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I was probably BU but how much? Parking

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AITAH10 · 02/07/2024 21:53

Dad recently diagnosed with bladder cancer and had a lot of hospital appointments and there's not enough parking and a lot of people are rude.

I go into the car park 0 spaces available. The ward my dad needed is close to the opening and he needs a wheelchair to get around.

I see somebody putting a wheelchair in the boot and ask if they're leaving and they say yes. So I think OK I'll wait.i then look and there's a youngish woman going the wrong way around the car park coming into an area which is not on the one way system and once you drive past it youre not allowed back to that part of the car park blocking people.

As I say there's been a log of appointments recently not just with my dad but other family members and I've had disabled spaces stolen a fee times and yes I was inwardly annoyed when it happened.

I thought I would just do it myself this time. So yes IW probably BU but I try to signal my dad is in a wheelchair and his wards right there.

She gets out the car visibly annoyed and starts shouting how I'm out of order I knew I she was waiting she's just dropped off her 83 year old father who's in a wheelchair with a broken spine.

I should add the car park has an alternative entrance for blue badge users to get access to the disabled bays but it's the other side of the car park. She keeps saying she and her dad have a blue badge and seemingly with her pointing in thar direction that seems where she supposedly dropped him off.

I was talking calm and yes was feeling a bit guilty because as I say it's happened to me before and I was annoyed and also people were tooting their horn so the most i said was well you're causing the queue as you're in the way and I can't get anywhere.

She gets in her car moves a bit and there was a space literally next to her like the other side of the road type of situation that close. So I park in there and I'm actually parked and got the wheelchair out before she has parked.

And hear her shouting to others how I'm a fucking arsehole etc. So I say to her that there was a space right there ( which was part of the car park one way system they had access to unlike the space they wanted.) And that I was nothing but polite to her and didn't swear or raise my voice and I didn't appreciate being called an arsehole and she went on a little rant about the car parking space and I shouldn't act like one next time then etc.

But then a younger man came walking toward her telling her he was telling her there was a space near the blue badge section and also the one I parked in and she said she didn't see him and that she was shaking. I saw no sign of an old man in a wheelchair.

OP posts:
WednesdayWeWearPink · 02/07/2024 22:03

I mean you openly admit you took someone
else’s parking space, so what do you want from this thread? Just because she shouted and called you names and you stayed calm, it doesn’t make you the better person.

AITAH10 · 02/07/2024 22:03

stressedespresso · 02/07/2024 21:57

Do you/your dad have a blue badge though OP?

Yes but we didn't go into the blue badge area and seemingly going by her story she dropped her DF off who was in a wheelchair with a blue badge in that area which means she never would have had access to the bit of the car park she wanted to park in

OP posts:
TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 02/07/2024 22:02

Sorry about your father’s diagnosis. I found the op difficult to follow but do you mean you used a disabled parking space without having a blue badge?

stressedespresso · 02/07/2024 21:57

Do you/your dad have a blue badge though OP?

stayathomer · 02/07/2024 21:57

Hospitals are very stressful places- she was probably just stressed, you were both unreasonable but both stressed so x