind them when walking?! Give over.

I don't think you did anything wrong. You did "avoid him". Just because he doesn't want to walk alongside a stranger doesn't mean he has the right to it.

He was an arse but you need to let it go. Lots of people are arses.

This. A lot of men feeling entitled to bully women.

Totally agree with this. I have had men push past me, get in my space in shops, push infront of me. Funnily enough dh has encountered none of this. There are still lovely polite men too who have been the opposite, it isn't all.

Male privilege.

bet he wouldn’t have said it to another man, and if he’d been female it would have been “sorry, sorry” all round.

but he’s a man and you’re a mere woman, and he knows he can get away with it.

A lot of us may have said similar on our heads, though that doesn't excuse him saying it out loud. It is like road rage, where people are strangers to each other. I remember one day being irritated as I drove to work with someone in another car, then noticed they were one of my colleagues and smiled and waved them out sweetly instead!

It's horrible when people speak to you like this but don't take it personally - you're just an obstruction to them in that minute. You made a misjudgement - it happens to us all. Forget him.

Definitely

He was rude and ungracious. Maybe he was unsteady for whatever reason, or had an injury and feared you'd crash into him. You probably gave him a fright and he reacted without thinking. Not worth feeling upset over

This. My stepdad is the most obnoxious rude driver and will hang on the horn at everything. You just encountered a similar bad tempered arse. Any decent human wouldn't dream of speaking to a human being like that

I feel for you OP. I had something similar in a supermarket once. A young couple were coming towards me hand in hand or wrapped round each other, can’t remember. There was no way to walk round them so I had to kind of go towards them and they had to break apart to let me through, the man shouted “fucking hell” at me. It really shook me up. Now I make sure I stay miles away from anyone who looks aggressive. I hope you’re okay.

Ah OP you must live a lovely life to never really incur these types of twats.

honestly don’t give it a second thought, it wasn’t about you and he won’t be giving it any additional brain power so why should you?

I love it when men are rude to me for no reason because they get a mouthful back and it gives me a chance to release the rage I repress during my “gentle parenting /
corporate leader” day to day life.

I recently got a telling off from a cyclist and he got called a Lycra wearing wanker in return! 🙏🏻

He was being rude. I'm finding that unfortunately a lot of people fall into this entitled category. They seem to think that nothing can possibly be in 'their' path, and if there is, they will continue through regardless.

I am so sick of cyclists on public paths ringing their bells behind me simultaneously as speeding past, expecting me to not only get out of their way, but at the speed of light. They're not supposed to be on the dam path! Often it is a wide enough path for them to get through too.

I can only understand frustration when there are side my side groups, blocking a path, who are walking at snail's pace, while being joined at the hip (usually on the school run). A simple "excuse me cam I just get past" in this situation will however do!

He is a wanker. You could have waited but you didn't, that's ok you didn't deserve the aggression. If things like this happen to me we usually laugh it off with whoever is walking the opposite way. No need for his reaction.

I’ve said that a million times in my head at pedestrians I can’t pass but I’ve never said it out loud. Maybe he was stressed about something and he needed to get there fast?

Not nice, but to be honest I’d have forgotten about it within a minute.

They never do
They are bullies. Until they pick on the wrong person and end up with a bloody nose 🤣

"So what if someone selfishly jumps in front of you while you walk and knocks you under a bus. Mistakes happen. #bekind"

Oblivious pedestrians annoy the crap out of me. I walk and run a lot and am always aware of others around me, moving in and stopping to let others pass if necessary. I do fake nonchalance at others rudeness though and smile and pretend it isn't really irritating. The bloke was out of order. If we all went around saying what we think it wouldn't be a very nice place to live.

Yesterday a woman ran her Costco trolley into my bum. She was distracted. She said sorry and I laughed and made some joke. We all smiled and went our separate ways.

All the soul sucking holier than thou morons who will be happy to castigate you for your perceived errors while ignoring the misogyny and threatening behaviour of a man who behaves like this make me despair.

It is upsetting to have a glimpse of the violence and contempt that some men have towards women.

This is why I avoid crowded areas when I'm walking. Too many people are in their own little world and forget that there are other people around. They walk out in front me, stop dead or a family reunion takes place right where I need to go. Too many times I've cussed someone out under my breath. It drives me insane, so I take a different route or I try a quieter time.

You were rude in one way, he was rude back in another.

No point giving it anymore headspace.

I'd have just replied fuck off you miserable cunt. But then I'm not what you'd call conflict avoidant lately.

People are getting more impatient and aggressive of late and honestly I'm finding the only way to deal with them is to give it straight back or ask them why they're being like that. They're usually so shocked they back down.

I had a woman get really aggressive with me because I couldn't refund her with no packaging and no receipt a few months ago. Really really nasty. Told me to come out from behind that fucking screen and she'd show me how to serve. So I got up, grabbed the big metal metre ruler next to me and came out. She immediately proclaimed it 'not worth it' and walked off.

I honestly don't think THEY even know why they're being so aggressive because they back off the minute you stand up to them. It's been getting worse and worse since covid.

The amount of times I get called useless or worse in a week just because of not being able to get a refund or it taking 3-5 days to go back to their card or we're out of stock of something or something other trivial inconvenience.

I can apologise and offer credit or to order something for them but no, it's like I personally am responsible for running out of vapour tape, like I've hidden it for shits and giggles.