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To find it so wearisome constantly being called the wrong name

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fallingovercracks · 02/07/2024 15:21

I should be used to it by now and mostly am … but wrote my name down at a toddler group and was called the wrong name, just had a woman on the phone calling me the wrong name.

I know people will say to correct them but it makes no difference, they just keep calling you the wrong name. I know it’s my issue but it does get so annoying!

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Itstherichthatgetthepleasureasusual · 02/07/2024 15:33

Oh I sympathise with you.

I much prefer to be called by the shortened form of my name. I hate my full name.I always tell people the shortened form when I meet them but so many just call me by my full name. It was a cause of real friction and upset with my own family who insisted on calling me by my full name.

In my opinion not calling someone by the name they have indicated they want to be known as or getting the name wrong is a matter of disrespect. It is as though people who can't even get your name right are telling you that you are not important enough for them to be bothered.

WetBandits · 02/07/2024 15:30

It’s really annoying! I had my name on a badge on placement when I was a student nurse (it’s a short, very common name!) and my mentor called me something completely different for 12 weeks. I corrected her each time, then moved to ignoring her when she still got it wrong, and she still called me Emily. Every day. Awful placement that was 😂

namechanging24 · 02/07/2024 15:30

@loriginale customers, doctors, hospital appointments

I'm standing in front of them obvious female and get "Daniel?"
And I say "no, Danielle" and either get
Shitty look
"Oh sorry Daniel" it's fucking DANIELLE"

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fallingovercracks · 02/07/2024 15:29

It is quite unusual but it is a Shannon / Sharon thing. Very frustrating.

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loriginale · 02/07/2024 15:28

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BleachedJumper · 02/07/2024 15:28

Is it an unusual name/different culturally so people aren’t familiar?

or a situation where your name is Shannon but people call you Sharon?

haveatye · 02/07/2024 15:28

I mean, my name is quite easily confused for another name. I just correct people.

My bigger problem is men with monosyllabic names. I can never remember who is Tom/Mark/Ben/Chris/Mat/James/Dom/Luke etc. like being with the apostles

namechanging24 · 02/07/2024 15:26

Same, I keep correcting people and they keep repeating back the wrong name
Even written down, people get it wrong
I'm so close to changing my name and it's not even a hard one, there's just a masculine and feminine version of it
And I'm a woman Sad

WishfulThunking · 02/07/2024 15:26

My name is a common one but it’s spelt wrong by almost everyone I know - drives me bananas but what can I do? 🤷‍♀️

DaisyChain505 · 02/07/2024 15:25

Ok you know that we’re going to need to know what your name is…..

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fallingovercracks · 02/07/2024 15:24

No of course people aren’t being mean but it does get you down after many decades of it!

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haveatye · 02/07/2024 15:22

Is your name very unusual or similar to other names?

I'm sure people aren't doing it to be mean.