To not understand what they expect me to do?

This. If the OP was bemoaning that no one would help her with childcare the posts would all be "well they are your child, you can't expect anyone to help you with childcare ever"!!!!!

You shouldn’t have committed to it unless you had bulletproof childcare lined up. You can get out of jury duty very easily if you say you can’t arrange childcare. I’ve done it twice.
Once you have committed, it’s very, very difficult to get out of. It’s taken very seriously if you don’t turn up and turning up with a kid amounts to the same. I wouldn’t risk it. I don’t know what you can do and it is shit but I’m sorry op you’ve put yourself in this position.

I don’t think you can say yes and then change your mind? Is that what’s happened? You can say no and explain why. Then they decide if the reason is valid as follows

1. you’re having an operation
2. you’re sitting an exam
3. your employer will not give you time off work
4. you have a holiday booked
5. you’re a new parent

@maw1681 I'm also shocked at the responses on a site called MUMSnet. It's not the fault of ordinary people that childcare etc is so hard to find!
If the courts really cared about democracy they could IDK find and pay for a nanny?
No suggestions OP just wanted to support

You wouldn't get into the building with an unauthorised person in tow.

I would ask to defer. You had childcare and that has now fallen through because they are in hospital. You give dates when you can do it instead and that might get you further. Otherwise if your husband really can't take annual leave you will need to prove it and take it to appeal. Don't take your child to court with you, but if the appeal isn't before the date you're due to start then you'll have to ring them on the first day instead.

In some areas there aren't even nursery places for children who need them for parents to work, never mind adhoc for 2 weeks.

They are calling your bluff that you can't get childcare, so you'll have to prove that you really don't have any and turn up with your child.

Can't believe some of the replies! OP can't just leave a 14 month old with a random childminder or neighbour the child hasn't met before, it's potentially 2 weeks full time! Highly unlikely she would find a nursery with space too and also I wouldn't have been happy just to dump my child in nursery without a settling in period.
Her husband can't just waste 2 weeks holiday on this and how would they afford unpaid leave? Jury pay covers the juror only.

Also my DH had to do jury duty a few months ago, he turned up on the first day and they said they didn't need him at all and he could go home, and that was his jury duty over!
How frustrated would OP be if that happened if she'd paid for childcare for 2 weeks!

OP you will have to appeal, and just don't turn up on the day. You're not being unreasonable your planned childcare fell through which you can prove and your DH can't get time off, there is literally no other option. I can't believe they refused your request tbh. I would be backing up my decision to appeal with a letter/email stating all the reasons you won't be there.

May depend on the court & the number of jurors who turn up but it does happen. Frequently.

You were possibly just lucky your absence didn't matter at the time

They do and will if directed by the court

I’m in Scotland, I didn’t go, no one came to the door or at least not when I was home.

They will go to your door. At least, in Scotland. That’s routine.

Well, once her kids are older she will be able to do it, just not now.

She told them that she had to see her grandchild so can't do jury service and they accepted the request.

Perhaps she deferred?

Doesn't seem likely that visiting a GC would be an excuse does it?

I would look for a child minder and if none can accept your child then yes, turn up with your child and tell you’ve tried child minders.

@Julyshouldbesunny

"Surely you appreciate a jury is vital to the upkeep of the law and the jailing or wrong uns?
Yabu not to find childcare.. Friend? Neighbours?"

What sort of world do you live in where you can just ask friends or neighbours to look after your toddler potentially for a fortnight? Maybe you live in a TV show, maybe you are extremely lucky or not particularly bothered who you leave your child with.

In the real world most people would be very fortunate to find someone safe and suitable to have their child for a day. Jeez.

@bloodypublicservice according to https://www.gov.uk/jury-service/delaying-or-being-excused-from-jury-service you can ask to change the date or be excused if you are a new parent and will not be able to serve at any other time in the next twelve months.

According to https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/64244c732fa848000cec0eed/summoning-officers-when-considering-deferral-excusal-applications-guidance.pdf a 'new parent' is one with an infant or child younger than compulsory school age.

I would politely challenge the decision you have been given - or ask why these guidelines don't apply to your circumstances.

Not all the jurors who are called on any given week actually end up in court - there's always extras kept hanging around. If you have no other choice then take your child in with you and explain the situation to the liaison officer who books you in. They can be very helpful, and you probably won't be the first. Don't worry about wasting the court's time ; in my experience they waste the juror's time far more than the other way round (but usually with good reason).

But there are in this case, two parents, one of whom could take parental leave.

You seriously can't expect him to take unpaid parental leave indefinitely!

And to those saying OP's husband can take annual leave, what if he doesn't have any left? I've used a huge chunk of mine already this year and certainly wouldn't have 2 weeks or longer spare!

@bloodypublicservice

I'm one of three people I know who's got off jury duty in the past six weeks (in my case, for the second time). In my case, it was due to my job; one friend - think she had recently had Covid; another friend's son was called but was going on holiday.

If you have to attend jury selection day, the clerk should ask anyone who has a reason not to serve to speak to them privately. Do this.

In all my years of attending trials (professionally!), I have never known a court to force someone to serve on a jury when they have given a reason at jury selection as to why they can't do it. The court doesn't want to run the risk of jury members not turning up and a trial having to be abandoned.

I was called to do jury service last year. I deferred due to a holiday then attended. Admittedly I didn't have childcare issues.

The £5.71 lunch allowance doesn’t even cover a lunch from the courts own cafe, let alone meal deal. Well, it was at the court I went to! The food allowance was enough for a sandwich, drink, snack at the courthouse cafe. You might even be able to take it all in chocolate bars and take them home! Bring in your own lunch. Expenses aren't great but they paid my fuel and parking to a reasonable level.

As it happens I attended for two days but was excused/dismissed by the third day so it's possible you won't be called. You have an opportunity once there to fill in a form expressing any difficulties you might have doing jury service.

Otherwise, don't refuse but defer to a time when you may have the support you need. I think you might be entitled to defer twice but no more. Pick a time, even next year when you think it may be possible.

I also have such issues, was called about 6 years ago, I wrote on the form that I had ibs, (used the words 'urgency' & 'frequency') and had a letter back saying I was excused.

I'm surprised that they refused your request. My MIL was called for jury service around the time I had my child. She told them that she had to see her grandchild so can't do jury service and they accepted the request. I was disappointed though as she was very very overbearing at the time and pretty much moved in.

Can you just not show up to jury duty? Say you're sick?

If you can't not go, and can't leave your child home alone (obviously you can't), I don't see what you can do except take baby with you. Make it their problem, it's not like you haven't tried to give advance notice.

You don't get out of it for being self employed and it clearly states that on the website.

Everyone can defer it ONCE with a valid reason. Being self employed and childcare issues are both valid reasons to defer.