Would give date a head’s up that it’s your time of the month?

I wouldn't. I'd go, stay the night, get very steamy but not actually have sex. You don't need to say why. Just have fun and leave yourselves both wanting more next time. There's not enough lead up these days.

No. You do t have to justify why you're not having sex. You don't want to. End of.

This. I was going to say the same thing.

"FFS - I was looking forward to a shag" - Red flag
"Ah, that's a shame - let's just have a cuddle instead - do you need any paracetamol or anything" - Green flag!

Yes if I was planning to go back to his. Having said that I wouldn't have penis in vag sex on my first time sleeping with a guy. I'd see how good he was at giving head and then decide from there.

I personally wouldn’t message that. I would let him know in the moment, so he is aware and based on how you feel about it (would you mind having sex on your period?)

I know myself that I can still very much be in the mood but might not like being on the receiving end the first few days, though happily would still want to “do things”. So I would just mention it as an FYI before starting like “I am on my period, not sure I am keen on being touched but happy to proceed with the rest” or “I am on my period and unless that’s a problem with you, I am
happy to take it further but just wanted to let you know as everyone feels a different way about it” or simple an “sorry but my period just started and I would have loved to take things further tonight but really can’t.”

His reaction to this will further highlight if he is someone you need to keep seeing or not.

Personally I don’t feel I need an announcement if someone I am starting to see is on her period. I am happy going as far as someone is comfortable going and never further and if that’s no sex on their period then that’s fine, I would rather they tell me when things start getting heated than them telling me by text before the date as I would feel like they see me as a potential sex pest who they assume expect sex, when I never do and that would definitely put me off a little.

In that case I'd let him know. For me personally I wouldn't want my first time with someone new to be while I've got my period, so I'd be breezy but give him the heads up.

What? No. Don't text him that. It's weird. What's he meant to respond with? He'll probably be wondering why you've told him that and what he's expected to say. Maybe he'll think you'd prefer to curl up at home with a hot water bottle. If he thinks that, and tries to offer a reschedule, you'll be back here outraged.

There are plenty of other ways to get intimate.

Yeah I'd mention it because as much as people go on with the faux outrage, there's very much an insinuation that sex is on the cards when you plan to spend the night with someone you're dating.

And yes his reaction would be quite interesting.

I agree!

I assume the plan was to have sex which is why OP was planning to spend the night.

OP would be just as disappointed as him.

Some of the replies are quite odd.

Not sure why people are automatically jumping on the "men are awful creatures only after one thing" bandwagon.

They're adults on their 7th date and assuming OP wants to have sex with this man, probably doesn't want to have to blurt it out when things start getting "heated"! It's more about it not being awkward in the moment in my opinion so yes I would text him in a lighthearted / jokey way and then just enjoy the evening both knowing the score...

Unless you had very specifically planned a sex fest and both super looking forward to it or any planning had gone into it then maybe a heads up. But even then being a grown adult you'd both be able to manage the change of plans without a heads up.

Surely he is just expecting your company period or not he shouldn't need a heads up. His response and behavior either way will be very telling what kind of person he is.

Yes if you are staying the night then I would assume you were both expecting sex.

I would tell him so he knows not to try anything.

There’s nothing worse when things start to get steamy and then you have to stop.

It may be that you both decide to go ahead with the plan or change it for next weekend instead.

Depends if you've already had sex or not. But to be fair your whole date shouldn't need to be about sex anyway, a bit more substance would show he doesn't care about that on every occasion.

I think you could say something like Tonight will need to be "uneventful" my period arrived unexpectedly. and then he knows plans have changed.

When I first met my new (but now old partner) I would tell him and he responded by saying ‘well that’s it I’m not taking you out for a meal’ he was joking and we carried on as normal - but, in my old life of my ex was being nice I knew I had to say if I had my period because there was only one reason he was nice and ultimately the niceness stopped.
I think you have to be open about these things.

I would very casually text and say "just so you know, I've unexpectedly started my period".

And see what he says!

I think on the 7th date and organising to stay at his, it sounds like there may be some hint at doing sexual things.

As PP said, his response will tell you a lot about him.

We shouldn't be worried about talking about our periods. They are very normal and natural and someone who is immature about them definitely wouldn't be having sex with me.

I think waiting to the very last second is kind of awkward. Better to be breezy and open from the beginning about the topic.

Also for your comfort... so if he is going to be a jerk, it's over text and not in person

I mean, there needs to be more context.
already had sex? Tell him your on so don’t get too excited, unless he has an old towel he can put down!

Havent had sex yet? Wouldn’t say anything unless it starts heading that way later on in the night. You don’t owe him or any other man a pre-warning that you won’t have sex that night after a date. It’s not a prize.

Well if they’ve been sexting and have a sex filled date planned, not really.

I think it would be incredibly weird to text him in the morning to tell him you were on your period.

This

I think you definitely don't need to. However I personally would tell him if you have already had sex or you feel like tonight would have been right for the first time.

Like another poster said say something in passing like you are going to buy chocolate because you have your period

Telling him and his response will say a lot about him.

Was the plan to have sex? Have you had sex with him before?