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I stood up to a man at work and he did NOT like it

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crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 21:27

Bloke at work, nice enough, totally average at job, not a blagger or anything.
We were teamed up for a project by my boss . We have worked together before on a small project and it went fine.
When I approached him and said "we are teamed up again" he made a loud groan and expressed distaste at this in front of a table of colleagues and said "I'm letting you do all the work this time" suggesting I'd been lazy last time we did a project(demonstrably untrue)
I fumed on it and then restructured my work all above board with my boss to work with a new pairing, leaving him to deliver with a newer member of staff. He is now very angry, and said I had to do it as he didn't want to do the work (he has to , it's part of our role) and I needed to stop being silly and just do it. When I calmly responded that he expressed disdain and so therefore I had gone where i was wanted, he lost the plot and stopped off in a huff to the boss who told him the same
Hahahahaha best day ever

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AmandaHoldensLips · 04/07/2024 18:22

ALL TOGETHER NOW..... "I need a Hero(ine)..."

LalaPaloosa · 04/07/2024 18:05

I love everything about this. Well done!👏

BCBird · 04/07/2024 17:42

Serves him right. Needs to keep his cake hole shut😄

Jakadaal · 04/07/2024 17:39

Sorry not to interrupt him

Jakadaal · 04/07/2024 17:39

I've recently had similar with 2 male family members. Of course it was all my fault for being emotional/shouting blah blah this after one telling me not to interrupt me and the other patronising me. I have had a successful career working at a far higher level than with of them achieved but I'm still expected to be talked down to about a business I know a lot about!

sadly it has caused ructions but I'm pleased I finally stood up to them (both known controllers and emotionally abusive).

well done Op for standing your ground 👏

Biggleslefae · 04/07/2024 12:15

PenelopeHofstadter · 03/07/2024 23:43

Sounds like he was trying to show off in front of colleagues. Were they male too by any chance?

I work with all men; 25 of them plus me, the only female on the team. They're all pretty lovely but they do try and show off in front of each other and get a bit cocky at times. There are one or two alpha males that the others all try to impress.

Well done for standing up to him, OP!

Can you come up with a way to humiliate the alphas in front of the other men, would be amusing to watch 🤭

Getonwitit · 04/07/2024 08:20

Fantastic. Well done👏

Sharptonguedwoman · 04/07/2024 08:05

crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 21:27

Bloke at work, nice enough, totally average at job, not a blagger or anything.
We were teamed up for a project by my boss . We have worked together before on a small project and it went fine.
When I approached him and said "we are teamed up again" he made a loud groan and expressed distaste at this in front of a table of colleagues and said "I'm letting you do all the work this time" suggesting I'd been lazy last time we did a project(demonstrably untrue)
I fumed on it and then restructured my work all above board with my boss to work with a new pairing, leaving him to deliver with a newer member of staff. He is now very angry, and said I had to do it as he didn't want to do the work (he has to , it's part of our role) and I needed to stop being silly and just do it. When I calmly responded that he expressed disdain and so therefore I had gone where i was wanted, he lost the plot and stopped off in a huff to the boss who told him the same
Hahahahaha best day ever

Oh well done!

Pelham678 · 04/07/2024 08:01

Apolloneuro · 03/07/2024 22:33

Ha! Bloody wally was just trying to look big in front of his little friends. Well done OP.

I follow a woman on instagram and she was talking about standing up to men. One of the things I’m going to do is, if you and a man are walking towards each other, the woman will always be the one to move. She says don’t - keep walking. You will probably walk in to each other, but whatever. It won’t hurt and the men need to learn that woman won’t move out of their way.

I did it once when a man was on MY side of the road (cars parked on one side). He clearly expected me to reverse. There was a space next to him that he could pull in to. I gestured that to him and sat there. He did pull in, effing and blinding as he did so. He was on my side of the road and expected me to move. Felt bloody great.

I did this once too. A bloke in a white van 🙄. You know when someone speeds up trying to get there first even though I had right of way being naturally nearer to the part of the road where the parked cars were on my right than he was. He carried on anyway despite me being there already and then expected me to reverse. I just paused and turned off my engine and sat there. It took a couple of minutes and some nerve as traffic was building up behind me. He kept grinning, gesturing at me to move and I grinned and gestured back at him. Finally he went round me on the rather large pavement to save a bit of face I guess.

It was very satisfying and I thought he'd think twice before doing it to another woman. He forgot I'm post-menopausal and have no fucks left to give.

Well done OP you're a star. I think he likes to think of himself as somewhat your manager, so he swans around while you do the work! Biter bit.

VeganStar · 04/07/2024 00:10

Apolloneuro · 03/07/2024 22:33

Ha! Bloody wally was just trying to look big in front of his little friends. Well done OP.

I follow a woman on instagram and she was talking about standing up to men. One of the things I’m going to do is, if you and a man are walking towards each other, the woman will always be the one to move. She says don’t - keep walking. You will probably walk in to each other, but whatever. It won’t hurt and the men need to learn that woman won’t move out of their way.

I did it once when a man was on MY side of the road (cars parked on one side). He clearly expected me to reverse. There was a space next to him that he could pull in to. I gestured that to him and sat there. He did pull in, effing and blinding as he did so. He was on my side of the road and expected me to move. Felt bloody great.

I was walking down the covered way after coming out of Asda and I saw a man walking towards me with the expectation that I’d move to let him pass. I stopped right in front of him and got my phone out thus making him walk around me,he glared at me and let out a sigh of annoyance.
I just chuckled. It felt quite good.

OpizpuHeuvHiyo · 03/07/2024 23:56

Well done.

And good on your manager for swapping things around so you don't have to do this with the idiot.

But I agree with pp - be on your guard. He will be actively seeking an opportunity to get you taken down a peg or two. Keep records of everything that you may have to prove.

SeriaMau · 03/07/2024 23:53

This. Men are such vile creatures.

shearwater2 · 03/07/2024 23:51

I've had men walk into me deliberately on a pavement when I'm just standing still at the side minding my own business. The thing is I go to the gym quite a lot and I'm not a lightweight or soft and squishy person to bump into, but rather solid. Ouch.

PenelopeHofstadter · 03/07/2024 23:49

I always refuse to move for men in the street or shops now, too. Lots seem to have a sense of expectation that a lowly woman will move out of their way, and are genuinely perplexed and shocked when I don't move

anicesitdownandshutup · 03/07/2024 23:48

Apolloneuro · 03/07/2024 22:33

Ha! Bloody wally was just trying to look big in front of his little friends. Well done OP.

I follow a woman on instagram and she was talking about standing up to men. One of the things I’m going to do is, if you and a man are walking towards each other, the woman will always be the one to move. She says don’t - keep walking. You will probably walk in to each other, but whatever. It won’t hurt and the men need to learn that woman won’t move out of their way.

I did it once when a man was on MY side of the road (cars parked on one side). He clearly expected me to reverse. There was a space next to him that he could pull in to. I gestured that to him and sat there. He did pull in, effing and blinding as he did so. He was on my side of the road and expected me to move. Felt bloody great.

Had that today in the underground. Guy coming towards me and his side of the tunnel was full so me moving out of his way would have meant me moving in to someone else's path. Can't imagine where he thought that I was going to go. Obviously didn't move for him but he threw me such a look

EVHead · 03/07/2024 23:44

More of this please 👏

PenelopeHofstadter · 03/07/2024 23:43

Sounds like he was trying to show off in front of colleagues. Were they male too by any chance?

I work with all men; 25 of them plus me, the only female on the team. They're all pretty lovely but they do try and show off in front of each other and get a bit cocky at times. There are one or two alpha males that the others all try to impress.

Well done for standing up to him, OP!

SqueakyDinosaur · 03/07/2024 23:41

sprigatito · 03/07/2024 23:34

I stopped moving for men years ago. They're always so surprised when you just keep coming, it doesn't seem to cross their minds that they might be the one to move aside.

Obviously elderly, disabled or otherwise vulnerable-looking people are exempt!

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I walk with a stick and I am always up for a game of Pavement Chicken. The great thing is that now I am armed, so they are slightly less confident as they stride towards me.

I also give no quarter to morons who wander along on their phones. Engage with meatspace before it engages with you!

SqueakyDinosaur · 03/07/2024 23:39

crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 22:10

Stupidest thing is, all in this bit of work will take us about 2 hours all in!

No, this bit of work will take HIM about 2 hours all in (well, probably a bit more, because he'll have to factor in theatrical huffing and puffing, plus I bet he's less efficient than you). Bravo, OP. Absolute win there.

Saintmariesleuth · 03/07/2024 23:37

Well played

DramaAlpaca · 03/07/2024 23:37

Nice one, OP!

Seacatt · 03/07/2024 23:37

Well done!

sprigatito · 03/07/2024 23:34

Apolloneuro · 03/07/2024 22:33

Ha! Bloody wally was just trying to look big in front of his little friends. Well done OP.

I follow a woman on instagram and she was talking about standing up to men. One of the things I’m going to do is, if you and a man are walking towards each other, the woman will always be the one to move. She says don’t - keep walking. You will probably walk in to each other, but whatever. It won’t hurt and the men need to learn that woman won’t move out of their way.

I did it once when a man was on MY side of the road (cars parked on one side). He clearly expected me to reverse. There was a space next to him that he could pull in to. I gestured that to him and sat there. He did pull in, effing and blinding as he did so. He was on my side of the road and expected me to move. Felt bloody great.

I stopped moving for men years ago. They're always so surprised when you just keep coming, it doesn't seem to cross their minds that they might be the one to move aside.

Obviously elderly, disabled or otherwise vulnerable-looking people are exempt!

Alicewinn · 03/07/2024 23:33

What a work shy little twat

Nanaof1 · 03/07/2024 23:29

Poor little man-boy, learning that being an ass comes with consequences.

Well-done OP! 👏👏