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Am I being OTT - 15 year old daughter….

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Normalnot · 05/07/2024 21:55

Walking from one friends house to another friends house (to get picked up). I’ve told her I’ll pick her up whenever she wants (no later than 11pm) and she said 10pm from Emily’s house that’s fine, but they’re walking back from Jodie’s house now which is nearer to our house! She’s with Emily so not alone but I can’t help worrying about two 15 years olds walking about at almost 10pm especially when I would have picked them both up from where they were….

I wish I could switch off but I find it so difficult. I know that she’ll be 16 in about 3/4 months but I still struggle.

What’s everyone else’s thoughts?

I will probably get flamed for adding this but I do think it’s relative - They are both really pretty girls and frustratingly attract unwanted attention - whether that he from boys a similar age or older creepy men 🤮 I’ve almost ran out of a restaurant telling a leery creep that she a child! I was so mad.

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CableCar · 05/07/2024 22:19

YANBU - statistically they'll be fine, although when I was 17 my friend got sexually assaulted while walking home from a party at 1am (dad had collected me at 11.30 and they wanted to stay later at the party, and their parents were happy for them to walk the 5mins home alone 😢)... Makes me all too aware of the consequences of that one time it's not ok. You have to allow them some independence at some point though. It's hard. I empathise hugely. My friend had severe trauma from what happened. The police never caught the guy 😢

SchoolQuestionnaire · 05/07/2024 22:14

Not the point of the thread but I’d be more concerned that they haven’t actually spent the evening at Jodie’s house. Surely she’d just get you to collect from there if they had.

stressedespresso · 05/07/2024 22:09

It’s summer, they’ll be far from the only people out walking, it’s still light outside and she’s not alone. You are overthinking.