My restrictive eating triggers people

But when you weigh yourself on holiday, are you making allowances for every external factor that causes fluctuations?

Flying makes me bloat up like a blimp so that affects my weight for a couple of days. I also retain water in hot weather, so that needs to be accounted for. If you eat a bit more food than normal, you’ll have more waste in your system and that adds to your overall weight, not to mention the effect of eating more salt than usual. It goes on and on.

Holiday fluctuations tend to be more extreme than normal for all of those reasons but it doesn’t mean you have gained 5lbs of fat.

Exactly!
I love going out with my friends who don't drink alcohol. It means I'm much more likely not to 😆

This. A “healthy BMI” be a healthy BMI but not if you are tall and not naturally a slight build.

I admire your strength and determination to keep the weight off, but it sounds like it's become an unhealthy obsession.

Why would it affect you though?!

I think it's like if you've been an alcoholic you need to cut the alcohol consumers from your life if they continue to drink in front of you.

She's bullying you. And sounds jealous.

I think at some point you may have to choose between your fear of gaining anything over 5 pounds and taking the scales on holiday with you VERSUS your interpersonal relationships.

It sounds disordered and exhausting.

I lost five stone a while back.

However, during that time I still ate what I wanted on holiday, had restaurant meals, ate more than one slice of pizza at social events, etc. Just not on every single day of my life. I ate healthily and exercised the majority of the time, but I also understood that the 5lbs I might gain on a week's holiday could be lost again in about the same amount of time as soon as I returned home. And absolutely never in a million years would I have taken the scales on holiday.

Personally, I think people are not so much 'triggered' as actively concerned that you're becoming obsessive and disordered when it comes to weight. It's absolutely fine that you want to eat fruit for breakfast, that's obviously perfectly reasonable - but the thing is, people are probably only noticed you doing this because of the wider context of you doing far less reasonable things like taking the scales on holiday.

Look, I do get it - there are definitely people who are a bit weird about other people being on a diet. I've experienced that. But I think in your case it's much more about the way you're approaching it, in such a rigid and obsessive way, that is drawing attention to it.

Fat doesn’t go on in a day though, therefore daily weighing is pointless and just feeding an ED.

You eating sounds disordered. Weighing yourself daily isn't normal or healthy.

I think other people shouldn't comment on your eating, obviously. But, I wonder if their perception is that you are being judgemental towards them?

Being honest, I'd probably avoid holidaying together, it sounds uncomfortable.

I'm sorry you get treated like this.

Fwiw I wouldn't give a flying fuck if you took scales on holiday and ate salad as long as you didn't want to weigh me or comment on my food or bang on about what you can and can't eat, calories, weight etc and you didn't look at my food with puppy eyes then all is good 😁

If you want to weigh yourself daily and eat salad but we can have a laugh together then more pizza for me! I'm happy.

People often do seem to act like things you do are a criticism of them. It's their issue. Don't let it get to you.

Everyone who, like the OP, has lost a lot of weight will know all about the natural fluctuations. That’s not what worries us - water retention is different from putting on and storing the fat you’ve worked so hard to lose. You can’t bloody win on MN.

My only question to you OP and anyone else who has managed to shift large amounts is how did you do it?

Such a hard thing to do. Well done to you all 👏👏👏

And anyone who hasn't struggled with weight can seriously fucking jog the fuck on!

I've never been overweight but I have always maintained my figure and possibly not as extreme as you, but I eat small portions.

My sisters are the same.

I have found that some people are hellbent on being feeders.

'Oh go in, have a bit more.'
'Is that all you're having?'
'Aren't you hungry?'
'That wouldn't fill me up!'
Blah blah blah

I don't feel hungry but some people like to tell others to eat more. Some are just being kind and think you don't eat enough. Mostly elderly people who think you should eat more.

Others may want an excuse for themselves to eat more and feel angry that because you're not eating more it makes them look greedy.

'What's it git go do with you? Worry about your own food consumption, not mine!' Is my stock answer.

They are going to feel shamed though aren't they.

If every time they order food or drinks you order something miniscule in comparison it's going to make them feel like they are constantly pigging out. I couldn't be around someone like that on holiday.

What do you mean when you say it becomes a big thing (when you eat an ice cream)?

Op you do what you need to do. If that's taking scales on holiday then so be it. Welldone for losing 60 pounds and keeping it off, and being dedicated and proactive rather than undisciplined and lazy.

You ARE obsessive about your weight and as long as you are getting enough fuel/vitamins/minerals/protein etc, why shouldn't you be obsessive ?

Your body, your choice.

It is easy to put on half a stone on holiday and with PCOS - losing weight is HARD

Your partner needs to keep his mouth shut and the other people around you should, imo, be supporting you to live the way you choose (as long as your choice isn't self harming)

I think it’s fine to take scales on holiday, people have been very rude, what’s it to them. I went on a holiday last year where there actually were scales there anyway! It’s not like you’re making everyone weigh in!

That’s daft. You could gain or lose that in fluid (or a large poo!) or during your cycle. While I don’t think you’re wrong to watch your weight, taking scales on holiday is obsessive and shows you do have an issue. Also, your obsession about putting on half a pound is also too extreme. Restricted eating and obsessive strictness like this can lead to an ED.

There’s a middle way.

It wouldn't bother me the slightest, in fact
I may eat more healthily if on holiday with you!
😁

After working so hard to lose a lot of weight and finding pleasure in being able to wear and look/feel good in nice clothes, it’s disordered to keep a strict eye on your weight once you reach your goal weight. I don’t know if I’d necessarily take scales on holiday with me, but OP knows what she needs to do to keep the weight off. Having lost five stones a few years ago and worked at keeping it off ever since, I know how easily the weight creeps back on if you don’t keep an eye on it. There are those of us who put on weight very easily for whatever reason, and for whom it’s a big thing to finally achieve the weight loss we want. Those who don’t have that problem probably won’t understand that point of view, and I think this is what will divide opinion on the thread.

Why do you care?!

You can't bloody win can you?!
The comments when you're overweight and the comments now you're a healthy weight.

You crack on op. And well done 👏

Let me disappoint you. Weight fluctuates daily, mostly due to water retention which can be triggered by eating slightly saltier foods than normal, a little more carbs (for every gram of glycogen your body stores 3-4g of water), and many other factors. You can’t really attribute 1/2lb of weight gain to anything but natural water fluctuations. To gain 1lb of fat, you need to have eaten 3500cal ON TOP of your TDEE. Which it doesn’t really sound like you do.
1-2 slices of pizza is a normal portion size so your family is unreasonable, however, taking scales on holiday is OTT.