To feel quite upset - just got told by a stranger to get out of his fucking way

They'll be saying you should have indicated next.

I always think this.
I've accidentally got in the way as I'm a bit clumsy, apologised and been met with a tut or angry look and stare. If someone has apologised why be a total dick? I think it gives them power, the twats.

I would have been a bit rattled if a bloke had been aggressive towards me for no reason. But later I'd tell myself that a) his life must be so miserable and b) thank God I don't have to live with him
xx

Honestly, forget it.
Don't make his problem yours, it's not worth it.

That was an interesting revealing video, but I fail to see how it relates to the scenario where someone deliberately swerves unpredictably into the path of another.

If he'd done it to her, and OP gave him a piece of her mind, we'd all be applauding her.

@CustardySergeant, it's not the same, as the op said the man approached her "from the other side" and my lady approached me "from behind". Not entirely sure what she meant by "from the other side", but I presume the man was visible to her from what she said afterwards.

Ultimately, when people are in very close proximity to other people, they will occasionally bump into eachother. It's hardly the end of the world.

And for what it's worth, I am a person who goes out of their way to move out of people's path. Might start playing patriarchy chicken and normal chicken though and standing my ground more though, as I also expect my children to get out of the way of others every time and this is teaching them adults are always more important than them and that their needs are unimportant. Especially if their Mum is unassertive all the time too.

Did you ever see that piece by the woman who experimented with not getting out of the way of men? In New York I think. Can't remember her name. Men barged into her a LOT. A lot of men assume that it's always a woman's job to get out of their way, ease their path etc - literally as well as metaphorically.

Poor guy? 🤣

I bet he wouldn't have said that if you'd been a 6ft bloke.

Is it that annoying? Can't say I can get that worked up about it really, life's too short.

Honestly I have come across women who are this rude too. And men who are rude or aggressive to my dh.

You probably weren't thinking in the moment, and his reaction was completely unjustified, but it is so annoying when people get in your way and block your path. In hindsight you probably should have just waited until the path on the other side was clear

There seems to be a lot more people behaving like that now. And just a generally more aggressive vibe on the streets in our city.

I've actually noticed that my toddler is at risk of walking men rather than any other form of walking human. They just stride ahead and the amount of times I've had to swipe my toddler out of the way (while simply walking alongside me) because a man is just engrossed in his conversation, swinging his big legs, drives me absolutely mental. Height may play some part in it, but there is another element of being so full of their own space and engrossed in occupying their own place in the world that they just don't think to just look down the odd time. It very rarely happens with women, nearly always men, almost knocking my kids over.

@Acapulco12 it doesn’t matter what you could have done differently in that split second, you do not deserve to be spoken to like that. Just another man being abusive to a woman. Decent men don’t behave like that, bad day or not. I’m guessing he wouldn’t have treated you like that had you had a burly male partner with you! Or if you were indeed male..

So you stepped into her path and think she should have been able to predict that. OK. Sounds similar to the OP of this thread. Suddenly moving into the path of someone coming up behind.

This is why I like to play a game called ‘Patriarchy Chicken’, whereby I refuse to be the one to move out of the oncoming man’s way. The look of shock on their faces when they realise, often at the last second, that they actually have to be the ones to move is priceless. However, if I see a man who looks like the thuggish violent type, it’s not worth it to play this game.

Other times, if there is only space for one person to get past, and the oncoming person is a man, I like to step to the side and put my arm out graciously, and make them grunt thanks and look slightly uncomfortable.

If it’s a woman I don’t need to play these kinds of games.

Yeah I’m a weirdo and get kicks from stuff like this 😆

I was looking at jewellery in a shop window with my friend. Then moved slightly to the right to continue walking through the shopping centre and a woman was right behind me. I mean, I feel like technically she walked into me but she reacted very put out.

ItsLikeEggyBoffAllOverAgain · Today 15:41
"I accidentally bumped into a woman who was behind me yesterday. She was linking arms with another older women and (being behind me) would have been more aware of the fact I was there than I would be of her. I apologised profusely but first she said, "I nearly broke my back then" or something equally dramatic haha."

How did you bump into someone who was behind you? Did you just stop dead in front of her?

I accidentally bumped into a woman who was behind me yesterday. She was linking arms with another older women and (being behind me) would have been more aware of the fact I was there than I would be of her. I apologised profusely but first she said, "I nearly broke my back then" or something equally dramatic haha.

Don't give it too much thought. We can't all be on it 24/7. He may have just been shocked and blurted something out like that woman did. No excuse for swearing but I can maybe see why he did as it may feel careless.

Someone as work barged into me the other day and didn't acknowledge it at all. As if I was meant to scurry away from their superior presence. That was different though because there was no apology or anything. Whereas you did apologise.

😂

You were probably dithering. People get angry at ditherers.

mrsdineen2 ·
lol 😂

You've an unhealthy level of investment in this thread. Go and and get some fresh air. But look where you're walking.