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Slightly offended DGM announced I 'married well'

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Jackjackjackaroo · 04/07/2024 21:36

For the record, DGM has form for being very spiteful, lots of backhanded compliments and general bitterness towards others doing well for themselves.
At a large Family gathering yesterday I overheard her saying how lucky I am to have DH because of his Job and that I should be grateful I married well.
Yes, DH does have a very successful job, we are comfortable but due to the nature of his Work, he is often an absent Father / Husband and has been for Years.
I on the other hand, earn pennies but have spent my entire career working for Charities, volunteering, fundraising and raising awareness. My upbringing was truly terrible so my life's mission has always been to help others, DH supports that wholeheartedly.

Not sure where I'm going with this post, perhaps just a rant, but I can't help but feel annoyed that my contribution to society is so overlooked by Salary!

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Pottedpalm · 04/07/2024 22:36

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 04/07/2024 21:39

Tell her that her retirement funds paid your dowry and as of 2025 her new home will be a kennel.

That is a disgusting thing to say.

justasking111 · 04/07/2024 22:24

As my son would say grannies got no filter.

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Jackjackjackaroo · 04/07/2024 22:24

@Allfur That's exactly what my DM said! The others in conversation where very complimentary of Me and then she was heard saying "Oh yes yes of course Jackjackjackaroo is very lovely" but it's still grated on Me Sad

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Whitesky75 · 04/07/2024 22:22

Im sure a lot of people want to do charity, but cannot as they have to earn to pay bills and put food on the table.

You are lucky that your DH earns enough to enable you to take up charity jobs. You definitely married well. Nothing wrong with what your relative said.

CyanideShake · 04/07/2024 22:18

assuming she's elderly I'd have said people of that generation were more pragmatic about marriage and by their measures you did marry well.

but she sounds like a pain in the bum in general, so just roll your eyes and drop some sleep inducing brandy in her horlicks.

Penguinfeet24 · 04/07/2024 22:18

Why do people let people talk about them like this?! I'd have said very loudly back that he didn't so too badly for himself either did he? Don't put up with this passive aggressive crap!

Allfur · 04/07/2024 22:14

'Yes, he's a lucky bugger too'

QuickMember · 04/07/2024 21:40

Jackjackjackaroo · 04/07/2024 21:36

For the record, DGM has form for being very spiteful, lots of backhanded compliments and general bitterness towards others doing well for themselves.
At a large Family gathering yesterday I overheard her saying how lucky I am to have DH because of his Job and that I should be grateful I married well.
Yes, DH does have a very successful job, we are comfortable but due to the nature of his Work, he is often an absent Father / Husband and has been for Years.
I on the other hand, earn pennies but have spent my entire career working for Charities, volunteering, fundraising and raising awareness. My upbringing was truly terrible so my life's mission has always been to help others, DH supports that wholeheartedly.

Not sure where I'm going with this post, perhaps just a rant, but I can't help but feel annoyed that my contribution to society is so overlooked by Salary!

That wouldn’t sit well me either. Someone especially in the family disrespecting me basically. Hope you don’t feel too deflated. This was an ignorant comment your dgm made.

HappierTimesAhead · 04/07/2024 21:39

People who value kindness and compassion will commend you for choosing a career that helps other (I do!) but bitter, nasty people like your DGM will only have spiteful comments to make. It sucks but it is what it is.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 04/07/2024 21:39

Tell her that her retirement funds paid your dowry and as of 2025 her new home will be a kennel.