Over 2018-2019 I was attending a lot of hospital appointments (like up to 4 a week)
Woke up one morning to an fb message sent at 3am from a male I didnt know, saying something along the lines of "Every time you've come in I've been amazed, I think you're beautiful!"
At this point in my life I didnt go anywhere really; work, food shopping, medical appointments, that was it. So I was flummoxed as to who this guy was, where he'd seen me, or how he'd found me on fb (I have an unusual and hard to spell surname, so not easy to find on SM)
It made me feel a bit paranoid tbh, like some weirdo was watching me go about my daily business
His fb profile was private so all I had was his name and small profile pic. I didnt reply, just took screenshots of the message and profile in case I could work out who he was, then blocked him and tried to shrug it off, creepy as it was.
Fast forward to today, I was scrolling through my old phone and came across the screenshots.
Just googled his name (didnt think to do this at the time!) and found his LinkedIn profile; he's a fucking admin assistant from the hospital!
100% the same guy; I've zoomed in on his face on multiple photos and its definitely the same guy who messaged me, same name, same hospital, everything.
So basically he'd seen me at the hospital, looked up my full name on the NHS system (must have written it down because its that hard to spell), and then used it to send me creepy stalkerish fb messages at 3am -WTF?
How do I know he didnt also take my address down? How do I know he didnt go noseying around the system about my DC / family? What kind of creep uses your personal NHS info to stalk you on SM, like how fucking inappropriate and unprofessional is that?
I'm furious, but do I really have the energy to deal with the notoriously useless PALS? Is it even worth the hassle of reporting him now, given it was five years ago?