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To be terrified of the new neighbours

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Bringautumnnights · 02/07/2024 15:28

We've had dreadful luck with the past 2 sets of neighbours.

First set were fine until mom/dad's relationship broke down and the both left their 5 kids (11-17) alone in the house, who promptly destroyed it, and had such large parties every night and so much anti social behaviour. These eventually got evicted as the tenants (parents) left.

Second set were even worse - the house and garden were a state (rats etc), constant loud music, parties, swearing, drinking, drugs, spitting on the front and back garden. These recently left due to owning some nasty men £50k+.

These neighbours made me so poorly, to the point despite moving out 6 months ago I have panic attacks if I see them in town. The peak noise occurred whilst my newborn was in and out of hospital, and when I have these panic attacks I panic and have flashbacks of my baby being rushed to hospital in ambulances etc.

I saw the housing maintenance outside this morning doing final touches before the next neighbours move in. I'm so terrified what the next set of neighbours will be like, what if they're as bad? I'm getting panic attacks back.

I had to move to my parents during peak summer last year as my anxiety at home was awful, I'm still twitchy at home now. I don't think I can cope with awful neighbours again.

I'm currently pregnant so stuck here for a few years, but planning to move to a nicer area when weve saved enough (so dont want to complain about neighbours and cause a dispute). I know rationally what's the chances of 3 sets of bad neighbours - but we've had 2 sets, so I keep thinking the 3rd will be as bad.

Cbt hasn't really helped, and I can't take anxiety meds atm. How do I cope with this? Please reassure me if I'm being unreasonable!!

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Bringautumnnights · 02/07/2024 15:40

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Partner is so laid back they don't see the point in worrying, we can't control it, so why worry.

Oh I'm envious of his ability to not care 😅

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Bringautumnnights · 02/07/2024 15:39

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No, not many times. I posted once asking about advice of how to sell a house with a dispute, thankfully we don't need to anymore.

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usernother · 02/07/2024 15:30

I can't vote because on the app but you are definitely not being unreasonable and I feel really sorry for you

loriginale · 02/07/2024 15:29

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