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Original poster

to tell you we just had sex for the first time in 4 years

37 replies

cupsofteaandcoffee · 04/07/2024 08:35

NC

He has ED and is obviously extremely self conscious about it. He wasn't very hard, but that was fine. It was just fantastic to be so close to each other after so long.

I can be susceptible to UTIs. I didn't use the toilet before sex, and we had it in the morning so I had a full bladder, but I did wash (shower) after. No condom.

I'm now paranoid that I'm going to get a UTI. What are the chances ?

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BingoMarieHeeler · 04/07/2024 08:59

EdgyCat · 04/07/2024 08:50

UTI isn't even that gross you're such a delicate daisy!

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It’s probably more the image of a squidgy penis and a full bladder tbh. Sorry but post a weird thread, get weird answers 😄 a sign of too much MN really - OP for running to MN after first sex in 4 years; and me for reading and posting!

EdgyCat · 04/07/2024 08:57

HowIrresponsible · 04/07/2024 08:54

Can't believe you went 4 years without sex

I don't think it's that rare

CrunchyCarrot · 04/07/2024 08:56

KreedKafer · 04/07/2024 08:48

You’ve just had your first shag in four years and you’re stressing about a UTI you haven’t got?

It sounds like there’s a lot more going on here psychologically than your partner’s ED, if anxiety about a non-existent UTI is what’s on your mind after one sexual encounter Confused

Yes this was my first thought as well!

JacquesHarlow · 04/07/2024 08:56

HowIrresponsible · 04/07/2024 08:54

Can't believe you went 4 years without sex

Whoa there… I mean, the chap has ED - the OP has been open enough to explain this.

What happens if our partners have a physical issue with sex.. is there a statute of limitations that means if we pass X date on the calendar, we can’t “go without?”

Good on the OP for working with him and waiting until it happens

HowIrresponsible · 04/07/2024 08:54

Can't believe you went 4 years without sex

JacquesHarlow · 04/07/2024 08:53

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EdgyCat · 04/07/2024 08:50

StripedTomatoes · 04/07/2024 08:36

Ugh. Why did I open this thread while having my breakfast?! 🤢

UTI isn't even that gross you're such a delicate daisy!

JacquesHarlow · 04/07/2024 08:50

spikeandbuffy · 04/07/2024 08:48

Then why open it?!

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there is a Sex forum on Mumsnet. this is not an AIBU post, maybe that is the issue?

EdgyCat · 04/07/2024 08:49

Contraceptives?

spikeandbuffy · 04/07/2024 08:48

StripedTomatoes · 04/07/2024 08:36

Ugh. Why did I open this thread while having my breakfast?! 🤢

Then why open it?!

KreedKafer · 04/07/2024 08:48

You’ve just had your first shag in four years and you’re stressing about a UTI you haven’t got?

It sounds like there’s a lot more going on here psychologically than your partner’s ED, if anxiety about a non-existent UTI is what’s on your mind after one sexual encounter Confused

StripedTomatoes · 04/07/2024 08:36

Ugh. Why did I open this thread while having my breakfast?! 🤢