Parents in law on holiday

So a boomer is someone in their 60s? Or someone born in the 60s? Not guilty of either of those

I'm stressed on your behalf. 😕😫

Boomers got free higher education, final salary pensions and eye watering home equity.

That's a deeply unpleasant, lazy generalisation.
I am close to retirement age now. I did get fee-free HE yes. I'm grateful for it. I went on marches protesting against the abolition of grants for those of you who came after us. But only a minority of us went to university at all. The majority went straight into work after leaving school or went to college, often on day release.

I do not have eye watering equity. For years I lived in expensive, shabby rentals or the same kinds of house shares as when I was a student. When I finally bought a tiny flat with my BF at the inflated prices of the late 80s, mortgage interest rates were sky high and rising. Our monthly payment was almost all of my monthly salary. It was the era of repossessions and we came close to losing our home in the way that many people did.

I do not have a final salary pension. My employer stopped offering one years ago because they became unaffordable. I have no lazily accumulated wealth. I've worked hard for my whole career, and for many years I was low paid.

I'm sick to death of hearing I'm undeservedly rich and to blame for the money troubles of younger people. I live very frugally. I'm currently supporting my adult children financially through university and will be continuing to support them when they get jobs and homes. No doubt you think whatever I do isn't enough.

You don't see any of what a lot of us went through. You just look at the better-off retired people, assume everything they have fell in their laps and was unearned, and assume we're all the same.

I'm looking from their point of view. This could be an amazing time for you all to enjoy each others company in a different place. If they are elderly, I would doubt whether they will be on the beach etc every day.
If this were me Id encourage them to come down for 2 nights in the middle of the break.
Families are what it is all about in the end, if there is something specific about them that you don't enjoy and haven't mentioned then NO is the answer, otherwise be a bit more flexible.

Boomers got free higher education, final salary pensions and eye watering home equity.
First generation to leave their children poorer and with a worst quality of life.

I'm not a boomer but this is utterly knobbish.

Taxes for boomer generation were very high actually - after WW2 highest rate of tax was 99%.
1950 - 60s - 97% was top rate.
1971 - top rate dropped to 75% but in 1970s there was also a surcharge 15% extra on investment profits - that's why people like Rolling Stones lived outside UK.

There are some wild sweeping generalisations in your posts OP. Not all "boomers" have the same shitty attitude that you seem to be implying.

There are plenty of self-serving and shitty Millennials too, as there are in every generation.

I'm not a boomer myself, but I do object to lazy tropes and those of the "ok, boomer" variety are pretty unpleasant.

Women of the boomer generation actually had a pretty shitty time in many ways. Women weren't allowed to get credit cards or a loan without a signature from their father. Women weren't even allowed to open a bank account without permission from a man until 1975. It took until 1990 for the law to allow married women to be taxed individually, and not as an extension of their husband.

Statutory maternity pay wasn't introduced until 1987 and wasn't made compulsory until 1993.

Until 1982 women could be refused service in a pub, simply because they were a woman.

And let's not even touch on the subject of rape and sexual assault. Marital rape didn't become illegal until 1992.

Lots gets written about how the current generations won't enjoy the same financial benefits as the boomer generation but there are plenty of things that are better today, especially for women. That's why it's lazy to cast aspersions on the boomer generation as it fails to consider the full range of circumstances that were present.

If you want to criticise someone, make it personal, don't suggest it's because of their age or generation. It's unfair and insulting.

But most organisations can’t afford final salary schemes. Labour wanted 50% of 18yos to go to university, but with those numbers needed fees to pay for that. And those fees aren’t enough now, so who knows what will happen.

When I went to university only about10% of 18yos went to university, would have been even less in the Boomer generation, think it was 4% in early 60s and a very uneven gender and social split

Would you want that still to be the same?

@Anxiousmuch so if you were born in the boomer time would you have declined free university education and final salary pension (and bearing in mind many people of that generation would not have experienced either)

@Anxiousmuch , I’d don’t want to derail your thread and hope you have a lovely holiday in Cornwall.

If I’m a boomer I’d flipping like someone to show me my lazily accumulated wealth I must have misplaced it.

@Anxiousmuch why do you describe them as a boomer, surely the attitude is just what your PILs are like (although they have agreed to do what you have discussed so you were wrong in your assumption).

I hope this labour government does fix housing and if it upped inheritance tax and used it to directly fund more affordable housing I'd very much be in support of it

So would I and I’m a boomer. Actually I’d like it to introduce a wealth tax too because a rise in inheritance tax will hurt your generation, not mine.

My parents in law once suggested gatecrashing our holiday, they got told where to go sharpish. They never suggested it again. You just have to be firm and tell them it's not happening.
I wouldn't dream of even suggesting going on my married kids holidays, let alone gatecrashing them.

Haha, guilty as charged Op. However I'm not overly sensitive about generalisations and would never invite myself on my DC's family holidays. YANBU

Define a boomer?

@Anxiousmuch and I assume you will benefit well from them when they die. Will you be moaning about them then

@Anxiousmuch not everyone from Boomer generation has it easy. So don’t tar everyone with the same brush.