Ex appears to have ghosted me, I'm devastated

Despite breaking up with him, you clearly still have feelings for him. This is why (sucky as it is) him going no contact with you is the right thing to do and what you should have done from the start.
Look at it this way, imagine someone dumped you and then still tried to keep you in their life. Headf**k much? Everyone has a right to move on and for his own pride he’s probably had enough of this dance you two have been playing. I’m assuming you have no kids, so there is no reason to stay friends. If you did stay friends how would future new partner’s feel about this? Accepting an ex in someone’s life is part and parcel when they have kids together, but with no kids or other deep lifelong connections it doesn’t exactly scream “emotionally available/committed.”
It’s time to move on. If you were meant to be it would have worked. You need to let him go now.

First of all, of course you were absolutely right to leave him. He sounds like a complete arsehole.

However, I don't think you can automatically expect someone to keep replying to your messages once the relationship's over. You ended the relationship and he's entitled not to have any contact with you. I appreciate that ghosting you is a hurtful way of stopping contact, and he clearly should have told you that he'd rather not stay in touch - but it's not unreasonable of him to want to leave the relationship behind now that you're no longer together. To be honest, it doesn't sound like staying in touch was at all healthy for you anyway, so it's probably a blessing in disguise. I'd block him and make it a clean break.

Don’t worry OP he’ll be back…..giving you a few crumbs to lure you in then he can treat you even worse. He sensed you pulling away and now wants control. This will happen. All part of his game and you’re falling for it.

You should be celebrating getting rid of such a wanker

It is a bit messed up that you regret leaving someone who was so unpleasant to you.

I think the no contact is a good opportunity to try to undo some of the conditioning that it's ruling your thinking right now.

This is giving me Rob from The Archers vibes.

Was he hoping for a shag the other night, but just got dinner instead, hence ghosting? (He would still of ghosted whatever the outcome)

He sounds nasty with all his negging, fast forward a few years and you'll be glad he's gone.

This!

You wouldn’t have friends who laughed at your hair and made snide remarks about your cooking, would you?

im friendly with a couple of ex’s , but its an occasional catch up in the pub once or twice a year. Wishing them happy birthday on Facebook kind of friend. And they were nice guys where the relationship just ran its course- no bad treatment.

its not helpful to stay in such regular contact.

what has happened is that you haven’t exactly split up …you’ve been hoping to get back together and this has really been the death throes of the relationship.

you’ve only just broken up now. That’s why it hurts so much now.

you’ll feel better soon

and this is the best thing to happen to you.

You dumped him and it doesn't sound as if you liked each other that much.

He was mean to you and disliked him enough to end things.

He's moved on and I'd suggest you do the same.

Don’t try anymore. He doesn’t want to be with you, if he did he would treat you respectfully. You deserve better than that

What is it with him and food? Did he mistake you for his mum/chef?

Did he ever make food? Why did you pay for the meal last time you saw him?

He sounds like an absolute shit head. Those horrible things he did to you - that's his inherent personality. You can't train someone out of that. That's the person he is.

Please,take off your rose tinted glasses love. This man is a nasty bully and his behaviour would have continued to escalate. I think you're idealising it, but nothing would have been different. He was abusive. Nasty.. Demeaning. Nobody deserves that.

What you need to work on is your self respect, self esteem and self worth because no person who had any of the above would miss this piece of shit.

He was a cunt, & it seems that he’s reeled you in just so that he can do this to you. Let it go, you’ll meet someone else.

He hid the sauce? What a prick.

Thank god you're not stuck with that one.

He sounds awful OP. Ghosting you is just him trying to upset/control you again, surely you can see that. Block him and move on. He didn't show commitment, which means he wasn't committed. Even his parents thought he was horrible to you.

Stop trying to be logical about his abusive nasty ways move on you haven't said one good thing about him he's horrible and drags you down....stop

He sounds like a not very nice man who had little respect for you.

You need to move on

He also doesn't sound like he'd be a great friend.

That goodness you managed to leave this abusive twat. I remember your other thread and I'm so pleased it helped you to get out.

Now you need to be happy that he's ghosted you so you can finally move on and heal. Block him so he can't come back until you've done some therapy work on yourself. He wasn't a good man, remember that.

Does "sort things out" mean get back together? Why would you want to do that when you've given many sensible reasons for splitting up in the first place. He sounds unkind, immature, unsupportive, and frankly bullying. Why would you want to go back to that?