My restrictive eating triggers people

Scales on holiday is excessive. I used to do this but I had an eating disorder.

It sounds like your weight is ruling your life and it could be a slippery slope to anorexia.

Perhaps your SIL and sister are worried about you but they don't need to be so rude with their comments.

Oh god, so over people commenting on my weight and food intake.

i like being slim.

I’ve taken scales away before :)

good on you I say

Why on earth would you think that ?

Why are people asking such weird invasive questions? It's so rude.

Most posters understand your POV, OP. Have you decided what you’re going to do about this situation with your SIL? Are you going to speak to her as some posters have suggested?

Disciplined might be fairer.

If it doesn't control your life then I think it's just an approach not an eating disorder. Seems to me op is avoiding disordered eating by using this strategy.

As someone who has had an ED I am not sure this is true. I think there have to be far more symptoms than being a bit nervous about weight gain. Op posted the food she eats and it seems perfectly healthy to me and not extreme. I don’t think Op should call her eating restrictive.

Your sister is being awful, you're being healthy so well done. While I don't usually support frequent weighing, in your case it is part of what helps you and she should respect that.

When you said she's never known what it was like for your world to be small that really touches me. It sounds like you're doing what you need to, to make sure life is never small again.

the cost is not anything to do with the change, its danegeld.

Er the cost is minimal with my suggestion? But in any case it is just a suggestion, the op can obviously take it or leave it.

Because it suggests that OP needs to accommodate and adapt her behaviour to the bully that her SIL is.

I think I understand the urge for peaceful coexistence but at what cost?

because it only benefits sil who frankly should keep her beak out.

I just saw in her op that her sil was threatening to throw out her scales etc. So a tape measure might be a more discrete option? Not sure why that's so wrong of me to suggest?...

why should she?

Perhaps bring a measuring tape instead? More portable and arguably more reliable. Your weight can go up with muscle and water weight etc but waist measurement will only really go up with fat.

While personally I don't think I'm extreme, I always try to avoid sugar. So no biscuits and chocolate. I know colleagues and friends can get a bit annoyed at my always saying no. But hey, we all have our quirks.

Fucks sake. Why is it anyone else’s business what OP eats and if she likes to weigh daily?

i was fat until my late 20’s. A couple of decades on now but growing up fat had such an influence on me and the fear of going back there will never leave me.

i fully accept I don’t have a healthy relationship with food but I am healthy in body now.

Like OP, I don’t talk about my issues (and I do have issues!) but while my friends are obviously aware of this, it doesn’t impact them at all and they wouldn’t dream of giving me a hard time about it.

Your SIL needs to wind her neck in. And maybe make an effort to understand why you choose to eat as you do.

That sounds like a perfectly rational way to choose healthier options but still get to eat out with friends.

Its clear that your SIL was paying close attention to what you chose to order and chipping in with "go on get a cheese naan down you," sounds quite mocking, drawing everyone else's attention to what you are eating. It's nasty behaviour and Your SIL really needs to be firmly told to mind her own business.

Out of principle. If OP really does get anxious and panicky without bringing a pair of scales everywhere she goes then that indeed is an eating disorder.

Those of you who say you'd put someone else's property in the bin (scales in this case). How do you think that would help the OP relax? Its more likely to make her anxious and panicky. How can you not see that?

OP don't listen to this noise. You do you. 60lbs is incredible. I've just lost a similar amount and I know I'm obsessed. Good luck!

This is the crux of the matter isn’t it ? OP has followed a healthy diet, has reached her goal and has a healthy BMI. She’s posted what sounds like a really good and varied diet and has already said that if she goes over a certain weight she will cut back for a couple of weeks until she loses it. Sounds good to me and similar to the methods I used to lose a fair bit of weight. Once you get to your goal weight it dawns on you that keeping the weight off is now the hard part - not least because there will be those people who do have an insecure and unhealthy attitude towards eating and will gladly try to lead you astray.

This. Unless people have experienced for themselves the time and effort it takes to achieve significant weight loss, it’s hard to understand the amount of self control it takes to permanently change your eating habits. Food is everywhere - it’s pushed at us in every high street and in all kinds of advertising. Going on holiday and letting yourself go may be OK for some - and I agree that in this scenario that’s actually disordered eating and suggests an unhealthy attitude towards food, but for those of us who now know how easy it is to put the weight back on and how hard it is to lose it, that’s not an option and family members trying to coax me to do exactly that would be the death knell for me going on holiday with them again.

I’ve just re-read the OP, and she doesn’t ask for any advice on her eating habits at all, so I don’t think it’s surprising that she’s not interested in the thoughts of others, because it’s worked for her and she’s happy and healthy. I think her post was mainly a vent because of the attitude of others, including her family. The fact that the discussion has mainly consisted of a critique of her entire weight loss regime is typical of MN threads diverting from the reason for the post. I’ve experienced this kind of criticism after significant weight loss and I think the problem lies with others. When someone in their circle has been overweight for a long time and is successful in significant weight loss it can trigger the nastier side of peoples’ personalities and they will go all out to sabotage the effort they’ve made. I think that’s what’s happened with OP, and personally if I were her I would carry on as normal and ignore it. If it carries on maybe step back from the critics for a while and let them get their heads around what, for the OP, is clearly a permanent change.