Anyone else really hate getting thoughtless gifts and think it's REALLY selfish?
As adults DH and I tell everyone we don't need gifts for birthdays/ Christmas whatever but there are certain people who decide to give us presents regardless. That's very kind and generous IF they've actually taken time to think of something we'd probably like or enjoy. But what I really hate and don't understand is family members who ignore the request for no presents and go out and buy something that there is actually zero reason to think we'd want. And then get offended when we don't gush about it or really use it. WTF is that all about? Some recent examples have been - a cycling jersey for DH who doesn't own a bike or even have any wish to, a knitting bag for me when I don't knit, gifts aimed at 5 year olds for our 11 year old twins.
WHY? it feels like an attempt to control us or maybe people are unloading shite they've been gifted themselves?
If we're honest (but kind) about it because we really don't want all this waste and then effort on our part to have to try and return stuff, we get huffy responses about how it's the thought that counts and we're really hurting there feelings by saying we don't want it. But WHERE IS THE THOUGHT? That's what I don't get. There is no obligation at all to get us anything and we always make that clear. If they must get us something to make themselves feel better then I guess smellies or food would always at least be useful.
Why do people do it? And AIBU to not be grateful?