My restrictive eating triggers people

She has found a solution that she is comfortable with. Changes would be to benefit others.

For everyone saying what difference does it make to everyone else if OP brings scales I would be interested to understand that too - what difference does it make if you wake up in the morning 3lbs up?Are you happy to spend the day with everyone and relax or are you tense and resentful?When you wake up are you thinking about the ‘weigh-in’ rather than being present with your partner? Expect OP will say she would feel worse and more tense without the scales and I am sorry but that is why there are so many ED comments - it’s about the control and power it has over you

How on earth do you arrive at this conclusion. From the post giving details of her typical meals there’s nothing unhealthy about it. All she’s doing is making sure that the weight she has lost doesn’t creep back on - which it inevitably does if you don’t keep a careful eye on things.

Where is the unhealthy relationship with food ? The main points of criticism seem to be around OP weighing herself every day - which is not uncommon in those who have been successful in losing a lot of weight and not wanting it to creep back on. There’s nothing to suggest OP has an eating disorder - she says she has pizza, and ice cream etc, just not every day and the post detailing her typical eating habits sounds amazing. I’d hazard a guess that certain members of the OP’s family have unhealthy eating habits or are overweight and are actively trying to sabotage her success by making her rethink her regime. Much like a lot of posters here.

I am fat. I don't care, I eat as healthily as I can and am as active as I possibly can be. I am a carer so its not easy but I do my best. I don't care what ppl think of that and I enjoy food.

I think its always rude to comment on peoples food and eating habits unless asked for advice. Doesn't matter if they are fat or thin.

Yanbu. This is your choice your business no one elses.

Well done you. You are right to stick to a healthy eating plan and not want to be 60lb heavier ever agsin. It's no one else's business... probably jealous you look wonderful wish they had the will power to achieve what you have. Well done. You flaunt it girl

You may have a healthy bmi but you have an unhealthy relationship with food, maybe check in with your go and see what they advise?

These feeders are just like someone trying to pressure a recovering alcoholic into drinking. These want to feel better about their own poor eating habits by forcing you to share them. Having said that, I do find the scales thing a bit odd (but then, we all have our quirks.) A tape measure is a more reliable indicator of body composition and much more portable.

You seem to have missed my point/context. My suggestion was to save @Cadelo having to worry about calorie deficit.

YABU to weigh yourself every day and to take scales on holiday.

@TheBossOfMe Oh god I see what you mean, that would make me think a little. It's sucks doesn't it, a bit of enjoyment translating to a lot of effort after! I bet most men don't think like this.

Why? How does someone else taking scales affect you?

I am also picky about food - I wouldn't eat pizza at all now, for example. I've had alcohol three times this year. Through choice. People don't like it, but I love what I eat and I treat myself in other ways. People can be so narrow-minded. Don't let them stop you. OP.

Could you take a tape measure on holiday instead? An expanding waistline will tell you if you need to cut down.

How the hell do you fit scales into your luggage...every scales ive had have been quite heavy.

I don't think it's anyone else's business what you eat. Nor do I think it's unreasonable to take your scales given the amount of weight you lost plus the huge amount of effort it took you to do so. Being overweight can be a dark miserable place for some people and you've done so well. Go and enjoy your holiday the way you want to. Tell SIL and anyone else sticky beaking to jog on.

This sounds delicious - I would love to eat with you!

I think some people i) really lack empathy for different people's health needs, ii) don't understand that others don't enjoy the same foods (drinks, etc) as them, and aren't punishing themselves, or judging others by making different choices.

Honestly, if your SIL can't enjoy her cheese naan without you also having some, that really sounds like her insecurity!

I'm sure you've probably already explored so much with your weight loss, but just in case you're not aware, you can get a mental health assessment without even going to your GP here - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/ - if you do want to get some non-biased advice about relationship with weighing etc., I'm not saying you need to. Personally I have no idea if that's obsessive behaviour (I'm not overly concerned with my weight, but do find it fascinating to see how it fluctuates sometimes, amazing what a big poo does 😂)

I hope you can enjoy your holiday, and maybe find better company for next year 😁

One to two weeks a few years ago Vs 5-10 weeks now. Middle age sucks for metabolism 😂

Totally agree with you about doing it the way that gives the OP peace of mind. That’s a really good way of thinking about it.

I know everyone is curious but the grilling of the OP about her eating habits continues and probably isn’t helpful!

To be honest - I think this is her issue if she is upset or even teasing you about having scales with you. And it’s out of order. It’s none of her business, and also in general I feel like if someone genuinely feels they are happy with their approach to food they don’t get involved in policing others. I literally don’t even always notice what my dinner companions eat, it’s their business. If someone hates and talks down about every meal that’s different but you sound like you’re just quietly getting on with your life in the way you like it and works for you!

@Cadelo So what are you planning to do now, OP? Are you going to talk to your SIL prior to the holiday?

People track everything now though- sleep, heart rate, blood pressure, steps, calories, water intake, phone usage. Some of it continously. The only difference with weight is no one's worked out how to do it without physical scales. If weight could be tracked with an app only or on a smart watch we'd all be doing it daily.

@TheBossOfMe I literally said weeks to lose.. but it's worth it to have relaxed on holiday, which don't come around often.

But I understand OP, we are all different. I'm saying it as a binge eater so I understand being different weights and food addiction. But yes we all manage it differently, you do it the way that gives you most peace of mind

If bringing the scales helps you be more in control and relaxed then do this OP. I’m a daily weigher too and it means I’m not stressed about my weight because I only ever have to tweak.

Dont let SIL push you to consume anything you don’t want for her benefit

the people who are telling you to just relax don’t seem to understand you’ve got through a food addiction. No one would tell a former alcoholic to just relax about their drinking or to just have one.

Stick to your boundaries and it’s none of SIL’s business whether you’ve got scales in your suitcase anyway!

because a fresh fruit breafast is delicious AND healthy