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To think you can tell if someone is a Statesman/woman by how they conduct themselves when they lose (or nearly lose)

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AssortedLabels · 05/07/2024 09:58

Some stark contrasts in how various politicians have conducted themselves when they lose.

George Galloway not even there. Liz Truss no reaction.

Jeremy Hunt almost loses but does so describing Keir Starmer and Rachel Reeves as “decent people” and sending his best wishes.

Penny Mourdant takes it on the chin and does a nice speech.

I just think you can tell a lot about how people react.

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LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 07/07/2024 12:06

SharonEllis · 07/07/2024 10:08

I don't think we're surprised the transfer of power & behaviour at most of the counts was peaceful - more relieved that it STILL is. This is compared to other comparable democracies like the US and compared to the nastiness of some of our recent politics, especially Brexit but also the Johnson/Farage/Anderson brand of populism & the frightening behaviour of some people in protests such as anti-Israel protests.

Absolutely this. Politics in recent years has become very ugly, here and in America. It’s a relief when it all goes peacefully rather than expected these days. What happened to Jess Phillips was shocking and disgusting, and I would think that even if I didn’t rate her as a politician. I hate Braverman (as a random example) and everything she stands for but I wouldn’t want her to be harassed like that either.

I honestly wouldn’t want to try and predict the USA result in November but look what happened last time Trump lost. People literally died because of his tantrums.

SharonEllis · 07/07/2024 10:08

FOJN · 07/07/2024 09:41

I agree OP. Whatever you think about the individuals and how they performed in office I think how they handle defeat tells you a lot about them. I'm not fans of either Truss or Mordant but there was a stark contrast in how they behaved after they lost.

I actually found a grudging respect for Penny Mordant being so dignified and gracious when she delivered her speech. I suspect Truss was upset and trying to retain her composure, which suggests she might be too thin skinned for politics, but her remarks since reveal that she is also quite deluded and arrogant.

I hadn't seen the Neil Evans clip but he seems very sincere in that short speech.

I'm surprised and slightly concerned that people think it's remarkable the transfer was peaceful. I don't recall it ever being any other way. Some people are more gracious than others but I don't recall any violence. What happened to Jess Phillips was appalling but it is not the norm.

I don't think we're surprised the transfer of power & behaviour at most of the counts was peaceful - more relieved that it STILL is. This is compared to other comparable democracies like the US and compared to the nastiness of some of our recent politics, especially Brexit but also the Johnson/Farage/Anderson brand of populism & the frightening behaviour of some people in protests such as anti-Israel protests.

LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 07/07/2024 09:52

Fully agree. It gives me a new respect for some of them. Not enough to vote Tory ever because they just don’t align with what is important to me, but sort of “JH isn’t a total fuckwit after all”.

Apparently Truss had a tantrum to begin with and refused to go on stage for the results so those were held up while her people tried to cajole her. And even when she was there she looked like a mannequin who’d done a line of ket. Not at all surprised by her shitty attitude. Or Galloway’s. He’s an odious prick too.

Hoppinggreen · 07/07/2024 09:44

PandaChopChop · 06/07/2024 08:05

Yes I agree. Did you see Steve Bakers speech? About how being an MP was a dreadful job and he was delighted that his constituents "set him free". What an absolute baby. Should have stood aside years ago if he felt like that!

His TV interview where he mixed up who had asked him a question and started having a go at George Osborne (Ed Balls was the one who actually asked) was hilarious.
Baker showed himself to be a nasty petty churlish Dick while Osborne just sat looking bemused

FOJN · 07/07/2024 09:41

I agree OP. Whatever you think about the individuals and how they performed in office I think how they handle defeat tells you a lot about them. I'm not fans of either Truss or Mordant but there was a stark contrast in how they behaved after they lost.

I actually found a grudging respect for Penny Mordant being so dignified and gracious when she delivered her speech. I suspect Truss was upset and trying to retain her composure, which suggests she might be too thin skinned for politics, but her remarks since reveal that she is also quite deluded and arrogant.

I hadn't seen the Neil Evans clip but he seems very sincere in that short speech.

I'm surprised and slightly concerned that people think it's remarkable the transfer was peaceful. I don't recall it ever being any other way. Some people are more gracious than others but I don't recall any violence. What happened to Jess Phillips was appalling but it is not the norm.

EasternStandard · 07/07/2024 09:40

imfae · 06/07/2024 08:11

I totally agree . Both Sunak and Starmer handled it very well and were gracious to each other . I think Starmer acknowledging the extra difficulty for Sunak as being the first Asian Prime Minister was good . Especially in light of the racism Sunak recently encountered via the Reform party .

Stark contrast to Trump .

I totally understand that the last six weeks have been exhausting and emotionally charged for all those politicians who were likely to be ousted . However they are fully aware that this is the very nature of politics and that we live in a democratic society .

I think it is also a great lesson for our children about how to handle losing and not to encourage trouncing off .

I appreciated the reversal in tone re Rishi Sunak being Asian as I found the previous rhetoric quite upsetting

Nice that he said something positive about Starmer on resigning

KnittedCardi · 07/07/2024 09:34

The reality is though, and many people seem surprised by this, that behind closed doors politicians of all parties are actually good friends. They have their political differences, but socially get on well. Many of them work together on APPG's and like and respect one another.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 07/07/2024 09:33

Completely agree, OP.

Penny Mordaunt and Jeremy Hunt both gave really gracious speeches.

Liz Truss was godawful. I didn't think I had any respect for her left to lose but I was wrong.

ACynicalDad · 07/07/2024 09:33

Ponoka7 · 06/07/2024 07:42

The Nazi leaders were charming and I've read accounts of camp survivors, they were very polite during interrogations. Did you watch Mourdant lying during the debates? Are you holding up Truss as someone who knows how to conduct herself and someone with integrity? Did you watch Hunt leaving with his wife? He even had to be reminded to let her get into the car first, she trails behind him and he's happy to let her. I find them chilling tbh.

This says very little about you.

CurlewKate · 07/07/2024 09:31

I do think that one thing public school teaches people is the whole "three cheers for the losers!" rhetoric. It doesn't always translate into actual behaviour- but it serves them well at these 3 minutes every 5 year events. Worth every penny.....

Northernnature · 07/07/2024 09:25

Less people voted for tory or Labour than ever. I think as the vote fragments further and clearly unfair results are seen (this time Reform coming third but only getting 5 seats), there will be more voices calling for pr. Unfortunately as both tories and Labour benefit from the system there is unlikely to be change as ironically whoever wins each election benefits from fptp. Labour only got twice reforms votes but ended up with 360 odd seats.

Moonshiners · 07/07/2024 09:22

I was very impressed by Penny Mordant and Rees Mogg even though I find their views pretty awful on most things.
Truss was an embarrassment and Galloway one could not expect any less.

Zanatdy · 07/07/2024 09:19

I was also very impressed by both Sunak and Starmer and the way they spoke about their opponents. It really is a good example to the world how democracy can exist without violence. I was even impressed by Mogg and that’s saying something. I feel it should have been Boris standing there apologising.

SharonEllis · 07/07/2024 09:14

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 07/07/2024 09:10

Indeed and it y seems that the first past the post system we have was only problematic for some when ,Conservative kept winning ,I have not heard much about it since the results of this election.

You can't be serious? There have been multiple threads on here about the unfairness, not to mention elsewhere.

I can't remember hearing so much about PR as I have in the last few days.

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 07/07/2024 09:10

Indeed and it y seems that the first past the post system we have was only problematic for some when ,Conservative kept winning ,I have not heard much about it since the results of this election.

You can't be serious? There have been multiple threads on here about the unfairness, not to mention elsewhere.

x2boys · 07/07/2024 09:00

Northernnature · 07/07/2024 08:53

Yes I think in general the right are much more generous in defeat than the left. That is because as many have said the left think the right are evil (and their supporters are racists and/or morons) whereas the right think the left are just misguided. This can be carried over to the Brexit referendum. I notice that the people who went on about how only a minority voted for brexit (36% of voting public??) have nothing to say on Labour winning with an even smaller minority (22%, of voting public).

Indeed and it y seems that the first past the post system we have was only problematic for some when ,Conservative kept winning ,I have not heard much about it since the results of this election. 🤔

thecatsthecats · 07/07/2024 08:59

Takoneko · 06/07/2024 07:56

I found it very heartening to see how gracious many of the concession and victory speeches were. I think is is good that Starmer and Sunak’s speeches were both really respectful of their opponent. I thought Starmer was gracious in victory and Sunak gracious in defeat.

That seemed to be the case in many of the constituency speeches. As you rightly point out, Hunt, Mourdant etc. spoke really well.

it does feel like grown ups are in charge again.

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Yes - I remember Corbyn refusing to talk to Johnson and just thought, FFS. If our politicians can't act with dignity in office, discuss and negotiate, we're fucked.

I've actually made a career of my ability to get people I disagree with to nudge their position - WHEN I TALK TO THEM.

I hope we're leaving partisan politics behind as much as possible.

Northernnature · 07/07/2024 08:53

Yes I think in general the right are much more generous in defeat than the left. That is because as many have said the left think the right are evil (and their supporters are racists and/or morons) whereas the right think the left are just misguided. This can be carried over to the Brexit referendum. I notice that the people who went on about how only a minority voted for brexit (36% of voting public??) have nothing to say on Labour winning with an even smaller minority (22%, of voting public).

Waitingfordoggo · 07/07/2024 08:53

That Nigel Evans clip is lovely! I’ve never voted Cons and probably never will but he came across really well.

Takoneko · 07/07/2024 08:50

x2boys · 07/07/2024 08:35

That's the difference between Tory voters and some Labour voters ,every other election result in recent years have had angry Labour voters demanding to know why people voted differently to them and calling voters thick and stupid for not voting the way they think they should
I have not seen nearly aa much backlash from Tory voters although elections result isn't a huge surprise .

I’m a Labour voter and don’t think this is entirely untrue. However, I do think that this is less about some inherent superiority of Tory voters and more about the fact that Labour have put forward a pretty bland, competent, moderate, unifying candidate. Sunak is also a pretty bland, middle of the road figure.

Boris Johnson was not any of those things and nor was Corbyn. An election between two populist, cult of personality types whips up that sort of response and you end up with winners who are not gracious in victory and losers who are not gracious in defeat. You also had campaigns in 2019 that were all about whipping up fear of the other side. They were very negative campaigns.

Thw different response this time is a product of a very different, much less personal and more respectful campaign,

HMTheQueenMuffin · 07/07/2024 08:49

magicmole · 06/07/2024 08:22

A clip from one of the losing Tories was doing the rounds on Twitter yesterday. He'd been an MP since the 90s. Rather than slink away or disappear in a strop he chose to publicly send best wishes to the new MP and to Starmer's government. I doubt Nigel Evans and I would agree on anything politically (and definitely not on Brexit) but he clearly had great affection for the people/place he represented in Lancashire. Even though they've just booted him out after 30 years!

https://x.com/nigelmp/status/1809079126281552134

That was a lovely clip.

Blackcats7 · 07/07/2024 08:44

Truss sulks outside until a slow handclap forces her return then says not a word of thanks or congratulation. Still won’t accept an iota of responsibility for the damage she did.Writes a book about her own wonderfulness.
Johnson scuttles off before he can be sacked. Writes a book about his own wonderfulness.
Dorries throws a tantrum, takes money for months for zero work then resigns blaming everyone else. Writes a book about her beloved’s wonderfulness.
Trump lies and eggs on his supporters to violence. Psychopath with nobody else in his psychotic league except Putin and Kim Jong Un. Obviously Trump wins the not a statesman prize.
At least Sunak had good manners. I thought more of him in his acceptance of defeat than I have ever thought of him before.

TeenLifeMum · 07/07/2024 08:36

Totally agree. Our mp didn’t clap his opponent and refused a hand shake. Just about summed him up to be honest.

x2boys · 07/07/2024 08:35

BMW6 · 06/07/2024 10:23

YANBU. We have shown the world how to do it (with a few exceptions) calmly, graciously and WITHOUT VIOLENCE

Where were all the angry Tory voters protesting the result in London chanting "Not my PM"?
I remember disgruntled Labour voters doing just than in 2019!

That's the difference between Tory voters and some Labour voters ,every other election result in recent years have had angry Labour voters demanding to know why people voted differently to them and calling voters thick and stupid for not voting the way they think they should
I have not seen nearly aa much backlash from Tory voters although elections result isn't a huge surprise .

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 07/07/2024 08:32

There was that awful man (from the workers party) who Jess Phillips beat. When she went down the line of other candidates shaking their hands, he just stared straight past her and wouldn't shake her hand.

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