To be tearing my hair out with colleague?

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BlueCheesePlease · 05/07/2024 19:01

Normally very on the ball but in the past few days...
Didn't seem to understand a very basic instruction (Think- Please go and get the paperwork from the office but she came back with a few pens) then today's incident. I asked when she could work next week. She gave me three days. Then kept deleting them and giving me a different set of days. Then saying she could adapt things so she could work the week then deciding she couldn't. This was done over text as she was at a hospital appointment at the time but my god it's like pulling teeth.
Aibu to feel like tearing my hair out?!

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Wormfanclub · 05/07/2024 19:10

The second I realised someone I managed or a colleague was at a hospital appointment (if I didn’t know already) I would cease communication. “Sorry I didn’t realise - please don’t worry about it now. We can catch up tomorrow.”

I think this is poor from you.

Angrymum22 · 05/07/2024 19:09

Do you think the hospital appointment may be a clue. When I was having biopsies and subsequent appointments for breast cancer I don’t think that my mind was completely in the here and now. I didn’t tell colleagues until the diagnosis was confirmed. Probably a month after screening flagged it up.

TeenLifeMum · 05/07/2024 19:08

Why are you messaging colleague when they're at an appointment?

sesquipedalian · 05/07/2024 19:04

Why were you texting her during a hospital appointment? I think she’s entitled to be able to attend it in peace, and not have to worry about work. It’s quite possible she was more than a little preoccupied about the appointment itself. I can see that her response was difficult for you - but I think you should have made allowances, and when you knew she was at a hospital appointment, you should have waited for a more appropriate time to ask about when she could work next week.

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