To be irritated by colleague constantly complimenting herself?

and mine would say “she is full of herself!”

I now what you mean...

It’s giving Amanda from Friends 🤣🤣

”Can you believe it? I’ve never had any professional dance training!”

I once worked with someone like this. Unfortunately, there was a short interim period when she was in charge of work distribution amongst three people including herself. She worked on three urgent pieces of work while my colleague and I didn’t get a look in. When challenged she said senior management had insisted because she was the one with the skills. They really hadn’t.

I don't thinking I'd mind it! Made me smile just reading it!

@Liripipe you'll love this then. Scroll to 24:23 when Monique bumps into Sharon on a cigarette break.

https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x8di9p9

Do you really think that someone saying “My exam is next week, I’m so academic and really good at exams” is what a genuinely confident person would say?

I can see why you find her irritating but from a distance, I find her fascinating!

My mum used to say 'self praise is no reccommendation'😅 maybe you tell her that 😀

"Unfortunately, some women are willing to do anything for a little bit of attention and the chance to feel good about themselves at someone else’s expense, even for a single fleeting moment."

Sounds exactly like the person being described in the OP

I had a friend like this. Her cakes are the best in the county, her new potatoes are the best she’s ever tasted, she’s a brilliant driver, she’s amazing at training her dog. On and on and on ad nauseum. It drove me nuts and I was glad to put a couple of hundred miles between us.

No, she is citing a racist trope.
Hth

sounds like my ex husband!

he told me loads of women were after him. And went on about how wonderful he was. How people were jealous of him for being good at football (he’s probably up to walking football now) how wonderful he was etc

it would be funny if it wasn’t so tragic

Next time she says how lovely her hair is, maybe ask her to show you how to do yours. Or if it's how good she is at X, you say, 'Oh how wonderful! Please show me!' and keep reminding her how keen you are to learn. Ask her for every trivial detail every time. And don't quite grasp it the first time she explains. 'Ooh, tell me again, I'm not as clever as you!'
It could develop into an entertaining pastime. You're not mocking her or being snide, you really want to know all those little secrets.

Oh dear god, she sounds like Donald Trump! You have my sympathies OP. That would drive me bonkers.

Honestly, I find it refreshing when women don't put themselves down. Then again, the few women I work with who admit to being good at something are more than good, they're brilliant. I also work with quite a few women who are constantly trying to improve but will give everything a go and learn from it. Those are the one who leave me (and my insecurities) with my mouth hanging open.

Maybe don’t make assumptions and get triggered.

I did read it, I don’t think calling someone’s new haircut ‘choppy’ is necessarily nasty, just a bit blunt and honest given OP thinks the same herself.

But you do you, hun.

Just looked up 'crabs in a bucket' - love it, and yes sums up what I felt on reading this thread. I think the mistake the 'boastful' person is just that they seem to be pushing other crabs back down further, when ideally they would be helping them also climb out of the bucket. By which I mean, the person complimenting themselves should also compliment others or at least not criticize them. But that's not to say anything against their being 'boastful' themselves.

The only thing worse than this is colleagues bragging about their kids. I’ve a colleague who is always talking about how clever her son is, how he is gifted at maths, how he always gets over 80 percent in tests , how her other son is definitely going to do veterinary or medicine because he is so academically brilliant it would be no challenge. It bores me to tears listening to it .

Try saying:
Did your trumpeter die, dear?

@foreverstardust Self praise is no praise.

Yes, this is what makes it so jarring. There’s a world of difference between not putting yourself down/being confident and just, apropos of nothing, boasting.

it’s usually insecurity or no one praising them/having praised them so they do it themselves. Have two at work, one make and one female, both quite awkward characters who are in my opinion deeply insecure.

This really made me laugh. I’ve just finished a day of work where I had to constantly bite my tongue at a mediocre white male colleague who basically told me in about five different ways how good at his job he is. When based on what I actually know by working alongside him - he’s mediocre at best.

I think ‘show don’t tell’ is generally a much more classy approach.

She is nasty about other people.

Maybe read the thread

Just tilt your head slightly in a rather condescending manner and repeat back what she says as you would to a child.
“You’re brilliant at answering the phone? That’s lovely”.