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To make new neighbours think we are the neighbours from hell.

147 replies

ASBONEIGHBOURS · 02/07/2024 19:38

The house behind us has been vacant for about 18 months. We got notification that it had been sold and planning permission had been given for a massive extension which will bring a 2 storey extension to within a few meters of our rear fence.

We put in every complaint and objection that we could but to no avail.

Their bedroom window will look directly into our full length patio door living area and give full view of our garden.

AIBU to behave so badly and encourage our children and pets to do the same that the builders will tell them we are crazy and they should rethink the position of their window !

Some early ideas - develop loud vocal tics when in the garden, some exhibitionism at the windows. Children to repeatedly kick balls over fence. Hang weird satanic Blair witch effigies from the tree and possibly some stuffed animals with fake blood.

Any other suggestions ? They have a small child apparently!

OP posts:
MMUmum · 03/07/2024 22:09

We have neighbours on all sides of our garden, we have all planted privacy screening trees and hedges, just enough to block the view to the windows not completely along the fence, so it doesn't block out all of the light. Plant some Leylandii but keep it well maintained

changeme4this · 03/07/2024 22:07

My suggestion is to buy the property if you want some sort of control and say over it.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/07/2024 22:02

OP why are you assuming your new neighbours will be unreasonable ? Just talk to them about your misgivings. You might be pleasantly surprised.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 03/07/2024 21:14

veryCrossMrFlibble · 02/07/2024 20:19

Just carry on! I'm sure they'll catch on quick and keep their curtains closed 🤣

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Or maybe not lol

Lyraloo · 03/07/2024 21:09

You’re insane!!!

HueyDueyandBluey · 03/07/2024 20:30

Builders are made of stern stuff and won't give a flying fuck. Your other neighbours might mind...it stinks but don't be a twat.

PetuniaT · 03/07/2024 20:28

What goes around, comes around. You will probably end up regretting it.

Duckingella · 03/07/2024 20:20

Check your local councils height of hedge laws.

I'm thinking a line of conifer trees are a great addition to the bottom of your garden,there many are conifers at least 20ft high in my local area so I reckon that'll obscure your neighbours view.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 03/07/2024 19:58

TheNoonBell · 02/07/2024 20:34

Do you know anything about the owners? A bit of recon might tell you what "type" of people they are and then how best to piss them off.

eg if they are vegans it might be time to be having a lot of steak on the barbie.

Edited

I’m veggie/vegan and couldn’t give a shit if my neighbours have a BBQ, seems weird to think that this would piss anyone off to be honest!

Blades2 · 03/07/2024 19:49

You do actually sound like a neighbour from hell tbh.

cointos · 03/07/2024 19:39

Plant a silver birch or 5. They'll get light in winter when you don't care and you'll get privacy and birds when you do.

SummerCycling · 03/07/2024 19:11

TinySaltLick · 02/07/2024 19:46

Buy 140 cockerals

😂

croydon15 · 03/07/2024 19:06

Your post made me smile, l know that it's not funny for you. l thought that it was illegal to build an extention with window overlooking your neighbours.
Definitely nude sunbathing although it can't be too often with british weather !

Buffs · 03/07/2024 18:42

I had a neighbour whose bedroom window looked straight into my living area. It didnot affect me at all. They will not be looking at you and what would you even be doing that would be so interesting?

ilovegranny · 03/07/2024 18:33

There are houses in the country surrounded by fields and woods, where no one can see you, hear your kids, or be annoyed by your pets. I suggest you buy one.

Justsaying22 · 03/07/2024 18:04

If you do all that crap then when the extension is actually built you’ll find them standing peering out of their window all the time, looking for the daily entertainment..

Jayne35 · 03/07/2024 17:48

I never really understand the issue with overlooking, I have neighbours surrounding my house and their bedroom windows can all see in to my garden and upstairs windows. It is what it is. I suppose if I had been lucky enough to not be overlooked I might not like it but have always lived on a council estate where the gardens are big but they are overlooked.

PardonSmardon · 03/07/2024 07:55

they may block your light if you’re an arse

PardonSmardon · 03/07/2024 07:54

how many meters from the fence?

any silly behaviour on your part highlights how bitter you are. Personally I’d take it to the ombudsman as you are doing and ignore the builders and neighbours completely.

sandgrown · 03/07/2024 06:27

@LordBummenbachsMagnificentBalls please could you tell me the name of the film you bought. I need something for our glass front door which faces next door . I hate the current curtain that blocks out light and can’t afford a new door . Thanks

Fraaahnces · 03/07/2024 01:10

Do they know about your DH’s Daoism? He needs to catch his rays, man!

https://youtube.com/shorts/1WTG0mSFKYw?si=0zMYH24lmLuitYhD

Twototwo15 · 03/07/2024 00:44

ASBONEIGHBOURS · 02/07/2024 19:48

Sadly any screening will block out the small but of sunlight we get in the mornings.

Can you train cats to poop in someone's garden ??

I don’t think you have to train cats to do that, they are more than likely already doing it.

BowlOfNoodles · 02/07/2024 23:43

Tell them you have swingers party's every month and that they are welcome to join ( somebody beat me to it ) but I'd avoid you for life lol

Renamed · 02/07/2024 23:28

Sounds like the gardens are quite large. Why not organise some lovely charity/ community events?
Small children’s choir (5 years and under)
People sponsored to sit in paddling pools of sludge
Teenage all night sponsored sleep out for the homeless
etc
Do good, secretly feel evil. Win win.

Direstraightsagain · 02/07/2024 23:23

Your better off starting to grow some nice trees now: (before they move in) buy some white mature silver birch and plant it directly where the window will over look you.