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To hope all the reform voters take a hard look in the mirror?

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Tukmgru · 05/07/2024 23:23

I have to wonder how you live with yourselves. It’s like you know you’re awful people, not just filled with spite and hate but also motivated by it. I genuinely am so baffled how you can sit here on this forum that is largely about supporting others through difficult times - perhaps you’ve found help and comfort in the various threads MN has to offer, and then you go ‘yep, fuck everyone else’.

My aunt was a BNP and then UKIP supporter, and a grifter par excellence throughout her life, and all of her arguments were the same as the arguments I’ve seen on here by Reform voters here. 4 million people went out there to declare ‘I’m a complete dickhead to everyone around me but want everyone to hand everything to me on a spoon’

Just fuck off.

(I’m not even a labour or green or whatever voter, I just think you’re awful people and deserve nothing but contempt)

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Flowers4me · 06/07/2024 09:05

RatHole · 06/07/2024 08:50

If we’re sleepwalking into fascism it is in part due to the holier than thou attitude of the left. The constant insults and lack of discussion have contributed to this.

If we had a government and opposition that weren’t incompetent the hard discussions would have been had.

In some areas of the country immigration is a problem, but no one can talk about it or they’re immediately called racist. This has paved the way for Farage to come in, and he has appealed to Tory voters who are jaded (understandably) by the state of Conservatives but can’t bring themselves (also understandably) to vote for Labour.

Farage has been able to take advantage of the lack of discussion to talk clearly about three big things - the NHS (as it stands it cannot continue much longer, and a French style private system seems inevitable), women’s rights (other parties cannot say what a woman is, Tories can but have fudged the issue for over a decade), and immigration (remember the Rotherham scandal?). If other parties had given air time to these issues maybe Reform wouldn’t have had the opportunity to get on the ladder.

Unless Labour magically starts discussing these things I predict that by the next election either Reform will have a much bigger following, and/or conservatives will move harder right to meet them. I can’t see Labour being anything other than disastrous after a brief respite and that will contribute to a harder right trajectory.

Before Brexit (another holier than thou shitshow) I read an article showing how history repeats itself, and it basically predicted what’s happening now, and that for the most part humans are too tribal and closed minded to make the changes to stop it.

I’ve always considered myself a lefty, but Labour and the sanctimonious behaviour of their supporters have lost me this time. I’m now genuinely politically homeless.

Well said.

ageratum1 · 06/07/2024 09:05

The places that returned a Reform leader, like Boston, are the places most affected by Immigration.Maybe their experiences are different from yours OP.
Last year there was 685k net migration.Our infrastructure can't cope as it is! Someone has to say when enough is enough!

Butchyrestingface · 06/07/2024 09:04

You and your aunt sound pretty similar, @Tukmgru. Neither able to tolerate difference.

Iwantitidontwantit · 06/07/2024 09:03

Ah "those people", but you're not racist right? 🤣🤣

I live in a very working class area, surrounded by people of different races and skin colour. Like my white britsh neighbours some are nice and some are not.

Of course uncontrolled immigration is an issue that needs dealing with at source. But this country is on its knees due to corruption from our shit tory government.

Our NHS is broken and reform have made it totally clear they want private health care, you want that too?

turnipsarelush · 06/07/2024 09:03

Fargo79 · 05/07/2024 23:29

What's the point of this? I am not a Reform supporter and am entirely ideologically opposed to almost everything they stand for. But insulting and shaming people has never been an effective tool for changing their mindsets. Do you think that anyone who voted Reform would read this and recognise themselves in your description? Or care about the opinion of someone who is speaking to them like that? Or be motivated to change their opinions or world view?

If you genuinely want other people to share your outlook, this isn't the way to achieve that. If anything, it will have the opposite effect.

Yeah this. Everyone who has a right to vote should be able to vote for whoever they want. Otherwise what's the point.

ConstantRain · 06/07/2024 09:02

I don't blame Reform voters. They're just looking for hope and an answer to their issues just as much as everyone else are.

People are really struggling currently and people are experiencing different struggles. Some are influenced by social media and the clever but harmful algorithms, others are fooled by social factors without looking deeper and others are just looking for a saviour.

It's better to address the issues as these people often don't feel heard so go to the person who appears to be listening.

Whatafustercluck · 06/07/2024 09:02

Iffx · 05/07/2024 23:47

I doubt anyone who voted Reform is ashamed.

If I need to vote Reform to get Starmer out next time, I’ll do it.

What has he done in his 24 hours since becoming PM that's so heinous that you've made up your mind about who you'll vote for 5 years in advance? Odd. Very odd.

DoreenonTill8 · 06/07/2024 09:01

Devonbabs · 05/07/2024 23:47

I think you really need some kind of help. You also need to start understanding that other people have different life experiences to you. Your post is basically everything you are crudely arguing against.

it’s extraordinary how lacking in self awareness you appear to be.

Absolutely, when will the 'tolerant and caring left' wake up to the fact that telling people "look you ignorant, pathetic evil fuckers, stop voting for who you want, and having your own stupid opinions and voting for things that matter to you is stupid and evil. Do what I tell you and fuck you if you're negatively affected. No one cares, you're scum"
doesn't actually work and thats why reform got so many votes?

Mummytotwonow · 06/07/2024 09:00

Devonbabs · 05/07/2024 23:47

I think you really need some kind of help. You also need to start understanding that other people have different life experiences to you. Your post is basically everything you are crudely arguing against.

it’s extraordinary how lacking in self awareness you appear to be.

This poster is spot on!! You’re the one that needs help. You sound like a very unhappy soul

Devonbabs · 06/07/2024 08:59

sleepyscientist · 06/07/2024 08:55

Reform is the reason we can't have proportional representation to prevent another Hitler which is what Nigel is.

Those who voted reform don't want to blame themselves for their problems rather the people fleeing absolute poverty. The only change in my eyes needed is the ability for them to work immediately whilst their claim is being investigated so they can integrate quicker. The majority near us work cash in hand and are exploited by that, it's them I feel sorry for.

There is a reason the Lib Dem's have the most educated vote and exist in middle class areas.

Ah the Lib Dem’s, the party who tell women to shut up when they don’t want to strip naked next to a strange man. Women voting for the shit show that is the Lib Dems clearly aren’t that educated.,

The Lib Dem’s are popular in those areas because there is a detachment from reality for a lot of the voters

mandymeans · 06/07/2024 08:59

This! I've lived with uncontrolled immigration and like a pp got pushed out of my local community.Everywhere I went - the local shops, buses, GP waiting room, I never got chatting to anyone, never had the feeling of being part of a community because I was surrounded by non English speakers.
It was fucking miserable and we eventually decided to move. I voted Reform and won't be fucking off anywhere. I'm entitled to my opinion.

Any chance you're from LU1/LU2? Grin if so, it's all very true. Lots of people not speaking English and culturally segregated. You walk through the town centre and it's actually a surprise to see a white person (disclaimer, I'm not a white British person but I see how much of a shock that must be compared to 30 years ago)

But I still wouldn't vote Reform because of the wider picture.

TroysMammy · 06/07/2024 08:58

Imustgoforarun · 06/07/2024 08:44

Perhaps the poster doesn’t have time to volunteer working long hours in minimum wage to live in a bed sit. Again volunteering is traditionally a very middle class activity for those that have the time and the means.

Don't be so ridiculous. "Volunteering is traditionally for the middle classes with time and means". So you're saying the working classes just sit on their bums waiting for Lady Bountiful to hand out food packages?

Boomer55 · 06/07/2024 08:58

I wouldn’t vote Reform. But, then again , I would never have voted for Jeremy Corbyn or his gang - I don’t like extremes.

But, I didn’t and wouldn’t, run around calling those that did stupid/ignorant etc.

We all vote for who we think will serve us and the country best.🤷‍♀️

Saschka · 06/07/2024 08:56

Ifittellsthebiggestlieswearstheloudestties · 05/07/2024 23:53

Did you go NC with your aunt? I wouldn't be surprised as you dont sound like someone who can tolerate a difference in opinion.

Also, heard of tactical voting?

Nobody tactical voted for Reform 🙄

JarOfParts · 06/07/2024 08:56

mandymeans · 06/07/2024 08:54

On top of that Farage is an excellent public speaker let’s be honest - he was much better than any of the others at the election debate and is always clear, calm and confident during interviews. I can totally see why people would vote for him.

Indeed, but I can think of a few 'great public speakers' that had awful policies. I agree, he is much nicer to listen to than most politician. He seems to answer the question being asked, for one. But again, it seems people forget the history because that doesn't mean anything if the actual party is a racist, and openly misogynistic.

Hitler was a fantastic public speaker. Very rousing.

His book was shit though.

sleepyscientist · 06/07/2024 08:55

Reform is the reason we can't have proportional representation to prevent another Hitler which is what Nigel is.

Those who voted reform don't want to blame themselves for their problems rather the people fleeing absolute poverty. The only change in my eyes needed is the ability for them to work immediately whilst their claim is being investigated so they can integrate quicker. The majority near us work cash in hand and are exploited by that, it's them I feel sorry for.

There is a reason the Lib Dem's have the most educated vote and exist in middle class areas.

DoIWantTo · 06/07/2024 08:55

While I fundamentally disagree with their politics, they’re just Tory lite supporters so I’m not sure how they can be declared the most despicable when we’ve just got rid of a government that’s wrecked more havoc on this country than any other. Really I think conservative voters have more to answer for than any other political party voters. And I say that as someone that is not a voter of any main political party,

OnTheShelfie · 06/07/2024 08:55

GingerPirate · 06/07/2024 08:54

Yes, this.
And one saying it right now.
Took a look into the mirror - yes, it's still me.
😁

Still a racist then?

Fivebyfive2 · 06/07/2024 08:55

Aliciainwunderland · 06/07/2024 08:44

It was Hilary Clinton calling millions of people deplorables that cost her the election.

I know people who voted reform. They are intelligent, kind, hard working people. Some are woman who are concerned about woman’s rights Instead of insulting them - find out why they voted that way. What is it that speaks to them? If we could have a conversation as opposed to slinging insults we might all get somewhere.

(for the record - I did not vote reform)

You think Farage and his lot care about women's rights? Seriously??

mandymeans · 06/07/2024 08:54

On top of that Farage is an excellent public speaker let’s be honest - he was much better than any of the others at the election debate and is always clear, calm and confident during interviews. I can totally see why people would vote for him.

Indeed, but I can think of a few 'great public speakers' that had awful policies. I agree, he is much nicer to listen to than most politician. He seems to answer the question being asked, for one. But again, it seems people forget the history because that doesn't mean anything if the actual party is a racist, and openly misogynistic.

wintersgold · 06/07/2024 08:54

ll09sm · 06/07/2024 00:27

Ooohhh, what’s it like on the pedestal high up looking down on 4 million people.

Is it cold up there? Can you give a weather forecast?

Excuse me? Who am I looking down on?

GingerPirate · 06/07/2024 08:54

SkippysEar · 05/07/2024 23:45

4 million people say fuck off back!

Yes, this.
And one saying it right now.
Took a look into the mirror - yes, it's still me.
😁

Stellarcasted · 06/07/2024 08:53

IwillNOTplayfastandloosewithpublicfinances · 06/07/2024 08:13

There are millions of people in the U.K. who are living in poverty - damp and inadequate housing, poorly educated, poor diet and health, stuck in low paid work. This is precisely where Farage places himself. He knows that where people feel disaffected and left behind, it’s human nature to want to blame something or someone. Farage exploits this. It’s the ‘they’re taking all our jobs’ mentality - it’s easier to point the finger than to take responsibility for the fact you haven’t got the life you think you should have. Extremism breeds amid generational poverty.

The sad thing is, Farage despises those in poverty and the poorly educated. He just manipulates them as vote fodder.

It’s very easy isn’t it to stand there and proclaim you will ‘take the country back.’ Reform say they will ‘turn the boats back to France.’ Ok. But they have to actually find the boats first! What are they going to do - have police permanently floating at regular intervals in the channel?

Once migrants have got to Calais it’s too late really. It’s far too simplistic to just say ‘send them back to France.’ Illegal migration is only going to increase as climate change takes hold - it’s a global issue that’s going to require global solutions (or part-solutions) - not silly quip populist headlines.

Here’s Farage claiming he is a ‘man of the people.’ What an utter joke. He wants to give tax breaks to people who use private schools ffs! How many people in Jayswick use private schools?

Do people who voted for Farage seriously think he could actually live among them for 5 minutes - once the cameras stop rolling? Will he be purchasing a chalet or other crap housing in his constituency now he has his seat? Or will he just stride in, inane grin like the Cheshire Cat as usual - but in reality he’s just holding his nose for the cameras. He despises the ‘little people’ (as he refers to them). It’s all carefully-curated photo-ops in a pub with a pint and a bit of flag waving with the elderly. That’s literally all he has to offer. He doesn’t have to offer realistic or ‘fact checked’ policies because he’ll never have to put them into practice.

The man was educated at Dulwich College and he was a nasty piece of work there. He has no plan for anyone other than himself. How people can see through him, I don’t know. He is truly vile. Fascist in a red waistcoat with a pint.

it’s easier to point the finger than to take responsibility for the fact you haven’t got the life you think you should have

Well, yes, when it's the governments fault they don't have the life they should have. Not everyone has the privilege required to lift themselves out of poverty when standards of living in every single area has been destroyed by the government.

There's a lot of people in my area who feel that stationing boats in the channel to turn back small boats would be an excellent solution. There's only a certain number of beaches that they can launch from and land on, so theoretically it wouldn't be that hard to police those beaches.

PinkiOcelot · 06/07/2024 08:52

What a surprise. No response from OP!

SallyWD · 06/07/2024 08:52

I agree but don't underestimate the enormous power of the right wing press in this country. They really are very successful at brainwashing those who live in areas of deprivation.

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