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To report ex friend who looked at my medical files?

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LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 11:09

Over a year ago a friend told me she’d looked at my medical files, because “she wanted to see what was happening” with an issue I was dealing with, I think she thought she was being helpful and it was a shared care issue that also impacted her. I was stunned at the time and asked her not to do it again. I knew she may have need to look at a certain area of my files due to her job in screening and tracking but she had no need to look at this and I told her I was unhappy at the time.

Anyway long story short this friend has now back stabbed me and made up various stories about me.

Would I be unreasonable to make sure she is blocked from viewing my files again, there’s no need for her to access them as the issue to do with her department is long past & while I brushed it off before when I thought she was was a friend her having access now makes me very uncomfortable.

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crockofshite · 10/07/2024 19:15

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 18:59

She didn't realise it was an issue earlier

Ah, ok , well it's a sackable offence and could also result in legal proceedings. It's absolutely despicable of the person who did this and they would have known the consequences.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 18:59

crockofshite · 10/07/2024 18:51

It's not the victims fault someone illegally accessed their records.

However Victim is responsible for reporting it if she knew about it.

It's a good question, why didn't victim report it earlier?

She didn't realise it was an issue earlier

crockofshite · 10/07/2024 18:51

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:45

Classic victim blaming..

It's not the victims fault someone illegally accessed their records.

However Victim is responsible for reporting it if she knew about it.

It's a good question, why didn't victim report it earlier?

Shittification · 10/07/2024 17:56

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:45

Classic victim blaming..

No it isn't.

It's a simple question.

OP wasn't bothered enough to report it at the time and didn't even consider that her "friend" might also be doing it to other people.

Now that OP has been "back-stabbed" she wants something done.

DungareesAndTrombones · 10/07/2024 17:09

Coatsoff42 · 05/07/2024 09:59

I work in the NHS and there’s no warnings. It’s all down to your own personal standards of conduct.
Once in the hospital I worked in, a celebrity came into A&E and everyone who looked at his notes without justification was sacked. It’s easy to trace and there’s no excuse.

Where I work there are warnings, and it logs who has looked at people's files. As it rightly should.

Report her OP. I work in the NHS and would be sacked if I did this.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:45

Shittification · 04/07/2024 11:14

Why on earth didn't you report her a year ago?

Classic victim blaming..

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:43

Edingril · 04/07/2024 11:22

If she had no right to your file originally then it should have been reported then not 'she is a big meanie now so I am so going to get her into trouble'

OP is a victim and should be treated as such

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:43

You should have ideally reported her when you first found out but you are the victim here and it takes time for some victims to realise the true nature of the crime and report it so go ahead.

Tookindformyowngood · 10/07/2024 15:43

I fell out with my daughter 6 years ago.We were very close infection like sisters. I met a lovely guy who is now my partner.My daughter was fine with it until he moved in.She became very vocal and eventually she stopped talking to us.Since then I have had a TIA,Broken ankle, blue lighted to hospital and no contact was made.I was at the hospital one day going to see my consultant and she is a nurse there and passed me shoulder ti shoulder.Now she wants to make contact with me but I am very unsure regarding this.

Mooandmae · 09/07/2024 15:02

This absolutely needs to be reported. You should have done this at the time and I honestly don't understand why you didn't. I work in a field with access to lots and lots of privileged data for probably everyone in the UK and we are taught it is sacred and accessing data like this is rightfully treated as gross misconduct. It is drummed into everyone from day 1.

I don't like your reasoning as to why you are thinking of reporting her now but for me this would be a black and white issue. To look and then comment to you about it is crazy and shows either a considerable lack of understanding or a massive lack of judgement which only raises more alarm bells with this individual as if she has done this to you there is a chance she's has either done this or is capable of doing to others. All of us deserve to know that data stored about us is safe and secure.

Dinkydo12 · 09/07/2024 10:30

People are given restricted access to your medical information. A lay person would not be given any permission without your say so. This us a stackable offence. Even consultants and hospital doctors need your permission. You need to report this total breech.

YnY · 09/07/2024 08:52

I wouldn't report her but I'd tell a few people that she looked at your records.

I worked for a govt dept and a couple of daters were looking up men from dating profiles to see if they were married or not. It came to light and they said sorry. Missed one increment.

Wesel85 · 09/07/2024 08:47

I'm a nurse various family member and friends have asked me to look at their medical records to get results or explain things.....never once have I done this due to this issue.

Let's be honest if you had a doctor in your family or was friends with one you would ask their opinion on certain medical things....off course you would.

When it's suits the family member/friend it's OK to bend the rules a bit but the min you fall out or have an argument you could lose your job no thank you not worth the hassle.

Seagoats · 09/07/2024 07:31

Oldcroneandthreewitches · 04/07/2024 11:16

You want her to get sacked because you’ve fallen out.

That’s basically what it is OP. You just catch out for that karma …

Because now she's really taking the piss. Clearly op has never forgiven the incident ( rightly so) and now said "friend" is going about spouting bullshit about op. I'd feel inclined to get her back in her box too.
But tbf this should have been reported at the time, easy said I know. I suppose then op didn't know how much it would worry her.
Friend is clearly a bit of a dick, what destruction could she do when she knows she's in trouble op?

BirthdayRainbow · 09/07/2024 07:29

LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 21:26

Thanks for all the advice. I still don’t know what to do, I’d forgotten about it until speaking to a mutual friend about it who was there when she said she’d accessed my records and mutual friends said it was awful what she’d done to me when I’ve been a good friend to her including not reporting that incident, now I’m panicking what else she might access. This meant as revenge this is about making sure someone who had made my life incredibly hard can’t access my information legitimately or otherwise, I think I’ll contact them and ask that she not have anything to do with my records at all and not mention the previous access.

They will say but she doesn't.... then you'll be left not knowing if she still is or not. If they knew she already had there would have been consequences.

EloEloGov · 09/07/2024 06:42

I had a friend who currently works as a Doctors Receptionist and she was having an affair with a married man, whenever he or his wife came in for themselves or their children, she would look up why afterwards. The first time she did this was because she didn't know where he lived, so she looked at his records to find his address and then when we hung out later that evening, she drove to his house and we sat outside for about five minutes before we left again because someone looked out the window and she panicked. (I didn't know what was going on at the time or where we were otherwise I'd have refused to even go in the first place!) even after that incident, she would tell me why he or she came in, so she was breaking confidentiality there too. As well as this, she looked up and old colleague we knew who sort of dropped off the face of the earth when she left the company we both worked for (not in the medical field) and she looked up their records to find their phone number to text them because they weren't on social media.

So for anyone saying that this is likely a false story or unlikely to be true because of lack of access to records and such, it does happen and it can happen quite easily.

Also, no we're not friends anymore for obvious reasons!

74Violette · 08/07/2024 12:48

It's a total violation of privacy. So what if it's seen as revenge now to report her, she deserves to be reprimanded.

ThatVoodooThatYouDoooo · 07/07/2024 09:38

Lampzade · 04/07/2024 11:30

This

So why didn't you report it then, and why now?

StandDownCharlie · 07/07/2024 09:36

What are you going to do @LadyInRainbow ?

Lots of good advice here, especially from people working in the same field as her.

NarnianQueen · 07/07/2024 07:09

Iseeyoupekingduck · 04/07/2024 11:49

You weren't that bothered a year ago now you have fallen out you want to get her sacked.

That's one way of looking at it. I'd say the friend did something that is totally illegal and op protected her by not reporting it at the time because of the friendship. Now that friendship doesn't really exist, shouldn't the friend face the consequences of her actions?

PaleSunlightOfHope · 07/07/2024 05:58

People who abuse their access to confidential records OUGHT to be sacked.

Peakyshelby · 07/07/2024 03:07

Kayla I think the op is saying now they are not friends any more she is worried ex friend will keep doing this

Peakyshelby · 07/07/2024 03:04

Also those saying it’s tit for tat I think the op is worried that now they are not friends she will just keep on looking at her records. It’s one thing a friend doing it but quite another thing an enemy. Reporting her would mean it would stop

Peakyshelby · 07/07/2024 03:01

I would tell her to pack it in or you will report her and yes they will be able to trace if she has looked at your records.
if she says she does not care tell her you are reporting her. Even if you don’t it will make her sweat

Springwatch123 · 07/07/2024 00:45

Middleagedspreadisreal · 06/07/2024 23:13

Not friends or family though. A serious offence.

Not true. You can access friends, neighbours etc medical notes in the course of your work, unless that person requested you not to be. In fact, many of the admin staff in my local surgery live in the same village as the surgery. Obviously all info needs to be kept confidential.

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