To kick him out 3 days after he moved in!?

Making him meals and taking them to him…he would starve in my house.

@YourRubyBee the relationships board would have been a much kinder place for you, you might be able to get the thread moved.

If your kids are sons, don't teach them that it's ok to treat a partner like this.

If your kids are daughters, don't teach them that they have to accept partners who treat them like this.

Have never used mumsnet before, but what a horrible place it can be. I asked for advice, I realise I've been an idiot here and I'm going to resolve it this evening.
Nobody has been horrible actually. Most people have been quite restrained even about him. We've just agreed with you that your actions have been stupid.

Good to see you are fixing your mistake. Onwards and upwards.

Can you please answer why you’re bringing him meals?!?!

You have a man child. I wouldn't be cooking for him and waiting on him hand and foot.

I would get him to do a COVID test though.

Why are YOU cooking him meals and serving them to him ?

Why would you knowingly move a man that's unemployed and loves sunbeds, pubs and mates ?

You've essentially moved a "stranger" in to your home.

You spent 3 nights together locked in his bedroom like teenagers.

…on a scale of 1-10 about 42….get him dumped!

Cutting the crap and emotions out of this, I'm not a "divorce him, boot him out" snowflake, I just came back from a weekend away with covid, and slept for 2 days. 100% out of character, I'm up at 5 every morning for a walk before waking the household with teas etc.
If he has the same covid strain give him another 24 hour then he will be right. If he's a lazy B he'll still be moaning in bed then give him the boot.

Straight back out @YourRubyBee - tell him you can review the situation in a few months when he is holding down a proper job, if it helps to persuade him to leave now. Then breathe a sigh of relief, explain to your kids why it was a huge mistake and resolve not to do it again! Good luck!

Wow he’s a keeper isn’t he? Value yourself and your children, you deserve better.

What??? You introduced him to your kids already?? JFC

@YourRubyBee I think you're getting quite a hard time here ... but think of it as tough love.

You might have been stupid - and it's the easiest thing in the world for others to throw their hands up in despair and outrage.

We all make bad decisions sometimes, and in fairness to you, I'm guessing you didn't expect him to behave like he has been. Why would you? You had a vision of how life would be with him, and he's monumentally disappointed you.

But ... the good thing is that he's not wasted any time in shattering your expectations. And you've seen him very clearly for who he is and how he wants to live in your home. I'd call that a win.

Because, before he gets settled and things get complicated by his feet under the table, you can say clearly and assertively, sorry, this is a mistake. You need to move out again. Immediately.

Don't whatever you do hold out hope that things might get better, that you'll persuade him to be a good presence in your home. I did that and it was the biggest mistake of my life.

You know - and everyone here is telling you - that you've made a mistake. That's okay. Just like another mistake, act NOW to correct it and minimise any fallout. And apologise to your kids and move on happily, forever grateful to have sidestepped the cocklodger bullet.

He’s a cocklodger & hes ok
He drinks all night & sleeps all day
He’s a cocklidger & he’s ok
He does no work & gets his end away

in all honesty, its like you have a teenage child, the way he is acting now seems to be the way he will act forever. He never spends time with you or your children or even take the dog for a walk? seems like your smashing being a single mother to the children you have. you dont need him send him back to his parents! let them look after their child he isnt yours.

hope everything works out for you and your children but honestly get rid. easier said then done but you dont need that in your life nore your childrens. remember your worth and thats a lot more then what he is giving you right now.#

you can do this queen.

Get him out - he's not working and mooching off you! Why on earth are you making his meals and allowing him to lie in bed for days in your house??

You’re tak8ng h8m meals up in bed?! Blimey, can I move in too? 🤣

You moved a man in you've known for less than a year, who'd never stayed at your house and you have two kids?

You really are mother of the year... your poor children.

Send him back to Mummy and daddy !!!!! you deserve better

A 26 year old boyman who isn't even working, is sponging off of you, and expecting you in mummy form to look after him. Ick.

I'm not kicking you when you already know this, but this is deeply unwise behaviour. How would you have felt at 15 or 16 if your mother had moved in someone you'd only met on days out or for meals out into your house, where he spent his time asleep for days at a time after a bender on holiday, and even when he recovers from his holiday, apparently his normal is unemployment, sunbeds and the gym? He's almost as close to your teenagers' age as he is to yours, OP -- is this really what you want them to think is a normal adult life, and a normal adult relationship? How would you feel if your daughter moved in a layabout she had to skivvy for and pay for?

At 26 and lazing about living on inheritance instead of working or building his own business this suggests to me that he manages money badly and only works when he has to.

Chuck him out right now. He can go back to Mummy and Daddy.