To kick him out 3 days after he moved in!?

I am currently making him meals

WTF are you doing this?

shameful, unpleasant and unnecessarily offensive, altered the whole tone of the thread, as @IncompleteSenten said, the OP will have gone away, disheartened
and probably upset, because you couldn’t resist, could you?

When I first read your post I imagined you were early 20s with young kids and a millennium boyfriend of about the same age. But you have teenagers! So either he is a toy boy or he is old enough to know better. Still staying at his mums ? Sleeping all day? Going on lads' holidays? Not working if he can't be bothered? Is he 22?! Sorry, unless he is still a kid he shouldn't be doing this.

Sounds like you're dating a teenager, dump him, get yourself a man next time..........

Please show him the door.
Other than paying himself what is he planning to do with his inheritance? Buying a flat/house to rent it out while living in yours?

You're right. There are different ways to say things and choosing to stick the boot in in as nasty and insulting a way as possible is only going to make the op walk away from the thread when she might otherwise have chosen to read it and take some of the good advice.

Nobody's going to sit and read umpteen pages of people telling them they're a terrible person and then be open to following advice from their attackers.

It's easy to end up being harsher than you ought to be, I'm guilty of it myself at times, but it's not a good thing and it should be avoided really. That's a person with feelings on the other side of the screen and I think it's too easy to forget that sometimes.

You have been totally stupid op, but you have acknowledged this and early in too.

Get him out and apologise to your daughters.

You have got this...show your girls your strengh and that they come first.

Best of luck x

OP you are getting a hard time, I agree, but posters will be doing this because of their experience of previous posters in your situation that often don’t get what’s wrong with letting, say, a man with no ambition nor regular work they’ve only dated a year move in with their teen daughters, so Mumsnet are coming at you hard in case you’ll be stubborn seeing how bad this is. You’ve fucked up but you do actually see it. We all fuck up, I’ve made some absolute shockers. What do you want to do next? Are you going to send him home, break up with him…?

I'm not saying there's no risk to bring an unrelated male into a household, trust me, I know better than anyone.. loads of people have brought that up with OP already and I'm sure she's aware of the risks herself, that's not what I'm talking about and you know it.

To say, "bet he's been telling his mates he's going to shag her and her daughters" is just nasty.. it's not based in fact, it's not constructive or helpful.. it's designed purely to be hurtful and it's done for no other reason then to give you a sense of self satisfaction.

It's the nature of the anonymous forum though, it gives you free reign to say the sort of nasty remarks you would never dare say to someone's face.

Like I said, well done, hope it made you feel good.

You're naive.

I despair of people on this site at times, it's like you can't wait to think up the worst possible scenarios in any given situation, which there is absolutely no evidence or hints of in any of OPs posts, and nothing to do with the reason she is posting, just to bash the OP over the head with it for your own entertainment.

I think some people obviously use this site as an outlet for their own dissatisfaction in life purely to ridicule and kick people while they are down, obviously makes you feel more superior.

Well done you.

His bed is probably on eBay as we speak…

Unlikely. He's got his feet well and truly under the table there and he'll do anything and say anything to stay there. He'll make all the right noises and still manage to get away with schlepping his airbed downstairs because he can't be arsed to put blinds up.

How's it going Op, has he left yet? Hope you're ok.

Tell him it just isn't working and you want him to go back to his parents. The longer you take to ask the harder it will become, and you find yourself putting up with more of this shit but also feeling more unreasonable for asking him to go.

And to clarify, you AREN'T being unreasonable!

So aside from everything else that is worrying about your post, you have a 26 year old "boyfriend" living with your 15 and 16 year old daughters???

Wow. Sorry but you've put yourself and not wanting to be single above your own children. Awful.

This 😂

Shrivelled up is good, if it means dragging no more kids into this.

Also, where is the girls father in all this ; does he not show concern
that a young single man is now living in a house with his 15 and 16
year old daughters?

“gives head a wobble”

I’d take a step back, ask him to move out, explain you think you’ve rushed things and have him stay over a couple of nights a week.

Well done ladies, I’m proud of you all : this is why and how this site flourishes,
now the vipers are off on another thread, admonishing some hapless person, suggesting they give their heads a wobble and other nonsense.

Horrible? no not at all - as posters have pointed out, Tough Love dispensed here,
in fact some of the most lucid, obvious, concerned remarks Ive read in a while -
OP you have girls of 15/16 in a new house and moved in a 26 year old shiftless
man straight from a lads - your description - holiday?! and you think you are
going to get kindness and sympathy?
We can offer compassion in spades on here for the vulnerable and do, but you
have been foolish, unwise, reckless even and test our collective patience.

As a single parent of teenage girls and always watchful, I would suggest that you quickly Grow Up !! and be a mother first and send that legiron packing.
I would probably burn the sheets too.

Yep!

OP is upset that she is getting harsh replies but I don’t know what she expected.

As an adult you can do what you want but when there are kids involved there’s nothing worse than when people act so irresponsibly like this.

She moved a man in to her kids home, without him ever even spending the night there.
She’s only been with him a year.
She moved him in knowing full well he wasn’t working.
He hasn’t helped with the house move, cooking or cleaning at all.
He’s barely spent any time with OP or her kids, since she allowed him to move in with them.
And what’s worse, she has been bringing him his meals whilst he lays in bed and does nothing.

What an awful message to send to your teenage kids.

It wouldn’t surprise me if he was still living there and she has no intention of kicking him out.

Yet another emotionally inconsiderate who puts her need for a man before the emotional consideration of her children. Grow up. Makes my blood boil.