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To report ex friend who looked at my medical files?

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LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 11:09

Over a year ago a friend told me she’d looked at my medical files, because “she wanted to see what was happening” with an issue I was dealing with, I think she thought she was being helpful and it was a shared care issue that also impacted her. I was stunned at the time and asked her not to do it again. I knew she may have need to look at a certain area of my files due to her job in screening and tracking but she had no need to look at this and I told her I was unhappy at the time.

Anyway long story short this friend has now back stabbed me and made up various stories about me.

Would I be unreasonable to make sure she is blocked from viewing my files again, there’s no need for her to access them as the issue to do with her department is long past & while I brushed it off before when I thought she was was a friend her having access now makes me very uncomfortable.

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GaryLurcher19 · 05/07/2024 02:13

hellywelly3 · 05/07/2024 01:43

As someone who used to work in medical records this is extremely serious. It’s not just sackable it’s criminal. You can not access records for any reason not necessary for your job, this includes your own records.

This. And with very good reason.

hellywelly3 · 05/07/2024 01:43

As someone who used to work in medical records this is extremely serious. It’s not just sackable it’s criminal. You can not access records for any reason not necessary for your job, this includes your own records.

GaryLurcher19 · 05/07/2024 01:31

Also, consider your future health. You might require investigations or treatment that you feel very sensitive about. More so than ever before. Do you need the worry of her snooping and possible gossip spreading detering you from seeking timely intervention?

GaryLurcher19 · 05/07/2024 01:22

I think you need to report her, OP. For your peace of mind and because her patterns of behaviour are very worrying. It's reasonable to expect her to abuse her position again.

Don't feel guilty. This person has put your back to the wall and she will do it to others.

Greydays10 · 05/07/2024 01:10

You should 100% report her.
Absolutely disgraceful behaviour.

Bluebirdover · 05/07/2024 00:14

Bluebirdover · 05/07/2024 00:02

@Jutemat It was 5 years ago and the OP is only wanting to be a grass in anger. Nobody likes a grass.

Are you a teenager? I'm not the grown up world, nobody likes their personal medical
Information being accessed by there "friends".

You'll understand once you grow up.

And what made you decide it was five years ago?

Bluebirdover · 05/07/2024 00:02

@Jutemat It was 5 years ago and the OP is only wanting to be a grass in anger. Nobody likes a grass.

Are you a teenager? I'm not the grown up world, nobody likes their personal medical
Information being accessed by there "friends".

You'll understand once you grow up.

CJsGoldfish · 04/07/2024 22:57

If you had said something at the time, I imagine it would be a different outcome.
Now, though.. They'll check the audit trail, question her and she'll admit to looking at more than she needed to.
She knows she shouldn't have but her good friend asked her to so she did. Felt bad doing it and hasn't done it since.
Good friend has turned out to be not so good friend and is maliciously trying to use that incident to have me fired because of our falling out.

Of course if there is proof of other such breaches, that won't fly but I'd be wary that YOU becoming part of the incident 🤷‍♀️

Because it didn't bother you enough at the time, I'd simply confirm that your file is only accessed as necessary by the relevant staff and ensure that it stays that way.

Nanaof1 · 04/07/2024 21:33

LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 21:26

Thanks for all the advice. I still don’t know what to do, I’d forgotten about it until speaking to a mutual friend about it who was there when she said she’d accessed my records and mutual friends said it was awful what she’d done to me when I’ve been a good friend to her including not reporting that incident, now I’m panicking what else she might access. This meant as revenge this is about making sure someone who had made my life incredibly hard can’t access my information legitimately or otherwise, I think I’ll contact them and ask that she not have anything to do with my records at all and not mention the previous access.

Just remember, if you don't let them know she had previously accessed your records and told you about it, she can do it to someone else and then use it against them. It's giving her free rein to continue.

Nanaof1 · 04/07/2024 21:28

Jutemat · 04/07/2024 15:20

It was 5 years ago and the OP is only wanting to be a grass in anger. Nobody likes a grass.

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How do you KNOW it was five years ago? OP mentioned it was "over a year" and that was it.

Are you afraid that you are about to be caught? You seem awfully guilty about something.....

I'd rather be a grass than a C You Next Tuesday, like you seem to be. (See, I can play word games too!)

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LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 21:28

Londonrach1 · 04/07/2024 21:25

Report her. I work NHS and there is controls of records...she would have to go past so many warnings unless she was working in a role where you are registered as a patient. She has to declare to her boss a relationship with you.

She tracks care times and out comes for a cancer pathway, which I was on brief last year so she had a legitimate reason to access my files, but she had no clinical reason to access the additional info she told me about.

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LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 21:26

Thanks for all the advice. I still don’t know what to do, I’d forgotten about it until speaking to a mutual friend about it who was there when she said she’d accessed my records and mutual friends said it was awful what she’d done to me when I’ve been a good friend to her including not reporting that incident, now I’m panicking what else she might access. This meant as revenge this is about making sure someone who had made my life incredibly hard can’t access my information legitimately or otherwise, I think I’ll contact them and ask that she not have anything to do with my records at all and not mention the previous access.

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Londonrach1 · 04/07/2024 21:25

Report her. I work NHS and there is controls of records...she would have to go past so many warnings unless she was working in a role where you are registered as a patient. She has to declare to her boss a relationship with you.

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LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 21:22

Jutemat · 04/07/2024 15:20

It was 5 years ago and the OP is only wanting to be a grass in anger. Nobody likes a grass.

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No it was a year ago.

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LovePoppy · 04/07/2024 17:33

You should have reported her last year

LoreleiG · 04/07/2024 16:21

A grass? Dear lord. This is a huge data breach not an episode of Prisoner Cell Block H.

lovetoshare81 · 04/07/2024 15:23

Jutemat · 04/07/2024 15:20

It was 5 years ago and the OP is only wanting to be a grass in anger. Nobody likes a grass.

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im going to hazard a guess

you live alone
you don’t work

correct?

PossumintheHouse · 04/07/2024 15:21

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Jutemat · 04/07/2024 15:20

letsgoooo · 04/07/2024 15:18

People like you is why bullies, sex offenders, Child abusers and fraud are allowed to happen. Because people who think like you are weak and spineless. Or because people who think like you indulge in bullying and fraudulent activities and don't want people to reveal your activities.

No reasonable person allows this sort of thing to go on without speaking up.

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It was 5 years ago and the OP is only wanting to be a grass in anger. Nobody likes a grass.

letsgoooo · 04/07/2024 15:18

Jutemat · 04/07/2024 13:43

Don't be a grass. Nobody likes a grass.

People like you is why bullies, sex offenders, Child abusers and fraud are allowed to happen. Because people who think like you are weak and spineless. Or because people who think like you indulge in bullying and fraudulent activities and don't want people to reveal your activities.

No reasonable person allows this sort of thing to go on without speaking up.

MixedCouple2 · 04/07/2024 15:16

I worked in Information Governance in the NHS for 2 years! Report report report. This is unprofessional and a very serious breach of her role and needs ro be dealt with.

letsgoooo · 04/07/2024 15:15

Oldcroneandthreewitches · 04/07/2024 11:16

You want her to get sacked because you’ve fallen out.

That’s basically what it is OP. You just catch out for that karma …

Huh? The OP states she just wants to make sure someone who doesn't like her hasn't got access to her records. Fair enough would you say?

whatafaf · 04/07/2024 15:15

Jutemat · 04/07/2024 13:43

Don't be a grass. Nobody likes a grass.

Are you 5? I do like a grass. I like people to grass up people who are snooping around in other people personal and confidential information. I obviously also like people to grass up abusers etc. I don't like cunts who call people grasses. She's not telling tales to teacher ffs.

Ewock · 04/07/2024 15:11

Jutemat · 04/07/2024 13:43

Don't be a grass. Nobody likes a grass.

Grow up

SloaneStreetVandal · 04/07/2024 15:05

Chickychoccyegg · 04/07/2024 14:46

My sibling works for NHS in a clerical role? They are a nightmare for looking at people they knows medical notes, and freely says, by not clicking into the full file, but hovering over it, you can read notes.
It infuriates me, but though my family don't agree this is OK, don't want the goldenchild reported as they'll lose their job and have young kids, it's disgraceful to nose at people's medical notes that have nothing to do with you , so I would seriously consider reporting.

I can't think of any electronic record where that would be possible. Even if it was, the act of searching a person's name without clinical reason is not permitted. In fact I'm pretty sure there are flags that alert IT security if you search your own name/surname.

As a clinician, it's a requirement that you do random checks on the electronic files of the patients on your caseload. Any user name you don't recognise/suspect shouldn't have accessed has to be reported to IT security for investigation.

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