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To ask guest to leave for smoking in the bedroom?

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FgsMary · 06/07/2024 09:43

A friend has been staying. She lives abroad but is over here on holiday for 3 weeks. Day 1, she smoked in the kitchen. I told her no smoking at all in the house. She pulled a face but from then on, smoked in the garden. I then became aware that she was sneakily smoking in the bedroom at night (blowing it out of window). She is a very tricky person anyway. Very aggressive, confrontational, awkward, selfish, bullying at the best of times but I'd bit my lip for a week and it had mainly been OK. I asked her if she'd been smoking in the bedroom. She said no but then later text me to say that she had and she was sorry. I told her she should find somewhere else to stay and she left that day. I feel dreadful though and I should probably have just said again not to smoke inside but not asked her to leave. She's now playing the victim and acting like I'm the bad guy. Was I out of order? I have said she's welcome to come back and I've seen her since but she's said no to coming back and she's sleeping on a relatives floor instead.

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BMW6 · 06/07/2024 09:48

I'm a smoker (well vapes) - YANBU as you made it perfectly clear that you didn't want any smoking in the house!

She is a rude fucker and she owes you massive apologies, but I still wouldn't let her stay again

Apart from the smoking issue she sounds bloody AWFUL

Mouthfulofquiz · 06/07/2024 09:48

Not I think what you did is fine. Smoking in the house or letting it blow into the house is gross.

dudsville · 06/07/2024 09:47

I think that was an OK decision to make, and your friend doesn't sound nice anyway.

Lifechanging12 · 06/07/2024 09:47

You let her into your house to stay (assuming for free?)

You told her no to smoking at all in the house after catching her do it. She pulled a face at you like a teenager.

She disrespected you and done it again in the bedroom

YABU for asking her to come back to stay. YANBU for telling her to leave.

Moonshiners · 06/07/2024 09:46

Rude cow. Can't believe anyone would do this. You weren't harsh enough!
Well done for getting rid

Noshowlomo · 06/07/2024 09:46

I’m with you. That’s completely rank and overstepping your boundaries

Janedoe82 · 06/07/2024 09:45

You were a bit harsh.

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