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To report ex friend who looked at my medical files?

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LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 11:09

Over a year ago a friend told me she’d looked at my medical files, because “she wanted to see what was happening” with an issue I was dealing with, I think she thought she was being helpful and it was a shared care issue that also impacted her. I was stunned at the time and asked her not to do it again. I knew she may have need to look at a certain area of my files due to her job in screening and tracking but she had no need to look at this and I told her I was unhappy at the time.

Anyway long story short this friend has now back stabbed me and made up various stories about me.

Would I be unreasonable to make sure she is blocked from viewing my files again, there’s no need for her to access them as the issue to do with her department is long past & while I brushed it off before when I thought she was was a friend her having access now makes me very uncomfortable.

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Yalta · 04/07/2024 12:27

PixiePirate · 04/07/2024 11:27

My SIL did this to me and told me! I took your approach and asked her to never access my records or those of my children again unless there was a clear professional need. She was mortified and falling over herself to apologise but it still makes me feel cross when I think about it. My understanding is that she could have got into a lot of trouble if I had reported it. She has since retired.

I think your next move and the way you word any communication depends on what you are trying to achieve. To stop her accessing your records unnecessarily again? Or for revenge because you have now fallen out? If it’s the former, I would send an email to her employer outlining that you are aware of a previous breach and whilst you are willing to let it pass, you would like assurances that it will not happen again. If it’s revenge you are after, I would think twice.

Either way this isn’t going to end well for this ex friend who should have thought twice before making you her enemy when she has told you what she did which is a sackable offence

I wonder how many more people’s records she has accessed

You might put that you are willing to turn a blind eye to the incident a year ago but her manager and those above them will certainly not.

Theweepywillow · 04/07/2024 12:25

Heyheyitsanotherday · 04/07/2024 12:22

Huge violation and you really need to report. She will be in huge trouble. I can access any patients summary care record. And more when I’m in trust and they’re a patient at the hospital. But if I even opened my own children’s file I could be sacked! I know one nurse who looked at her own blood results and she was disciplined. You have to have a reason to access patient information. She will be in huge trouble for looking at yours. Even if she denies it to her boss the systems leave a blue print and they will see her log in has looked at them. Please report her. Who else’s information will she be checking. Disgusting

I’m assuming you missed the part it was a shared care issue and impacted her as a member of staff, as such not just had the right to look, but needed to?

Heyheyitsanotherday · 04/07/2024 12:22

Huge violation and you really need to report. She will be in huge trouble. I can access any patients summary care record. And more when I’m in trust and they’re a patient at the hospital. But if I even opened my own children’s file I could be sacked! I know one nurse who looked at her own blood results and she was disciplined. You have to have a reason to access patient information. She will be in huge trouble for looking at yours. Even if she denies it to her boss the systems leave a blue print and they will see her log in has looked at them. Please report her. Who else’s information will she be checking. Disgusting

TimeGoesBySoSlowlyForThoseWhoWait · 04/07/2024 12:22

Adviceneeeeded · 04/07/2024 12:15

My husbands ex wife found out we where having a baby. She looked up my medical files to try and find out. This was our 2nd baby too. They have no kids together. But because I hadn't gone to the midwife yet as it was early days. She screen shot my visits and emailed it to my husband and said I was lying 🤔🤣 I reported it. Nothing was done

I would report this again as she’s an idiot and sent you evidence. I wonder if the person who looked into this knew her and squashed it. There’s no way this would be allowed to lie/nothing happen from it’

butterpuffed · 04/07/2024 12:21

Whether you decide to report her or not , I hope it's not based on the fact that she made things up about you ? Are her lies connected to her accessing your files or completely separate ?

If they are , then you should report her . If not , it sounds like sour grapes if you report her a year later .

TimeGoesBySoSlowlyForThoseWhoWait · 04/07/2024 12:21

100% report her. If she has looked at your file it will be recorded and she’ll face the consequences because she 100% knows she was risking her job to do that! I’m considering what to do as I have a feeling my SIL bestie might have looked at my medical records.

Penguinmouse · 04/07/2024 12:19

You should have done it before you fell out but she still violated your privacy and rights. You should report it to ensure she does not do it to anyone else.

Theweepywillow · 04/07/2024 12:18

So you’re scrabbling for revenge.

that’s not embarrassing at all.

MissyB1 · 04/07/2024 12:16

But you didn't see any reason to report her before you fell out with her, now suddenly it's important....

Adviceneeeeded · 04/07/2024 12:15

My husbands ex wife found out we where having a baby. She looked up my medical files to try and find out. This was our 2nd baby too. They have no kids together. But because I hadn't gone to the midwife yet as it was early days. She screen shot my visits and emailed it to my husband and said I was lying 🤔🤣 I reported it. Nothing was done

ItsTheGAGGGGGGGG · 04/07/2024 12:15

iwonderland · 04/07/2024 11:39

100% this! It's a case of we aren't friends now and I'm going to get her sacked.

If I was you I would just block her and never talk to her again. You should have reported her when she did it not now.

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Georgieporgypud · 04/07/2024 12:13

I'd report her. Who else data is she accessing illegally i wonder?

HollyKnight · 04/07/2024 12:13

If she has done it to you, she will have done it to others. She should not be in that job. Report it. They will do an investigation to see who elses private medical records she has accessed. Daft cow.

purplecorkheart · 04/07/2024 12:13

You should have reported this the minute you became aware of it. You still need to report it know as she should not have done what she did rather than the fact you have fallen out.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 04/07/2024 12:09

Yes, OP can and should report it. Better late than never. Her only impetus now this is having fallen out with her 'friend'. Not a thought for GDPR and professional standards, just... back-stabbing!

LoreleiG · 04/07/2024 12:07

DivergentTris · 04/07/2024 12:04

Agree with other posters, this should have been reported when it happened, not now to get back at her for hurting you over something else. That's bad bad form on your part.

If reported when it happened they could have dealt with it, she is in a position of trust, having access to people's information doesn't allow you to go on a fishing expedition for information on friends and family. It should only be accessed if needed in an official capacity - anything else is a breach and you can quite rightly be sacked. By not reporting her at the time, you potentially have allowed her to abuse her position with regard her other friend's and families confidential data.

And by not reporting it now OP would be allowing her to go on doing it. Why do you think it is too late? The argument is completely irrelevant to the real issue. A person with confidential system access has and may still be snooping on records.

JonnyTheDogFacedBoy · 04/07/2024 12:06

I started reading and thought "ah, so you didn't have enough of an issue with this to report her when you were friends, so you're just being petty now to get back at her now youve fallen out".

However, you then made a very good point: you don't want her to have further access to your records now that you know she has malicious intentions towards you. This is very valid. You have a right to protect your privacy.

So I think you should write to her senior and request that she not have access to your records, as she has shared with you previously that she has accessed them inappropriately. Those are the facts. It's up to her employer what they do about it.

Iseeyoupekingduck · 04/07/2024 12:06

And also op mentioned it's was shared care will also affected the op.

LoreleiG · 04/07/2024 12:05

It should have been reported then and it should be now - end of!

DivergentTris · 04/07/2024 12:04

Agree with other posters, this should have been reported when it happened, not now to get back at her for hurting you over something else. That's bad bad form on your part.

If reported when it happened they could have dealt with it, she is in a position of trust, having access to people's information doesn't allow you to go on a fishing expedition for information on friends and family. It should only be accessed if needed in an official capacity - anything else is a breach and you can quite rightly be sacked. By not reporting her at the time, you potentially have allowed her to abuse her position with regard her other friend's and families confidential data.

Iseeyoupekingduck · 04/07/2024 12:04

GCAcademic · 04/07/2024 11:52

Easy to spot on this thread the kind of people who should not be trusted around other people's sensitive data. It's a shame there's no obvious way of screening out people like this when recruiting for certain jobs.

Not really because of should have reported it when it first happened not waited till they have fallen out. Had the op said I've just found out my friend has done this I'm sure many of the responses would be totally different.

SomewhereOverTheHill · 04/07/2024 12:03

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 04/07/2024 11:59

Yes but OP, you only want to do this in retaliation for her back-stabbing. It's completely unrelated to her accessing your medical file which should have been dealt with as a breach of privacy, at the time it happened.

OP hasn’t clarified if the backstabbing is about the medical notes or not, but it makes no difference really. Her friend played with fire looking at her medical notes, and now they aren’t friends she could continue to look at them if not stopped in her tracks.

PinkyFlamingo · 04/07/2024 12:02

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 04/07/2024 11:59

Yes but OP, you only want to do this in retaliation for her back-stabbing. It's completely unrelated to her accessing your medical file which should have been dealt with as a breach of privacy, at the time it happened.

That doesn't really matter though. The person has still commited a sackable offence. And us still employed probably doing it to other people she knows.

PinkyFlamingo · 04/07/2024 12:01

And there will be no need for looking for proof no matter how long ago it was. Everything is marked. I'm a nurse and day I make a spelling mistake I can change it. And even that's audited against my log in. So they will be able to see exactly when and how many times this person accessed records she had no right to.

Jegersur · 04/07/2024 12:00

Yes, it should be reported, of course.

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