Curfew for 16 year old during summer

Too strict, it’s the sumner holiday and you’re old enough to leave home / get married for Gods sake. ( Yes I know she can’t afford to / under parents roof their rules etc.)
I wouldn’t have wanted my son roaming the streets at all hours but as long as I knew where he was, at a friends house, I wouldn’t have expected him home so early. I wanted him to have fun.

1/2am is far too late for a 16 year old unless they are going to a specific event like a concert. I’d say that’s a more reasonable time for an 18 year old who might be going to pubs and clubs and in fact by that age I’d guess most teenagers don’t have a curfew.
Is there really no other way to get home except for a bus that only comes at 9 or 11?
Where I live the bus from the city at that time of night is only every two hours, but there is also a train.
I’d say on weekends and holidays it’s reasonable that you should be allowed to get the 11pm bus.
You sound like a good kid.

So what happens with older teenagers?

I was lucky in that I never had a curfew as such but my mum always knew where I was and what time I would be home. When I was 17 I used to go out til a bit later but I was.also working full time so my parents treated me like an adult.

I'd say be on the 11pm bus rather than a curfew to be home 🏡

Circumstances would differ, but in my house we are all up super early and I wouldn’t be able to settle if my 16 year old was out so yes unreasonable, rules are rules

I had to be home by 8pm and I was 18 and very sensible! I had a job and was starting uni the next summer too! I think 10pm is reasonable sorry

I'm a mum to a 13 year old girl, she is too young to be out this late now but when she's 16 I would let her get the 11pm bus in the holidays (but would be happier just going to get her myself) and would at least want her to let us know when she's on the bus so her Dad could meet her at the bus stop.
1/2am would be a no until she's 18!

OP is 2 1/2 hours from Glasgow so quite far north. It will be light till late there just now.

@MarjorieStuartBaxter I love the mumsnet idea of rural. Get an Uber 😆

It looks as if you have to leave your friends half an hour before the bus, if you’re leaving at 8.30 for the 9pm bus. I would not want my daughter alone on the street between 10.30-11 pm on the way to, or waiting at the bus stop.

For me, it wouldn't be the time you wanted to stay out from home until, but how you were getting home. For instance, if there was a party that finished at around 1am, if you were getting a lift home or being collected, that would be fine. It's about safety because, even though it shouldn't be this way, you are more at risk being a lone female at night.

On the fence as my teen is 16 in couple of months and I wouldn't want him getting a bus at 11pm.

Yep, I used to live in Scotland and I'm aware sunset is later, I just don't remember it being light past 11pm. Sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️ it just seemed like there were a few strange things being thrown out as counter arguments - obviously I'm wrong, no biggie!

You are luckier than the others.

It’s a pity the bus isn’t at 10.30pm. I can see that your parents would be more worried about you when the pubs are coming out at 11pm. But if your boyfriend is walking you to the bus station and waiting until you get on the bus and the bus stop is next to your house I think that’s really okay. Maybe tell your parents you’ll sit near the driver? It does seem a bit harsh to effectively have a 9pm curfew at 16.
(and get one of these btw.)

I think 11 is very sensible. As long as you are safe on your journey home. If not, can parents collect you some of the time?

@oliwiagrzeda

At that time we wouldn’t be out anyway we would be at someone’s house most like so I could charge my phone there

Also consider investing in a good power bank for those, hopefully, infrequent times your phone runs out of charge? 🌹

My 16 yr old doesn't have a curfew she's sensible and we live pretty ruralish so is only at parties in local villages etc I think 1/2 am is fine tbh I was clubbing later than that at 16 🙈 obviously if you can't get home though can you not get an Uber instead of bus

1-2am sounds negligent and I suspect you wouldn't want those parents.

Don't knock having parents who love you enough to impose sensible curfews.

How long does the bus take?
I think the 11pm bus is reasonable
When i was 15 and in Year 11, My Curfew was 11.30….

BUT when i was 16 , 30 years ago now, i was working Full time so couldnt really have a curfew and moved away to another city at 17 to volunteer

At 16 at school my curfew was similar to yours, though when I started college I didnt have a curfew and nor did any of my friends.
If there was a party or we went out particularly late, I just stayed the night at a friends- my mum knew my friends so I guess she was happy knowing we would look out for one another.

At 16 we went on holidays by ourselves, to festivals, to house parties.

I’m curious- to all the parents enforcing early curfews, do you also not let your 16 year olds go on holidays with their friends, to parties, festivals? I thought that was all standard school leaver summer holiday stuff.

I would only worry if you missed the 11pm bus what you'd then do. Do you have uber on your phone, is that a possibility?

My DD is 16 and normally she gets home by 10pm on the w'ends / holidays.

As a Mum of three ,I never gave my children a curfew. As long as they were behaving,gave me information about their whereabouts and I could always call to checkin I was actually relaxed. We live in a very affluent town and kids are generally quite safe.