Curfew for 16 year old during summer

I suppose it depends but personally I think an 11ish curfew is fine. You’ll be a legal adult in about 18 months so it’s about having a sensible build-up and gradual widening of boundaries.

I think it depends on the circumstance and the trust relationship you have with your parents. At 16 my curfew was 11/12, but I lived where there was nothing to do so it wasn’t an issue. At 17 we moved to a country with a great nightlife and my parents were happy with 3am on weekends and holidays. However, I ALWAYS told them where I was going, who I was with, answered my phone and called when I said I would etc. I also didn’t drink or take drugs and they knew my friends really well. My advice is build a trusting relationship with your parents, don’t be tempted to lie, and the trust will come.

As someone who never stuck to my 9 p.m. curfew when I was 16 and was out at all hours miles away, I would say your parents are being reasonable. My children both had to be in at 9 when they were 16. The world isn’t the same as it was when I was a teenager. 1-2am is ridiculous. I would see that as their parents not giving a stuff what their children are up to.

It’s too strict. My children are around 20 now, but I can’t see the point why another 30 minutes matter so much to them. It’s summer holidays. You should be able to be out and make memories with friends. It seems they are up at that time anyway, and the bus stops right outside your house. It would be different if you weren’t at someones house I think.

To me it’s a give and take with my children, they stayed out of trouble etc so I had no reason to be strict just because.

But get a decent powerbank.

When I was 16, I was working in a bank, paying board to my parents, and doing my own thing. Befor going out, I did some chores, such as washing up etc. they hated how late I came home but to me, if I’m old enough to go out to work 40 hours a week, I’m old enough to choose the times I some home and go to bed.

kids these days are not given the freedoms we had, due to how more aware we seem to be of kidnapping, mugging, spiked drinks etc..it’s a really difficult one, and each 16 should be judged on their own merit.

if I was your parents, I would come collect you at around 11.30/12 but again it’s all individual.

I’m sorry to say I find it reasonable - as a mum of 3 now grown up sons it was difficult for me to go to bed without them being home, knowing that they were home, the door was locked and everyone was ‘in’ - meant there were no night time dramas.

On occasions I would let them
stay out later but then this involved me going to bed later or as did happen, being woken up with drama - middle son was known to throw up if he drank - eldest son didn’t have an indoor voice even at 2am … youngest son was out celebrating his 18th when a gang attacked his friends with tyre irons, he was the only one not in an ambulance to give a statement.

I wouldn’t want my 16 yo dd travelling alone on the bus late at night. The latest bus she has taken from town with a friend is around 9.30. But that’s been in town rather than at someone’s house and she then has a little bit of a walk. I really don’t understand why your parents aren’t ok for your boyfriend to go on the 11pm bus with you. I’d be trying to negotiate that along with getting a portable charger.

Having watched Euphoria, I'd want you in at 10.30.

Once you hit 18 you'd be able to get whatever bus you wanted.

My 16 yo doesn't have a set curfew, it depends where she is, who she's with and what she's doing. If she's at a friend's then it can be later, if they're hanging out in a field then I want her home.
To get your curfew later, prove your are responsible, show that your friends are responsible and hopefully your parents will respond accordingly.

I think that getting the 11 pm bus once a week during the summer holidays is fair enough, maybe on a Friday or Saturday, but going back to the old arrangement once school starts again.

My son is 16 and doesn’t have a set curfew. It depends where he’s going, who he’s with etc. Do your parents never come and pick you up? It seems unfair that they’ve said 10.30 when the bus times don’t match up with that

I think its a reasonable curfew. If it upsets yoh so much, get a job and pay for alternative transport so not relying on the bus

I used to collect my sons at this time. It wasn't worth the worry.

Your legally an adult. Do what you want

Depends where you are, where you live and what you’re doing!
At a friend’s then I think 11 is fine. Late night cinema, fine. Hanging out with a group on the streets/at the park until 11 is too late. The bus at 11pm coincides with pub kicking out time. I’d not be happy with my 16 year old son travelling alone at that time, not because of him but because of the potential actions of others. I actually think I’d collect him, even at a friend’s to be honest.

Your parents are not likely to be able to fall asleep til you're in safe. So current curfew sounds reasonable. However I'd still hope they'd do an occasional later curfew for special occasions only

16 is to close to 15 for me to have agreed to a one am curfew right of the bat but by 17, the arguments for being as strict as my near jerk reaction would have been, were less defensible.

Hang in on there. At your age everything's a privilege and not a right in your parents eyes. We’ve all been there.

@oliwiagrzeda can't you do sleepovers, then you can natter all night.

DD 17 didn’t and doesn’t have a curfew but that circumstance arose out of a number of situations. She cycles everywhere and isn’t dependent on public transport, we live in The Hague, she rarely stays out, when she works late she finishes at 12 am, she’s sensible and her behaviour has never given any cause for concern, she texts when she’s on her way home, has find my on (I only remember to check if she isn’t home when expected) etc.

It’s not a case of 16 years old + summertime = 12 am. The variables matter, the type of parent and parenting style is probably are even more influential factors. DD is going to Madrid for five days to see Metallica next week and I know some parents think I’m mad for encouraging/ allowing it. Then again, I went on a gap year to Europe and SE Asia just before my 18th, which probably explains my ‘laissez-faire’ parenting style’.

Jakers, did you ever have children and pass down those rules of 8pm.

My mother strict Catholic, wait till you're married to have sex wasn't that strict at 18 @RachTheAlpaca

More importantly what are you doing that you need to stay out so late? Shouldnt need a curfew but staying safe and being responsible is your area not needing to have to obey an order. Its your home not a prison. Think about it from another perspective.

I'd suggest the following:

1. Buy a portable charger

1. Suggest to your parents that you come home at your curfew time if they pick you up, OR if you're getting a bus, they allow you to get the 11pm one, OR your boyfriend gets the 11pm bus with you. Suggest the options in that order and see if they'll go for any of them.

In Scotland you could be married at 16
but then you wouldn’t be living of your parents
they coulmake it the later bus return though the holidays

The 11pm bus sounds fine and I’d like to know what your parents reasoning is for not letting you. You’re 16, not 12. I had parents who were strict and didn’t let me do what my friends did. I just started lying to them.

In that case, I’d insist on 10 for midweek visits but the later bus for special events.