My restrictive eating triggers people

By eating a full English breakfast? I just find it odd that they’d take it upon themselves off their own backs to actively comment on your food intake unless you’ve got into the habit of bringing it up yourself.

In what context did your husband bring up the fact you’re taking the scales on holiday? I’ve never discussed what I’m packing on holiday really.

Scales on holiday - you have what sounds like an eating disorder .

Daily weighing isn’t healthy for some people. For others, it works. I have lost over 120lbs and I weigh myself every morning but I have reached a place where I no longer attach emotion to the number. I view it purely as data collection to identify trends or how XYZ affects my body.

OP, you do sound a bit disordered around food and body image. If people are referring to you as ‘scrawny’, you’re probably thinner than you think.

Everything you said is fine- but the scales got me. Surely the complex has a gym, scales etc. It’s a step too far taking them imo.

I admire the determination and self discipline you must have shown to lose so much weight. However, I think this:

So I do take scales on holiday as I weigh myself daily.

is OTT and probably counter productive.

Weight can fluctuate slightly from day to day and even within the same day. I can understand keeping a careful eye on the situation but I would say probably weigh yourself no more than once a week and always on the same day and time of day.

Surely things are not going to get so out of hand in one week that you have to diet massively to put it right?

Firstly OP well done for losing the weight! And secondly well done for keeping it off. I wish I had your motivation and will power, maybe it’s a little jealousy as how many slices you eat does not affect anyone’s life

I am in the minority, but I think it is perfectly ok to take scales. It is a HUGE adjustment to have lost 60lbs (many congratulations BTW) and you are still in the process of adjusting. If daily weigh-ins help your confidence, then do it. You will eventually be at the point of not needing to do this.
You do need to develop a thicker skin with your relies, tho. Practice a couple of standard answers or ways of changing the subject when they go on at you. I do find people that comment on others eating habits incredibly rude & have boundary issues.
I have become a v light eater & food refuser (slow metabolism) but I don’t get comments.
Try to enjoy your holiday.

If you’re taking scales on holiday you’re obsessed with scales.

Well done for losing the weight OP! You only need to look around to see that it's hard to lose weight and keep it off. If you have found that really close monitoring is what you need to do to stay on track then so be it. It doesn't sound perfect but if the alternative is putting on weight and all the negative health implications that go along with that then keep up the monitoring.

If you weren't obsessed with the scales you wouldn't take them

1/2 pound is a daily fluctuation though? TMI .. I've done poos heavier than that

Taking the scales... batshit

Moderate food intake .. sensible

Having 2 slices of pizza and a salad sounds much better than just pizza on its own.. from a taste and health POV

Crack on. Tell SIL to do one, "I don't comment on your food choices and I would appreciate you not commenting on mine"

I wouldn’t bat an eyelid what anyone else ordered for breakfast unless they made a big thing of ‘oh I couldn’t possibly eat a huge breakfast’ etc.

Do they comment on each others eating habits or just yours?

If you say you’re scrawny then they’re probably thinking it’s an obsession. I know you never want to go back so I have no suggestions but it is a bit of a minefield- I have a friend who eats healthy and I mean properly well but calorie counts and any meal we’ve ever had has always contained one ‘there’s no way I’m having that’.

She lost two stone years ago but now is definitely on the too thin (looking) side. It’s hard to navigate because I get the feeling she’s always that little bit on edge about it and that to me is not happy in your skin. Just giving you the other side of it

Yes I wondered about this. Are you obviously saying “oh I couldn’t possibly eat this?” or just quietly getting on and ordering what you fancy?

Your SIL sounds annoying, but taking scales on holiday is bonkers.

Taking scales on holiday and the way you’re talking about food suggests you don’t have a healthy relationship with eating, despite having lost a lot of weight.

I personally never take much notice what other people are eating, I wonder is it something you bring up with them regularly? How does your SIL even know about the scales unless you’ve told her?

Edit: just seen your update - tbh I think you should get some kind of therapy about your issues with food, you’ve replaced binging with restrictive eating and verging on obsessive behaviour with the scales, neither is healthy.

Your restrictive eating triggers you.

Weighing yourself daily is not healthy at all. Once a week is all you should weigh yourself.

It's been three years, you know what you can eat without putting yourself over 2kg gain in a week.

YABU taking scales on holiday, no wonder people are worried about you.

If this is what helps you to stay a reasonable weight I don't see that this is unreasonable. Better this than going over the top and putting all the weight back on! Just tell her the comments upset you given everything you went through and how unhappy you were you'd appreciate a little sensitivity and understanding. If she doesn't respond then give her a wide berth. She is probably feeling inferior because she eats more and has less control over it.

First of all, well done for losing all that weight. But I totally agree with the above. Don't go away with people who upset you, and don't take the scales, that is way way over the top. You know what to eat or not eat- and that is enough for a week or two.