What would you do in this situation? Another child hurt my child and it’s been made out to be my child’s fault

Just to add here, were you watching your child? I say this not to be critical but that's a lot of things to happen without you intervening.

From a different perspective, my son is severely autistic and on one occasion I was with my son and this boy kept following him around, taking his things etc. My son can't tolerate this and lashes out. The parents were nowhere to be seen, so it was left to me to try and remove this kid from my son's space so the child didn't get injured.
I hover around my child because I know what he's like but this happens so much tbh - people not watching their kids but then preach high and mighty when something happens they don't like.

Not saying this is the case here, but it seems there is more to this than being said.

What would i do in this situation. First off i wouldnt be in this situation because:

1. ANY adult that put their hands on my child, i would have intervened at that particular point.
2. As soon as my child was hit and seeing that Grandma had told her off, i would have made sure that i then simply moved to a different area in gymnastics. They are only 3 and they probably just needed to be separated.

Wow. Just tell the truth. Say I'm sorry but I saw the other girl hit my son repeatedly until he cried and I also saw his grandmother grab my child to berate him. I'm extremely unhappy with this conduct, obviously (of both child & adult) and I am especially unhappy now that my child has been unfairly blamed. Its important to me to clear this up with you so you understand. Thanks.

Surely you told the group leader that not only did the other child hit yours, on two occasions, and yours did not retaliate at all. But on top of that the adult with the other child grabbed your child and physically moved him when he was doing nothing wrong - and if anyone needs speaking to about kind hands it's not only the other child but her bloody grandmother too!

Just reply chill.

Hi x, You have sent this email to the incorrect recipient?

See. You on x.

In this situation I would have told the teacher that of course I would have that conversation with my child, but as it was another kid that actually hit him, I'd appreciate it if she could reiterate with the rest of the class, especially the child it's actually relevant to.

And then I'd go back to the class and if it happened again I would address it directly with the adult with the other child (even if that just means moving them away from one another).

How do you know he has a high pain tolerance? Seems quite an odd thing to know about a 3 year old.

Ask if they have cctv - some gymnastics clubs do. If so could they review the footage?

It’s ok to advocate for you child - both in the class and also speak to the staff there if there is an issue between the kids - more to make them aware so they are also vigilant.

Who is meant to be supervising as the teacher should have eyes on all the kids in the class as they are meant to supervise. If you are meant to supervise then be closer to your kid so that nobody has time to smack him in the face.

why didn’t you say anything to teacher at the time of the class?

Surely you pointed out that he hadn’t hit anyone?

Stand up for him at the time.

But in the meantime reply to the teacher that of course you will continue encouraging your son to be gentle and take turns in the future, but you would appreciate it if she could supervise the class closely enough to prevent him being repeatedly smacked in the face and having his hair pulled by certain children and make it clear to other adults attending that grabbing or manhandling other people's children is unacceptable except in cases where there is a clear safety risk.

Tell the teacher what happened and make sure she tells the girl to use kind hands.

If they are there again watch like a hawk and the minute the gran or girl step out of line speak to them and get the teachers attention.

This . She should not have manhandled your child .

I feel there’s more to this!

1 - You didn’t say anything when the granny grabbed your boy??

2 - Did you actually see what happened in the lead up to the incidents?

3 - Also why mention about his pain tolerance?

At the end of the day they are 3, they need guidance on right and wrong. This includes both kids. So reiterating kind hands etc to all kids at this age is a must.

To be fair, it does sound as though your son tried to take each piece of equipment the little girl was playing with!
I am not saying that excuses the behaviour of either the grandmother or the little girl, but maybe some support for taking turns might be in order.
At this age they really do need very close watching - do you accompany your son around the apparatus?

They are little and don't have the skills to navigate this. Just carry on as usual and go to your classes. If the other girl is there, keep him well away from her. I am yet to meet a small child that hears the kind hands message and pay any attention, they just develop better skills naturally as they get older.

The Grans are the worst for this in my experience, you’d think they’d be super chilled out but no, and they always seem to stand there with pursed lips but say nothing to you.

Does he have a mark?

When the grandmother put her hands on your son, why didn't you do/say anything? I'm sorry, I really don't understand. You need to work on standing up for your son. You can't just stand passively by and watch.

How did she manage to smack him repeatedly in the face and pull his hair without you intervening? 😳

Did you intervene at all, at any point?

Why didn't you do anything on the day? Either talk to the grandmother/teacher or email when you got home.

You watched your son get hurt several times, you didn't intervene in any way or do anything about it.

Did you ask the teacher to speak to the other child's mother/granny to ensure they use kind hands and not hit your son?

I'm really not sure why you didn't deal with it at the time - both with the leaders and the grandparent if necessary

You didn’t say anything when the grandmother grabbed him by the arm? I couldn’t have kept quiet then.

I'm confused why you didn't stand up for your little boy at the time. It's not ok to let them be hurt deliberately