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to tell you we just had sex for the first time in 4 years

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cupsofteaandcoffee · 04/07/2024 08:35

NC

He has ED and is obviously extremely self conscious about it. He wasn't very hard, but that was fine. It was just fantastic to be so close to each other after so long.

I can be susceptible to UTIs. I didn't use the toilet before sex, and we had it in the morning so I had a full bladder, but I did wash (shower) after. No condom.

I'm now paranoid that I'm going to get a UTI. What are the chances ?

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Falalalalalalalalaaa · 04/07/2024 14:57

Someone's just finished their exams!

cookiebee · 04/07/2024 14:41

Sounds magical

Falalalalalalalalaaa · 04/07/2024 14:19

😂

CoolTealBeaker · 04/07/2024 13:50

Yes, UABU.

And weird.

KnittyNell · 04/07/2024 13:46

OP.
Ask your GP for nitrofurantoin and take one immediately after sex.
That should work, also drink plenty and take Dmannose for a couple of days.

Georgie743 · 04/07/2024 13:38

just me or anyone else in awe you could have sex in the morning before a wee?! Post child and post about age 25 I need to wee pretty much the second I wake up

Allfur · 04/07/2024 13:27

Congrats are in order rather than reprimands

kravingabiscuit · 04/07/2024 13:22

cupsofteaandcoffee · 04/07/2024 08:35

NC

He has ED and is obviously extremely self conscious about it. He wasn't very hard, but that was fine. It was just fantastic to be so close to each other after so long.

I can be susceptible to UTIs. I didn't use the toilet before sex, and we had it in the morning so I had a full bladder, but I did wash (shower) after. No condom.

I'm now paranoid that I'm going to get a UTI. What are the chances ?

Congrats OP!!

But you should be fine if you peed afterwards

AutumnLeaves1990 · 04/07/2024 11:51

StripedTomatoes · 04/07/2024 08:36

Ugh. Why did I open this thread while having my breakfast?! 🤢

Are you 12?

LordPercyPercy · 04/07/2024 11:29

Best way to avoid a UTI is to always wash properly (soap and water) after pooing, and then wash before sex. Have sex in the morning and then drink and wee a lot throughout the day.
You're welcome.

Shiningout · 04/07/2024 11:25

Well I'm not sure how mumsnet can help with this very odd question... If You are worried you can take some otc cystitis sachets.. If you develop symptoms you can get treatment... What are you looking for??

Agapornis · 04/07/2024 10:59

FigTreeInEurope · 04/07/2024 10:08

Blimey, is he really into politics?

You made me cackle on the train Grin

Swedemom · 04/07/2024 10:23

cupsofteaandcoffee · 04/07/2024 08:35

NC

He has ED and is obviously extremely self conscious about it. He wasn't very hard, but that was fine. It was just fantastic to be so close to each other after so long.

I can be susceptible to UTIs. I didn't use the toilet before sex, and we had it in the morning so I had a full bladder, but I did wash (shower) after. No condom.

I'm now paranoid that I'm going to get a UTI. What are the chances ?

You should pee AFTER sex to avoid UTIs.

Abi86 · 04/07/2024 10:19

High five?!

Freetofeelgood · 04/07/2024 10:17

As someone who used to suffer horrendously with cystitis, and still would if I didn't drink 5 pints if water a day (1 "dry" morning and I'm in pain), I totally understand your obsession OP. Just drink a few pints of water straight off and hopefully you'll be OK. Hope things continue to improve for you both.

avarteay · 04/07/2024 10:15

Unsure why people are being mean. The word sez is literally in the title, people shouldn't have clicked it if they were going to be a twat about it.

Really pleased for you, OP.

Try not to stress too much, chances are you'll be fine.

You could get some cranberry juice, cranberry tablets or some cystitis sachets from the supermarket/pharmacy for prevention.

Twotimesrhymes · 04/07/2024 10:09

Honestly it’s a bit stressy and not very fun sounding !!!

FigTreeInEurope · 04/07/2024 10:08

Blimey, is he really into politics?

YankTank · 04/07/2024 09:41

You had sex!

Celebrate In Love GIF by Max
Choochoo21 · 04/07/2024 09:40

KreedKafer · 04/07/2024 08:48

You’ve just had your first shag in four years and you’re stressing about a UTI you haven’t got?

It sounds like there’s a lot more going on here psychologically than your partner’s ED, if anxiety about a non-existent UTI is what’s on your mind after one sexual encounter Confused

I agree!

Have you looked into getting some therapy with your issues?
As it does sound like he has physical issues but you definitely have some psychological issues going on too.

Firsttimemum2023 · 04/07/2024 09:39

The main thing is to pee after. I’m prone to UTIs and I take D mannose and female specific probiotics daily, and these really help. Might be worth getting your hands on some?

Ohnobackagain · 04/07/2024 09:37

@cupsofteaandcoffee main thing is to pee after.

TiredMaryy · 04/07/2024 09:28

Strange post, and weirdly descriptive.

EinekleineKatze · 04/07/2024 09:05

BingoMarieHeeler · 04/07/2024 08:59

It’s probably more the image of a squidgy penis and a full bladder tbh. Sorry but post a weird thread, get weird answers 😄 a sign of too much MN really - OP for running to MN after first sex in 4 years; and me for reading and posting!

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Ha ha.
Summed up very well. 😬

Possumly · 04/07/2024 09:01

Congrats I guess😄

I don't think anybody can guess how likely it is you'll have a UTI. I used to get them often afterwards but that was a few years ago. My body seems to be able to deal with it now, but I do make sure I go for a wee straight after.

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