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To be heading for a nervous breakdown

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pinkpillowlady · 02/07/2024 23:10

Hi all - have name changed for this.

im heading for a nervous breakdown and have spent the night vomiting.

i work for a financial institution and I’m struggling. I work full time and I have 2 DDs who are 9 and 5 and a hands on husband.

I feel like I have no one to speak to but I’m drowning. My job is full on with no respite. I feel like I can’t get a handle on it. My admin is a mess and I’m just exhausted and feel like I want to quit. Found out today that we are being audited and I’ve spent the night vomiting. I spotted a stupid mistake I’ve been making and and im convinced I’m going to be sacked. I’m just a mess. I want to run away and I would if I didn’t have kids. My husband thinks I overreact but I feel genuinely done in and ill.

i have elderly parents and my DF is really unwell (long term life limiting illness) and I see a huge change in him - he’s gone right downhill. It’s killing me watching him.

im rambling but I can’t sleep and I want the misery to just stop

OP posts:
Shrewsbury247 · 02/07/2024 23:21

You absolutely need some time off to re-centre yourself.
what other options do you have, can you afford to leave and find something else that’s perhaps less stressful?

LostAllMySocks · 02/07/2024 23:21

I think you need to get yourself signed off for several months and get some perspective. I think you probably need a complete change of career.

Do you remember the episode of Friends where Phoebe had to give up her ultra-high-stress job and move to become a masseuse? I think you are in that episode right not.

I would "stop drop and roll" right now, before you give yourself a heart attack.

TulipsAndZombies · 02/07/2024 23:20

The Samaritans are a great source of support if you need a listening ear in the middle of the night. I’m in a professional role and was heading for a breakdown a while ago and found them helpful. I just needed someone there and then to listen and talk me down. Their number is 116 123.

If you can, take time off and recalibrate. You’re spinning too many plates.

I promise this will pass, but in the meantime, you need some support. Take care OP

corkscrewedup · 02/07/2024 23:18

Can you take a holiday or look at stress related sick leave?

A break often helps as a bit of perspective

HalfMumHalfBiccit · 02/07/2024 23:15

Sounds awful. Can you have a couple of days off sick? Or work from home to give yourself a break? It probably seems worse than it really is if you are exhausted. Can you rest and regroup?

XChrome · 02/07/2024 23:14

You are stressed to the max. Maybe you should try to get another job, one with a less stressful atmosphere? Having ill parents and two kids is enough to stress you out alone, without a demanding job on top of it.