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To have asked nanny to take her shoes off

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Bluegreenyellowredorange · 02/07/2024 20:54

My husband and I decided to employ a nanny for our 2 DC ages 1 and 5. This will be the first time we've used a nanny.

We interviewed a lady on Saturday. She arrived just as we’d got home from a walk and as usual we all took our shoes off as we came in. She left hers on though and my husband asked her to take them off when she walked into the living room. I’ll be honest it was a little awkward as I think it took her by surprise. They are newish carpets so I can see where he is coming from but I probably wouldn’t have mentioned it myself. I guess most people don’t expect to take their shoes off in an interview (even though it’s a house and not an office?).

Anyway, the interview went well and she had plenty of experience and qualifications and I’ve tried to contact her (yesterday and today) to arrange a taster session but she hasn’t got back to me. It’s such a minor thing but I’m guessing it put her off. I can’t think of anything else.

Did we do something wrong?

OP posts:
Julyshouldbesunny · 02/07/2024 21:03

When I went for interview I was asked to remove my shoes for religious reasons. Never gave it another thought... Yanbu to keep a nice home.

HueyDueyandBluey · 02/07/2024 21:03

She's not the one for you if something that small put her off. You'll need to discuss far bigger and important things with her if she was looking after your kids. If she can't flex to shoes on day 1 she's an absolutely not.

Gardenschmarden99 · 02/07/2024 21:02

Mum2jenny · 02/07/2024 21:01

I would not visit a house if I had to remove my footwear. As for going for employment in a person’s house, I would not consider it.
People that tend to enforce such rules are people with other very alternative perceptions, obviously not everyone but I’d avoid like the plague….

Really? Everyone I know takes their shoes off when they come in. I think it’s the standard thing to do rather than some weird aberration.

JMSA · 02/07/2024 21:02

Funkyfizz · 02/07/2024 21:02

He shouldn't have asked her to remove her shoes for an interview. I wouldn't take the job if I was her.

Yes, you'd be wondering what else they're going to be odd and precious about.

Funkyfizz · 02/07/2024 21:02

He shouldn't have asked her to remove her shoes for an interview. I wouldn't take the job if I was her.

Mum2jenny · 02/07/2024 21:01

I would not visit a house if I had to remove my footwear. As for going for employment in a person’s house, I would not consider it.
People that tend to enforce such rules are people with other very alternative perceptions, obviously not everyone but I’d avoid like the plague….

Fiery30 · 02/07/2024 20:58

Surely she is not going to get 'offended' and refuse a good job because you asked her to take her shoes off? That would be quite silly. I don't allow anyone to come into my house with shoes either.

Posithor · 02/07/2024 20:56

Nope take your shoes off when you come in my house, I can just about cope on the washable hall and dining room floor but I'm not having your shoes on my carpet!

JMSA · 02/07/2024 20:55

I wouldn't have asked her to do this at the interview stage ConfusedBlush
Fair enough at the employment stage.