OK I'll probably be knocked down a peg, and I should step away from the Internet. But I'm 51, divorced. 4 children all vaginal births 1 good, 3 very awkward. I'm menopausal work full time in retail. Get shouted at on a daily basis. When I joined mumsnet I was seeking advice on recipes, budgeting or how to position my baby's sling. Noted I got really good advice about leaving my abusive ex. I just feel mumsnet is not the place it was. Maybe a sign of the times and change I am getting old.