Ex appears to have ghosted me, I'm devastated

This.

If someone did this to me, I’d be off like a shot. That is seriously warped behaviour.

99% sure he's met someone else

Op he sounds awful - you deserve better. It doesn’t matter that you ended things with him - it was never going to work. He would have never committed to you and he would have continued to mock you and erode your confidence. You have done yourself a huge favour in finishing things with him. The mistake you have made is keeping in touch and trying to sort things out - he clearly doesn’t want to. Although it hurts it is better that he has done this - how long would you have gone on like this trying to make him want you and “work things out”? You deserve better than that - time to lick your wounds and find someone who respects you and treats you well.

I refuse to believe you are 34 the way you have been posting. You sound like a love sick 18 year old. You left, he isn’t right for you, move on! Why on earth have you been texting for 8 months

”why send me jokey messages and accept to go out for dinner then block me” you both sound like teens

I have empathy for you Op and hear how hurt you are - I think people are being tactless here - but the truth is any outside can see this wasn't a healthy situation to stay in.

And you only get one life - stop waiting around and feeling hurt still about a guy you - rightly - ended a relationship with - and move on.

The obvious answers OP are

1. He’s bored of it now
2. He’s moved on and found somebody else to text and see

You’ll never know which one it is, don’t torture yourself thinking about it. What matters is it is done, it’s time to move on

That is absolutely mental

It hurts to be blocked. Even if you don't like someone, it's a proper kick to your ego. And you love this guy. But, it is for the best. All your reasons for ending it are very valid. He's just managed to have the last word without actually saying anything.

He sounds like an abusive twat and you sound like a giddy 16 year old trying to analyse everything.

ghosting you is possibly the one good turn he’s done you!

move on and be with someone that treats you with respect and dignity

Yep exactly this.

It’s the “ripping the plaster off” analogy really.

I know you love him and that makes the idea of not being with him painful but love is worthless if you are not being treated well.

Well yes-it's hard to understand how someone could love someone who doesn't treat them well.

Did you do a post ages ago about the whole sauces thing? It sounds familiar?
Anyway he sounds like an utter wanker who did a number on your self esteem. Ghosting you will do you a favour I wouldn't waste any more time on him. Presumably he's met someone else by now.

You should have run from his abuse not wanted him as a lifelong partner he's a prize arse what do you get from him?

It wasn't clear originally that despite you breaking up with him, you actually wanted to get back together and have spent the last few months trying to get that to happen. I understand that this step by your ex, which is pretty clear and final, means that what you hoped for won't now happen. Of course that will hurt. But you can't force someone to maintain contact when they don't want to and when they have moved on.

He sounds like an absolutely pathetic immature wanker - what on earth about this fucking prince makes him an attractive prospect?

Hes kept you dangling on a string until he got a better offer by sounds of it. The fact he’s literally stopped replying probably means he’s got someone else as a new plaything now and you’ve served your purpose.

Tbh you’ve been given a lot of good advice on here but your spikey responses show you’re not ready to hear it.

Stop wasting your life giving headspace trying to understand something you might never really have an answer to and move on.

Then it becomes his sole responsibility to cook and shop for food not your problem...

But you left him why do you want him back?

We know it hurts. Most of us have been there. Most of you as are trying to tell you you are hurting yourself by prolonging this and listening to a fake and pointless narrative.

There is one poster on here who is really trying to make me feel bad and keeps repeating 'you dumped him, you dumped him.' as if I just did it out of the blue and for no reason, and even though I wrote I tried to get us back together shortly after but he didn't want to.

This is, I think, the source if the confusion. Most posters here think that ehen you left him you were taking a strong stand to end the relationship because he was awful to you and he would not commit to giving you what you wanted in the relationship. We all applaud that! This is not fault finding with you. You had great reasons for endung itX and you communicated those reasons. So: not out of the blue or for no reason.

But no one cares about the timing or cause of a breakup. Its not a negotiation snd its not an olympic sport with scores from the judges.

The truth is, though, you didn’t have the courage of your convictions. You didn’t choose to end it you would have preferred to stay with him. However aside from the texting snd accepting a free meal from you he isn’t interested in getting back eith you officially.

Your daring move if leaving in the first place was really s bluff. Actually you just want to go right back into this shitty relationship. Sorry if posters here think you had a lucky escape.

You are like a person who woke up and left her house one night and the house burned down after. You are still arguing “I didn’t mean to leave! The smoke detector didn’t even go off! I left a lot of important stuff behind.” We are trying to tell you that could all be true but the house is totaled, burned, done, gone. There is nothing to go back to.

It doesn't matter though if it ever happened to me, because I wouldn't have an issue with not being in contact with an ex. Because they are ex! (Assuming no children to deal with contact and so on).

100% this. You need to change your breakup story. The narrative you tell yourself is so important. You dumped him because he treated you poorly, made you feel bad, and didn't make you feel like he was madly in love with you. Very valid reasons. You still cared about him and wanted to stay in touch but he's now decided it's not for him. He's the one who's lost out here. Not you. Reframe your story and start telling yourself the positive version of what actually happened. Listen to the How to get over your ex by Breakup coach Dorothy. It's helped me massively.

Omg

why are you so desperate to rekindle something with someone who from every example you’ve given has quite obviously treated you like shit!

I know you love him and that makes the idea of not being with him painful but love is worthless if you are not being treated well.

you deserve better than this and I don’t know why you can’t see that.

Agreed.

Lets hope what doesn’t happen to any of us OP? That our ex who we chose to separate from finally does us a favour and moves on after 8 months? It’s not a hardship, it’s a positive thing.