Curfew for 16 year old during summer

Since you seem like quite an intelligent and reasonable teen, perhaps you could compromise and ask for 2/3 nights a week when you get the later bus?

Offer to keep them in the loop and let them know which days you’ll be on the later one. Stay in contact, keep your phone charged.

Good luck xx

Sorry I wasn't clear.

My 16 year old currently has to be in by 7pm if he's making his own way home as he was set upon by some other kids recently and the police were involved.

He can stay out later if I pick him up!

Ah. Are they trying to stop you getting too friendly with your boyfriend? Do they like him?

You don't have to answer obviously, it just seems like there might be something underlying this. If you can figure out what it is you might be able to have a productive discussion about it.

YABU

I'd be okay with the 11pm bus but I'd want to know:
Where you'd be
Who your with
What the plan was if you accidentally missed the 11pm bus (assuming this was the last bus) I wouldn't want you getting stranded,
And I'd want a text once you were on that bus.
My mum was quite strict and My curfew was 9pm until I was 18. I used to lie about where I was staying and tell her I was at my best friends house for a sleepover at 15/16 when I was actually drunk in a field somewhere or at some random house party so I plan to give my two girls that little bit more freedom in the hope they don't feel the need to lie when they reach that age.

I was going to say 10.30 then I saw the situation about the buses. I would say to get the 11pm bus if you are going to be home by 11.15.

As a parent I would probably agree to the 11pm bus (assuming it's quite a quick journey by bus, not an hour or something). However, circumstances might also be pertinent here. Would you be alone waiting for the bus or walking back home from the bus? What are crime rates like in your area? What would you actually be doing until 11pm? Hanging around on the street/public places, or indoors at a friend's (parent's) house? Any previous incidents that have occurred when you've been out of an evening (drink, drugs, mixing with dodgy characters etc)? All those things would be factors in my decision as a parent.

I'm not sure I'd be entirely comfortable with a 16 y/o daughter being out and about on her own much after 9pm in most parts of the country. However, I do live in a rather rural part of the world now, so would perhaps be less concerned.

When I was a teenager (1990's), we had no trouble getting served alcohol in pubs from age 14, or getting into nightclubs from 15/16. I think I'd be happier about a 16 year old son or daughter drinking down the pub until 11pm than just 'out and about' on the streets (even without alcohol). These days I get the impression it's a lot harder to get served under age than it used to be, which is actually a bit of a shame in some ways.

7pm for a 16 year old! That is ridiculous!

My 16 year old has to be home by 7pm if he's getting a bus or walking.

He can stay out later if I'm picking him up.

10.30pm is late enough. After midnight is ridiculous.

For me the issue would be I would want to know your in safe and sound before going to bed. 11:15 is too late for me to go to bed on a work night regularly.

I would allow it once or twice a week especially if there was something special happening. Maybe see if that’s an option.

If your parents are working and eg have to be up at 630 then they aren’t going to want to be waiting up for you to get in at like 1115. Unfortunately! You’re still young enough that your parents would want you to be safe home before they turned in. The infrequent buses sound like the problem. Maybe friends’ parents can do a bit of a rota of collecting…

Have you spoken to your parents about the logistics of this? If they want you back at 10:30 but won't extend it, ever, to 11:15 when it seems to make so much sense... I get the feeling there's something you're not saying.

Have you missed curfews before, or broken their trust, or found yourself in dangerous situations, or do you have friends they don't trust? Something else?

I’d be relaxed about you getting the 11pm bus, as long as a) it’s reliable and b) waiting for the bus doesn’t mean hanging around in a dodgy area on your own.

Could you see if you could negotiate the later 11pm bus at weekends or once or twice per week and other times get the earlier one.
Compromise for all?

I think 10:30pm is a pretty reasonable curfew for a 16 year old. You could ask your parents about taxis or getting lifts from them sometimes to enable you to stay out a bit later. I had a similar curfew at 16 - once I'd demonstrated I could be trusted to manage my time within that boundary, my parents were happy to arrange some exceptions to the rule for special occasions like parties, and to either pick me up or split a taxi fare with me.

If the bus is your only option for travel, then you should at least be allowed to catch the 11pm bus, in my opinion.

if you were able to get a lift home, I probably wouldn’t give you a curfew. I don’t think I had a specific curfew when I was 16 and was able to get a lift home. I had to tell my parents where I was going and how and when I would be getting home, but we just kind of agreed it case by case. I’m guessing that if I’d been planning on hanging around in the park with randoms they’d have wanted me home earlier than they would have done if I’d been going to the cinema, or a gig, or to my best friend’s house to watch TV and eat pizza.

I think 11 is reasonable so long as it's not every night and parents know where you are going ie not just hanging around on the street. The problem is if you miss that bus. Also most parents can't settle themselves until their children are safely home so later means they will no doubt be on edge and exhausted and presumably on summer holidays from work.

She’s not wanting to do anything at 11. That’s just the only option of her coming home on the bus. And at 16 I’d be pissed off with having a 9pm curfew as that’s what time the bus is. Do you not remember being young and wanting to stay out late with your friends? They’re not babies anymore, and technically if she decided to move out at that age there’s nothing anyone could do to stop her. There’s a compromise that needs to be reached somewhere

I have a 16yo daughter. If she’s at a friends house by us then I’d be happy for her to stay out later. But honestly there’s so much that happens on late buses by me that there’s no way I’d have her on a bus past half 10. Saying that I’m one of those parents who hate their kids missing out on anything, so I am soft enough to organise and pay for a taxi if they want to stay out late somewhere.

I think it’s reasonable for you to get the 11pm bus given the bus stop is outside your house.

What are you doing or wanting to do till 11? (And what are your friends doing till 2am?)