Another mum screaming at my child?

File a police report. They will work with the school to get the parent’s details.

Another pupil stabbed my DD (5) in the leg with a pen recently, I asked if she told the teacher and she said ‘no mummy, I scratched her across the face instead’. I said good for you.

Sorry OP but my son was bullied mercilessly and I always said don't hit back tell the teacher etc and they did absolutely nothing. He left school with no gcses despite me making him go and get bullied everyday.
He's got terrible social anxiety and depression now, scarred for life.
When she gets home don't tell her your disappointed say well done for defending yourself. If this happens in high school you do exactly the same! My younger son is getting bullied atm I've told the school and not much has happened about it but I will be telling them again Tuesday. I've told him if they push him, push them back stand up for yourself. I'm not making the same mistakes twice, letting shitty little bullies scar my kids. Ive also told him to tell them i told him to if it actually happens and he gets in trouble. I tried doing the right thing the first time round and the school did absolutely nothing so I won't be letting it happen again.

How sad that you feeling any kind of verbal abuse towards a child should be tolerated.

You should feel ashamed of yourself (but won't )

Are you for real 🤣 What if it was your kid you just do nothing ?

Over reaction. A parent told off OPs child for fighting, not a safeguarding or police matter. Let school know amd leave it. Things will blow over without a huge reaction.

I got to that bit and thought there’s no way I’d be punishing my child for defending themselves. Both of mine know if they are hit/hurt I have their back if they fight back.

I'm the same as you Juliesname. I didn't know most people were so calm and sensible 😂

Absolutely call the police when someone, an adult, scream threaten and insult your child.

It's much more reasonable than thumping them yourself.

What do you think the school can actually do against another parent?

Maybe I’m stuck in the dark ages. But this sort of behaviour only used to rear it’s head in secondary school- like from year 8 onwards.

I know you say the school handles things generally well, but I would have to say the school is not in control of student behaviour at all.

Sounds like a school with issues if they’re fighting in primary! I’m shocked.

Absolutely a police matter.
Cornering a child leaving school, Absolutely not on.
People behave like this because they believe they can get away with it.
Contact the police, and insist it is dealt with seriously.
Follow up with an email to the police officer involved.
Contact the school and tell them the police are now involved.
Your child should be able to walk safely from school with out being verbally attacked and abused.

It was a visceral reaction. I admit I possibly may have felt the same way but I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have acted upon it.

This is so not OK ! An adult should never ever scream on another child! The school needs to be informed. I was once a witness to a mum screaming at a girl coming out of school for having bullied her child. I shielded the child and brought her back to the teachers and explained the situation so they could call her mum and ask her to come to school. The screaming mother was bat crazy and I think she could have attacked the girl physically. Well, she got an interdiction to come in to the school yard ever since..

I am glad to hear that she will be starting secondary school soon and will be out of that toxic environment! I know it might be hard logistically, but do you have to send her in for the last two weeks? If she has been bullied, it would be terrible to continue putting her through that for another 2 weeks!

The mum was appalling to do that. Similar happened when mine were at primary school. A grandmother had a huge go at a (nice) boy for crossing her (not nice) dd.

I’d be tempted to pull her out for the next two weeks although obviously that’s really hard because where will she go? If you can’t, then I’d tell the school that you want her kept inside until you collect her or that parent banned from the playground. We have (as a school, not me!) banned 3 parents from being on the school site or contacting teachers bar the head of year-secondary-due to their aggressive behaviour. They have had official letters.

I would escalate this to the police. There is a possibility that this is a public order or even a Schedule 1 offence.

By all means involve the school and inform them of the actions you have taken. If they're aware it's a police matter then it might compel them to take it the more seriously.

Do not approach or confront the other mother. Leave this one to the authorities to unpick.

This is not in any way acceptable.

Sounds more like truly awful parents that have lost their grip on children's and their own behaviour.

How on earth is the school responsible for this.

Some years ago my teen DD reported a boy who had punched a car windscreen causing it to shatter. His mum found out and she physically assaulted my DD and screamed and threatened her. It was all filmed.
The police didn’t charge her.
The family just moved.

Imagine calling the police because somebody screamed at your child …
This is a school affair, OP. The school need to deal with this and ensure that all involved parties need to be held accountable for their behaviour. The most important thing is that the fighting stops.

You know your own child, you can ask them calmly and be nice but clear about possible consequences if the truth is not quite the same.

Now would be the time to prove you have their back, I can't imagine telling a child you need to check with witnesses to make sure you believe what they told you. It's quite awful actually.

Definitely report to police.

Completely unacceptable. I’d be making sure the school dealt with this appropriately